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writes:Hello,I am 18 years old and I am a virgin I have a boyfriend who is 24 years old and we have only been going out for a while I do want to end up having sex with him but I am kind of scared but also at the same time I don't know how long we should wait till we actually do that like 6 months, a year? I don't know I just really don't want him to think I am easy or anything like that. and I mean I am not one of those types that needs to be married to have sex but I do kind of want to wait a while but my question is how long do you wait till you can actually go ahead and sleep with them?I have never done anything close to even having sex so I wouldn't know when the time is right I know they say "You'll know when the time is right" but truth is I don't really know. and to answer your question we have been going out about a month almost 2 months. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2009):
If you dated someone closer to your own age then you would not be facing pressure to sexually compete with 24yo girls. Those girls have already been 18 or older the whole time since you were 12.
If you move faster with this guy than you would be moving with an 18yo guy, then the bottom line is that you are feeling pressured into things and you will eventually regret it. He doesn't have to pressure you intentionally just to cause you pressure.
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reader, lazyman87  +, writes (3 December 2009):
i'd wait until you truly love and trust each other. it's the only way i'd say you won't necessarily get hurt.
the tricky part is his age. if he's a bit of a player, i wouldn't touch him if i were you. if he's seriously into you then, and only then imho, can you think about it.
don't feel pressured, don't feel like you have to do it just because you've been together a while.
do it only when you love him and you know he's not out to take your virginity.
best of luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): Well, it all depends on you And him, if you want to have sex now, than go 4 it, just because you want to do it know, and not wait, does not make you easy, and waiting doesnt make you a prude, so in simple terms, if you want it, do it.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (3 December 2009):
 Four to six months.
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reader, Sadnat  +, writes (3 December 2009):
 To give that part of ones self to someone you have to fully trust that person, youneed to be sure that you love him and and he truely loves you. sex is so personal that if you do it just cause you can it wont be special your first time.what does he say about it? dont let him presure you. its your choice and if he loves you he will wait. dont think too much about it cause although its a cliche, you will know when its the right time, if you are unsure then its not the right time. you must know that if you give up this part of yoursef to him, that nomatter WHAT happens you wont regret that it was with him. i wish i had saved myself for my current boyfriend but a person doesnt know what the future holds so i dont regret it cause although we broke up, i loved him dearly at the time and thats what counts.
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reader, Jumpy +, writes (3 December 2009):
uhmmm is he a virgin? how many girls has he done it with? is he a playa? Eventho i don't know anything about him, i get the feeling he's just after your virginity. Don't give in so easily, remember this, the one you like/love the most can hunt you the most.
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