How do I let the guy I kissed last week know that I want him?
Q. I kissed a guy last weekend that ive known for about two years, after he made all the moves. i was pleasantly surprised at this because ive always known him to be shy and timid when it comes to girls. however, the communication between us during the ...
A. 16 October 2007: Oh boy, c'mon you two still haven't hooked up?
for heavens sake, just call him and yeah, ask him if he wants to meet when you get back.
But first see if he wants a drink before he goes, why dont you buy him a little present , no more than 5-10 qui... (read in full...)
How do I get him back and get him to see.
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship for 4 years and we had a big fight. He is not ready for marriage because we fight a lot. the cause is my insecurity and frustration as he ia taking all his time to decide. I love him a lot and don't wanna ...
A. 10 October 2007: Is the cause really your insecurity and frustration . What I mean is, do all the arguments you have revolve around you pestering him to get married?
I ask this as the reason you gave sounds a bit to me like HE is saying that you are insecure.
Anywa... (read in full...)
My husband gets angry when I'm not in the mood.
Q. my husband gets very angry when i do not give him sex is this normal or is it something i should say something about.he wants it up to 2 times a day and if he does not get it then he is in a very bad mood all day. what do i do?...
A. 10 October 2007: He is using you like a sex object. This is worrying. Its also a form of control over you. He makes you feel guilty because you are not fulfilling your role in the marriage etc.
He is behaving like a spoilt brat. Buy a couple of porno mags and next... (read in full...)
We were happy until I found out about my fiance's secret affair with my mother.
Q. I just found out that my fiancee who I have been with for 8 years and have a 3 month old son with had an affair with my mother. She told me a couple of days ago, she said that it happened about 2 years ago. A month before he proposed to me actually...
A. 10 October 2007: Hi,
I feel so sorry for you. The two people you love most in this world have betrayed you.
I'm sorry but I dont buy your mother's concern for you. She is acting out of selfishness pure and simple.
They are both despicable individuals and the grea... (read in full...)
My Husband has rented pornos - should I be worried?
Q. I just found out my husband has rented several porns that imply that the actresses are teens even though they are not. They are depicted as teens and the title includes the word teen in them. Should I be worried?...
A. 10 October 2007: Hi,
I think you are overreacting a little. Though you didnt really tell us much. Were they left lying around or were they hidden? You just found out, so I assume he hid them from you?
I imagine he did this as he probably knows you wont approve... (read in full...)
Does he love me as much as I love him?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for over a year. He is the only man I have ever slept with and I am the only woman he has ever slept with. We love eachother more than anything but when I talk about engagement he always says someday. I am ready to ...
A. 10 October 2007: I'm sorry, but I'm with your boyfriend on this one.
You are so young, why do you feel the need to get engaged?
Do you really think a ring on your finger will be absolute proof that he will love you forever and ever?
Can't you just trust him no... (read in full...)
Do I stay with him for the sake of the children, or not?
Q. Hi Please could somebody help??!! I have been married for 12 years and have 2 lovely children. I have been unhappy in my marriage for many years and reached breaking point a few months ago and told my husband I don't love him anymore and wan...
A. 10 October 2007: Hi,
It really does sound like you are in a terrible position.
I believe the children should always come first , but having said that if the mental wellbeing of their mother is affected this doesnt mean that staying in the marriage is the ... (read in full...)
Do I give my ex another chance?
Q. hello i recently broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years, the relationship was perfect at start between us, our family liked each other and we did everything together. the problems started a few months ago we started to argue and fight alot, until we...
A. 10 October 2007: People do really stupid things when they are young, and your girlfriend may just be insecure enough to fall into the arms of the first guy who came on the scene after she broke up with you.
Blaming you for it though is a worrying sign, but was this... (read in full...)
What happened to me? I think my drink may have been laced?
Q. Hey there! Im really really confused and getting really down about what has happened as i dont understand how/or what happened. The other week I went out with a group of friends. I had a few drinks and was feeling abit drunk (but Im usually re...
A. 10 October 2007: Personally, if you feel strong enough, I would go to the police. It really does sound like your drink has been spiked. ( I cant believe your friends abandoned you by yourself - you need new friends as your current bunch sound selfish and ... (read in full...)
Do I talk to my man about my ex?
