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writes:I've just met a great guy and we've been on one date so far. He left town for work reasons the next day and has been gone for about two weeks. In that time we've sent texts each day and he's called me a few times, and we've been on the phone for hours each time. He's coming back soon and has asked to see me. On our first date I told him where my boundaries are and that I want to get to know someone before anything else happens. He understood that and through his texts and phone calls I can tell he's got good intentions.So now, I sent him a text and got a little flirty, I was just in the moment. I didn't say anything specific or graphic, just a little flirting. He flirted back and said that I should be careful what I ask for (implying that it's too early to get carried away like that).Anyway, I really like this guy and I don't ever send flirty texts or anything like that. I know that I haven't 'ruined' anything with him but I want to know where to draw the line with flirting and being suggestive with someone new.I don't want to come across as easy but I also don't want to appear like I only want to be friends? What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSquares, I loved this line "Have fun, don't go over your boundaries, and don't worry what he thinks :). He'd better learn to like you now, or else it'll be difficult for both of you later"
This is so true, thanks for the advice. And no I would never send something inappropriate :)
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reader, beachbabe  +, writes (19 August 2009):
 be classy, flirt once in awhile =]
You want to keep him interested.
Also, dont give away your cookies till your actually offically dating..keep him interested ;)
Don't give him the prize , he have to earn it.
Good luck,
xo
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (19 August 2009):
 Go with the flow. You were not brushing him off, but simply stating the fact that you wanted to know him better, and your flirting has just sent the message that you're getting to like what you find in him. No need to go any further; just go with the flow.
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reader, squares  +, writes (19 August 2009):
That is a fine line that you really have to feel around. Obviously don't go for the "God I'm horny" texts. Flirty usually consists of something interesting you've learned that day or something with a double meaning. Just play along and create some funny ideas. Sometimes the sillier the better. Have fun, don't go over your boundaries, and don't worry what he thinks :). He'd better learn to like you now, or else it'll be difficult for both of you later
Good luck!
Squares
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