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writes:Some time ago my girlfriend (of a couple years) and I were making out on the couch. For the first time she put her hands down my pants and started giving me a hand job. I must say that it felt really good. In fact, perhaps too good because I ended up ejaculating. Anyways, she was a little grossed out by the situation. Although she still gives me brief hand jobs, I think she is afraid that I will ejaculate again so she doesn't do it for long. I am in a bit of a difficult situation because I really like the hand jobs, but I would like them better if I could go until I ejaculated to feel an orgasm, but this seems to gross her out. Alternatively, when I finger her, it is not like she ejaculates or anything, so she gets the whole deal (orgasm and all). Any suggestions?
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reader, katt11  +, writes (7 December 2009):
i agrree that if she is grossed out then get a more sexually mature gf, however, it could just be the fact that she knows as soon as you cum, you will no longer want to do anything sexual, and she just wants it to last longer.just make sure yuo talk to her and try and get her to finsh you off good luck
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (7 December 2009):
 Your love making is great, or it is as it should be. An ideal.I have few suggestion to make your love making still greater, with the hope that by following my tips you will achieve 'greatest!'1. If you both like hand job...I am not saying that hand job is only best option, but it is your choice and it can be best.2. Just remember that ejaculation is not orgasm, but it is switch off state in love play. There is something like premature ejaculation, it is matter of identifying the nature of action and nature of quality.3. Female do not go for ejaculation. Male ejaculation is not welcome from the stand point of female. Female do not ejaculate as is male. Female's wetness in vagina is not ejaculation. Form of female pleasure is not ended with ejaculation, she is capable of enjoying sex pleasure for longer to longest time, even when male's pleasure ended with his ejaculation.3 Just confirm above narrated fact from mere observation, and not by asking, because answer can be subjective.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): She's selfish, I think. If she won't allow you to orgasm then why should you make her cum.
Try starting stimulating her then stopping before she can orgasm. She'll see how frustating it is.
She's immature.Ejaculating is normal and not disgusting at all.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (6 December 2009):
I agree, she's a bit sexually immature if you ejaculating grosses her out. You can talk to her about it, but you're just about always going to ejaculate when you two do anything sexual, so what does she do or expect? So talk to her about it or eventually get someone sexually mature.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2009): yep I co-sign satindesire response get a more sexually mature girlfriend, thats what happens when you're fully sexually stimulated, you cum! what does she think happens!
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (6 December 2009):
 There is nothing I can say to discourage you from wanting hand jobs from your girlfriend, nor would I want to. But you can't make her like doing it and both of you are still very young. This is simply a matter of maturity, which she lacks. So do you. So, take it as it comes at this stage. If you really love, or at least like her, you may simply have to wait. No hurry. It only becomes a hurry when you reach my age and the fuse is about to burn out.
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reader, milliemoo1 +, writes (6 December 2009):
 Talk to her about it! There are ways around it if she really can't cope for an example a "posh wank" aka wanking with a condom on so its a bit cleaner and she will not have to deal with the mess!Do you have sex? How dose she cope with it then?
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