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writes:HiBefore me and my bofriend got together 3 years ago, he watched a lot of porn. Now i can't help but compare my body against a porn star. Also i don't know whether my boyfriend is still watching porn. I was once at his house and his mum asked him whether he had been watching porn as the T.V had been left on the fantasy channel from the night before. And i have been there while his mum asked him whether he wanted a porn mag which had come with the papers. Obv this made me feel awful. But i can't help think that his mum must know that he looks at porn to offer him the mag? Any thoughts?Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): When did the newspapers start carrying porn supplements?
Seriously, I wouldn't worry. You're not in a beauty contest with these porn stars, and you almost certainly have a nicer life than they do. If the relationship is otherwise OK, there's no point worrying about his porn consumption, unless he's an absolute porn-monger who spends half his waking life watching it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): His mom probably does have an idea that he is into porn. I think that a lot of guys are, so she probably didn't see it as a big deal to offer him the magazine.
I take it your boyfriend doesn't know how you feel? Maybe it might help if you explained to him how insecure you feel about your body when you compare yourself to porn stars. I'm sure he will be quick to reassure you that it is you he wants, and not some porn star. His mom ofering him the magazine was probably a bit insensitive, but like I said, if they don't know how you feel, they probably don't think anything of it.
So you could try telling him how you feel. But try not to worry, your boyfriend wants YOU! x
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (3 August 2009):
 Rather than concentrating on the porn, the issue is that this guys mum does not like you. That is painfully obvious. she gives him mags because its her way of telling her son that she does not want him dating YOU!But I am going to go out on a limb here and say it probably is and will always be that way with him and his mom. Apparently no female will ever be good enough in her eyes for her little boy.It would make a great movie on Lifetime Network, but in actual practice it is effen creepy, and it must make you feel very horrid.Let the cornhole banjo family stay together. I think you need to hitch the first ride you can out of "Dysfucntion Junction". Other wise I suspect you will wake up one morning next to your BF nursing his mom...sorry but that is way too weird. Are you sure they aren't from Kentucky?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (3 August 2009):
 It seems he is still looking at porn, and it seems he has the idea that this is acceptable for women, since his own mother provides him with the magazines.
I would say he loves you and finds you attractive, since he's been with you for three years. But I can understand that you feel less than appreciated and feel that you can't compare with those girls.
Don't fall in the trap of thinking that a woman's value lies only in his body. Yes, we men give a lot of value to physical appearance, but that is not all that matters, and, in the end, not what matters the most. You are who you are, and you're worthy of love. And your man lusts after you, no matter how you're built. That is what matters.
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