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writes:My girlfriend, Megan and I broke up two months ago, we made up a month later. We've known one another and dated for almost three years. Two of those three years we lived together. How would I know if I do really love Megan and if she is the one I like to spend the rest of my life with?To top it all, I liked Nadine who was married. I was hopelessly attracted to her. I kinda got vibes at times that she fancied me too. I did not reveal anything to her nor did I want to interrupt her married life. I moved out of town, Megan (who I am not sure about) moved with me. Nadine recently told me that she is going through a divorce and moving on her own. I find that I want to approach Nadine and be with her, I feel that she could be my soul mate. Nadine knows that I am with Megan. I feel that if I tell Nadine how I feel about her, she will respond untruly as knowing the kinda person she is, she would not want to feel that she is breaking Megan and I up. What do I do?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (14 August 2007):
 The fact that you broke up with Megan is a red flag.
Nadine may just use you as a rebound guy.
I suggest the following:
Do not live with either girl. Move out on your own, or with roommates.
Next, I think you should date both women at the same time, with no promise of being exclusive for a few months, UNTIL one of the proves, beyond a shadow of a doubt that she is the one for you. Any doubt, and keep dating both...or more.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, accused  +, writes (14 August 2007):
 The last thing you would want to do is hurt "Megan". I am assuming that she is a wonderful woman? The other woman "Nadine" she is going thru a divorce, right? So how do you know that she is ready for another relationship? I mean I've went thru a divorce and I know I was just ready to be by myself. The one thing that I am sure of is this, If two people are meant to be together then it will happen! Personally I think you should think things out long and hard before you make a choice... THE GRASS MAYBE GREENIER ON THE OTHER SIDE, BUT IT STILL HAS TO BE MOWED!..BEST OF LUCK
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (14 August 2007):
 Hi
I would get out of things with Megan. It sounds like the love has gone by the way side & its time to move on.
THEN, chat to Nadine. Its good that you both didnt want to betray the people you were with. That would be just plain nasty & unnessasary. I got the feeling (ok probably reading between the lines) that Nadine was on the scene while you was with Megan in the past?
Hope you manage to work it out.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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