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writes:hi, i am in serious dilemma weather my boyfriend does really love me or not ..i met with him last year through chat room and slowly as days passes on, we became a very good freinds first ...we use to share everything and he use to call me every day taking out time from his busy schedule and then he proposed me..and i too liked him and fell in love with him and accepted his proposal .he is from good family he claims that he never been into any relationship before and slowly he started being romantic with me i mean on phone all that personal talks etc.. he says he want me to marry me after my graduation.. but now when we are into a relationship he doesnt call me daily even though i keep saying him to call me daily atleast for a min ...he only call me once in a week thatto on weekend .and talks so long and ask me to talk dirty with him..and keep saying that he want to have sex with me and keep asking abt my personals and even asked me to show my boobs and requested me a lot but all this is sensing me awkward ..i am not able to judge weather he truly does love me ..please help me out i need serioud advice.thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): To me it seems he is not even 1%serious about you.If he had told to you that he wants you to talk dirty and not for relationship you would not have accepted him.That's the reason I think he is been to you till you accepted him.
If you are in serious relationship that too long distance , I bet it cannot last without talking daily.I would advice you to stay away from him.Try to find out if he is really a good person.Try to create another Id under some other name and get into same chat room and try to start conversation with him as a different girl. I am sure that he will be talking to many more girls at the same time and hence you have your sunday slot.
If you really trust him and find my comments stupid, try communicating your feeling to him.
All the best!
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reader, dianamd +, writes (3 December 2009):
dianamd is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni truly love him ..and always keep saying him to call me daily jst to say how is he and to concern me weather how i am doing ...when i complain him abt this he ll call me for one week then again he ll repeat the same. saying that he is too busy wth his job ..neither he ll recv my calls ..i seriously don't understand is this is the sign of dull relationship or good relationship .i am jst blank
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009): Never been in a relationship before could be he doesn't know how to proceed. For many, you start to become intimate when you are in a relationship. If you don't like the sexual aspect of things, figure out why. Don't you like him sexually? Are you just against the whole webcam/pic thing, and would only get naked for him in person? Are you not attracted to him enough to want to be intimate with him? Do you want to wait until marriage before you get intimate?
You can never know if someone TRULY loves you. You can only trust that what they say is true, and that they know themselves enough to know what is true love and what is not. Do you truly love him? This is only my belief, but I believe when you love someone truly, they love you back, because that is what makes the love grow.
And as a last comment: when he wants to be intimate with you, see you naked, you can ask to see him too.
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reader, dianamd +, writes (3 December 2009):
dianamd is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for alot to u guys for an advice
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (3 December 2009):
 You can test the value of this man by becoming the pursued rather than the pursuer. In other words, back off and let him prove himself. He may not be the one.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (3 December 2009):
Well done for questioning his behaviour. Sounds to me like yoou need to talk to him and tell him that you're not a sex toy, but you're his girlfriend. Make him treat you like a girlfriend and tell until he does respect you, there cannot be any marriage. It sounds to me like now he's marrying you, he thinks he can use you as he sees fit. Be firm. you're a lady, not a toy.
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