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writes:The other night me and my guy for about 2 yrs had unprotected sex and he always use to want to use protection because he said he didnt want to have another kid right now. Now he is saying if it happens it happens we will deal with it. What should I think. Should I think that he might want a kid or that he doesnt want a kid. I dont know what to think he is confusing me about stuff he is saying. What should I think or do about it?
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (28 July 2007):
 I doubt he wants a kid. He probably just likes skin on skin sensation. The fact he is being so casual about it, he sounds like he is going to dump you and claim it is not his if you ever get pregnat. Want to know if a guy is serious about you? He marries you first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): I think your boyfriend is being selfish, he wants to have sex first and foremost without protection because it feels better, for him and for you too....to say we will deal with it, is showing disregard for you, and lack of respect.
To make a child the pawn of two young people making bad choices is unfair to the child if born out of wedlock.
I think you should get on the pill if you are going to continue to have unprotected sex, and I think you should have a talk with your boyfriend about his lack of care for you.
The decision to have a child should not be made in the bedroom in the heat of the moment when he does not feel like wearing a condom for goodness sake!
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Maybe that is his way of saying that he wants to have a baby, but i think you need to talk to him and find out for sure.
At the end of the day this is your body and you are going to have to carry the baby, and him just turning around and saying 'we will deal with it' i don't think is very reassuring.
I really think you should discuss it with him and try to find out abit more what he see's for the future when it comes to the two of you before you make any decisions on giving up contraception.
Take care.xx.
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reader, rockelle +, writes (27 July 2007):
 Well, just b/c he does not want to use protection does not mean that he wants to have a kid. To be honest with do you want a kid??????? Not to mention that there are bigger issues than kids when it comes to sex. You guys should take a trip to a doctor or clinic b4 u start taking off condoms to make sure you both are safe. He already has a kid do you want to be another "babymamma" I hope not. Forget about what he wants, what do you want? You are young you have plenty of time for kids. Have fun right now.
Safe Fun...
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (27 July 2007):
 It seems likely that he might want to have another kid. It sounds from your post that he already has at least one so probably he knows what he is doing and is obviously willing to take a chance here.
First thing though, and most important, what do YOU want. Do you want to have a kid now? What does your life situation look like? Are you ready to raise a child yet?
No matter whether the answer to this question is yes or no, you must talk more to him about this; it is far too serious to do any mind reading here at all.
Wish you luck.
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reader, shivon1705 +, writes (27 July 2007):
 you should talk to him ask him about it theres no point guessing you could be wrong, you need to ask him what he means by it and if he wants a baby with you now
keep us posted
goodluck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): im kinda going through the same thing..ive been with my boyfriend for 2 months and hes 21 and im just 18 and the first 2 times we did it he used one but ever sence then he said i guess we will see if your birth contol works and if not shit happens...I mean i wouldnt mind having a baby with him but im kinda thinking he wants one cause it seems like he dont care if i get prego...but ide say that your man dont care either but talk to him if its bugging you..Hope this helped!
Jaime Lynn
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