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writes:I am a 31 year old mother of 3 young children. I met a 23 year old single guy at my work and started dating him 6 months ago even though I am still married. I was having issues with my marriage, I'm just not in love with my husband anymore, who by the way is the father of all 3 of my children. My husband reluctanly moved out even though he wanted to work on our marriage. I have filed papers to get a divorce recently. This new guy and I get along great, he loves me and my kids. I love him too. He is in college, has never been married and has no children. My question is, does this relationship have a chance to last forever?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): yes I do think!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 August 2009):
 I agree that no one can tell what is going to happen in the future. He might stay happily with you, or not; you have to take those chances. There are no guarantees in life, and you can't know whether something will last "forever" in advance.
I do understand that you don't want to jump from one man to another. You want a serious thing. And that is OK, but we can't give you any guarantees.
That said, I'm slightly pessimistic about this. He's so young and might not really know what he wants for himself. And he might want children in the future, which is something you need to think about, since you already have three kids.
Don't rush things, and pay a lot of attention to what happens, without over-analyzing anything please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): the old saying time will tell is applicable here..........but be realistic. this realtionahip was borne out of deceit. you were married while having this affair. so the likelihood of it surviving even two years should be of concern for you.
you have 3 kids, a 23 year old becoming an instant dad......not so good (for him). maybe he is mature for his age and maybe you are just not taking on kid # 4.
either way be realisitc about this relationship and go into this with your eyes OPEN.
you have filed for a divorce now but i think you owe your hb an apology for betraying your marriage. you need to explain to your kids the reason for your divorce and why their dad is not around. basically they need to know that mum has moved on with the new man. do not lie to the kids, they have the uncanny ability to call us on issues that are not right. when you move into this new relationhsip full time you do not want baggage going forward. it is about doing the right thing, if you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2009): It has potential, work at it and enjoy it and just see what happens, things are good at the moment, and if you relax and go with it things could stay that way.Forever is a very long time. Who knows what is round the corner.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (21 August 2009):
 Who knows. But I have to say the odds aren't good, considering you cheated on your husband with him and he's so young. It's only been six months and you're still in the honeymoon period.
My magic 8-ball says "ask again later".
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reader, person12345 +, writes (21 August 2009):
 It's always possible, though odds are against it. I'd say for now, enjoy it, go with it, and just see what happens. There's no way of knowing for sure unless you try. Usually college, guy, and woman with children don't go well together. However, some college guys may truly be different and surprising. I dated a man in college who was younger than me but SO much more mature I felt like a teenager compared to him. Enjoy your love!
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reader, Jolin  +, writes (21 August 2009):
 time will tell
though based on experiences, and guys i dealt with..when it comes to serious & long term committment, a young man (20s and 30s) prefer to a woman without children.
However, your guy may be an exception..who knows? time will tell.
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