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female
age
36-40,
*ickedlette
writes:My boyfriend and I have a great sex life, but if I run to the store or take a shower he goes and plays with himself. He works 3rd shift and gets home, talks to me for a few minutes and goes to bed. He goes and plays with himself then too. He pretty much does it every time I leave the room. Am I not satisfying him?
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (2 December 2009):
 The availability of pornography is unlimited now, duh, and it can have a tremendous influence on anyone, male or female, who indulges. It can fill a single person's lonely times, but does little good to a relationship. Some degree of masturbation is perfectly normal throughout life, but when it begins to supplant sexual relations with a partner, it has reached unhealthy proportions.
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reader, KANDIWRPR +, writes (2 December 2009):
 tell him how you feelmayb you can try to get him into the moodjust play flirty
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (1 December 2009):
 Hopefully I am not misattributing my information here. I believe it was in Dr. Alex Comfort's book.
He said that masturbation is different than sexual intercourse and also different from oral or manual sex with another person. Being satisfied with one kind of sex will not necessarily sate your appetite for the others. In other words he could be very much in love with you and completely satisfied with your sexual relationship, but still miss a visit with rosy palm.
The problem with that is that it is making you feel insecure and jealous. He needs to be more sensitive to that. Communication is the first step. You need to tell him how you feel without accusing him. Then you two need to work out an arrangement that you can both live with. He is not going to be able to quit "cold turkey". He should be willing to limit himself to times acceptable to you.
Good luck
FA
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