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writes:i am going to be starting a new school this fall. I find it really hard to make new friends b/c i'm shy, very quiet,and don't know what to say. I even run out of questions to ask. I am worried that i may be a target for bullying, and being made fun of. i am scared. What should i do to prevent this from happening?
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reader, -Colour-Me-Sober-  +, writes (11 August 2007):
 You can't really stop people from bullying. The people who bully are usually the stupid snuck up 'pretty' people who think they are better than you.Just try and make friends and they should stick up for you in school if you do get bullied and just have fun! Don't let the bullies get to you. And don't worry, most people get bullied when they start secondary school, just ignore them and be the better person.Good Luck = ]
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reader, legacy +, writes (11 August 2007):
Hi, sorry you are feeling this way. Look I taught martial arts classes for many years and got into it because of insecurity and bullying issues. I think it all boils down to this; if you think like a victim then you will become one. Don't get an attitude because someone is going to challenge you, just be yourself but start working on a new self. Someone who is not afraid or better, someone who can acknowledge their fears and deal with them not hide from them. So make a decision, do you want to feel like this all your life? If no then look inside yourself and find out what's lacking and start changing. If you think you need to learn how to defend yourself then find some way to learn. The quickest way is just get into fights every day but that has shall we say, severe consequences! Martial arts will help but it still has to come from within and that's why I don't believe learning how to defend yourself is the core of the problem. Learn to love yourself and get into some positive things in your life. Martial arts is not about learning to just beat people up, rather it's about learning to not beat people up and living life fully. Does that make any sense? Concentrate like these people say on making friends, not on being afraid of them and enjoy life.
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reader, Je2157 +, writes (11 August 2007):
Hey, There is nothing to worry about. Starting school is very scary and I remember that first day, but everyone is in the same boat and you will make friends. It doesnt matter that you are shy at all, that is who you are and people will accept that. Seriously dont worry, you will always get the loud ones in class but they are the ones that generally end up not getting very far after school. All the bestJe2157 x
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (11 August 2007):
 If you are worried about being a target of bullying, the only way to fight back is to learn to fight. Find a self-defense or martial arts school, and start taking as many classes as possible before school, and continue to take classes as the year progresses.
It will give you something to talk about, help you with yout shyness, and IF bullying is a problem for you, it will not be anymore.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): You've been a target in your past, haven't you? If so, your fears are perfectly understandable and I am sorry you have had to endure this. No one should..all people deserve to be respected. Here is a link to a website that can give you a lot of information on "Bullying' It has some wonderful information. Check it out, dear. Ge strong and Good luck.
http://stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/index.asp?area=areyou
Take care, Irishxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2007): Hey
Just because you are shy and quiet it doesn't necessarily mean you are going to be bullied. My advice is to just be yourself. Try and make an effort at the first few weeks to make conversation as you never know what friends you might make! Just having the courage to say hi to someone could mean you having a life-long friend that you wouldn't have had if you didn't say anything.
To be honest I wouldn't even think about bulling unless it actually happens to you. Instead, concentrate on all the good fun times you're going to have!
You're going to meet so many new people and make new friendships, it's exciting stuff really! Put the bullying to the back of your mind and don't let it ruin your experience. There is nothing wrong with being shy and quiet. All the best OK! :)
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