Q. I was in a marriage that my ex was having affairs.I think im still trying to deal with that. my ex wants to go get help and work on things. i have been dating a guy for about 9months now and my ex is upset that im seeing this man.He wants our fami...
A. 10 October 2007: ditto what RCN said.
Another thing, did your ex want you back after he found out you were seeing someone else.
The pattern with men who are serial cheaters is their egos are so fragile ( despite appearances ) they cannot handle their ex's picking ... (read in full...)
Will I ever find love again?
Q. will i ever find love again? will someone ever make me feel really special and want to stay with me forever? At the moment i feel like these things will never happen to me again and that i am destined to be alone, never to be married or to have kid...
A. 10 October 2007: Time heals all wounds. If your boyfriend dumped you it meant he wasnt right for you.
You are very young, so there's plenty of time to meet someone else, and you will.
If you are prepared to offer love, commitment and to work together to build a ... (read in full...)
Things are complicated. I'm falling for this new guy and I have a boyfriend of 2 years..
Q. Things feel so complicated. iv met this guy. and i wonder if he likes me. he always hangs around with me if we have spare time for however long he carrys on with me n play fight im christian n i invited him to my church for a charity concert ...
A. 10 October 2007: You're 18.. time to move on, dump the boyfriend and see what happens with the new guy. Yes he is interested but undoubtedly knows you have a boyfriend already and probably does not want to make a move yet.... (read in full...)
I'm 16 dating a guy who's 22. Do you think that's wrong?
Q. I'm sixteen and i just started dating a 22 year ol that i met at a concert.. Our relationship is purely innocent. The idea of sex hasnt even came up. He is really respectful and we connect and a different level than age. I really and truly in my ...
A. 10 October 2007: As long as there is no sex I cant really see a problem. I understand the age of consent is between 16-18 so be aware that if you do have sex he could go to jail for statutory rape.
Personally, I find it hard to see how a 22 year old could go out ... (read in full...)
She said she had a sex dream about me, but turned down my offer to have sex.
Q. A woman at my job told me she had a sex dream about me. She even said I was good. I asked her if she wanted to have sex with me and she said no. Why would she say that and then not want to take up on the offer. I let it go, no means no right? Or am ...
A. 10 October 2007: You make it all sound a bit clinical mate. She shared a private intimate moment with you and then you simply said "lets have sex" ( at least thats the way you put it ).
Now I'm not saying you overreacted or anything, she did say she had a sex drea... (read in full...)
Should I answer the phone and tell her why I don't want to have anything to do with her?
Q. I recently ended my relationship with my now ex of 2 years due to the ridiculous amount of problems that we faced. She was extremely demanding and always threatened to end our relationship if she didn't get her way. She would endlessly compla...
A. 10 October 2007: I agree with the other poster. Write a letter.
Make it calm and reasonable. You want to end the relationship, you cannot trust her , and you think she is a controlling person. You cannot see yourself building a future with a person who you cann... (read in full...)
Her parents found out we were having sex, and didn't take it well.
Q. About one month ago, my gf's parents found out we were having sex. They went ballistic! I think they overreacted and made things overly complicated instead of just dealing with it. I am not a college kid trying to get laid! I have been with my girl ...
A. 10 October 2007: It's hard to advise as you dont tell us how old your girlfriend is. If she is under 18 then I can understand how her parents reacted ( I'm not condeming you just that I can understand how parents may act ).
You need to get down to the crux of the ... (read in full...)
I'm worried, he missed the time he said he will call, and I haven't heard from him in three days. What should I do?
Q. 3 weeks ago my boyfriend said we were on a break because he was depressed. He works 2 jobs and has a lot going on with his family. He said it isn’t fair to me that I can’t have a boyfriend who can come over for dinner and take me out. I told him I ...
A. 9 October 2007: Hi,
Is there any reason he has to work two jobs? I ask this only because I wonder if he is a workaholic. People can get so tied down by work they let their personal life go to pot.
Its really hard what to advise as it appears you are both being h... (read in full...)
What was she thinking 20 years ago?
Q. Had a follow up question and wanted to provide an update. BTW I appeciate all the help and I apologize to anyone Ive offended here. I'm fairly emotional right now and know people sometimes see things very differently. My wife and I are working ...
A. 9 October 2007: Mate, its torture reading this. Go get conselling, everything people here suggest you simply ignore or berate them for being honest. What do you want? You want it to never have happened, but nothing's happened , that's what you dont realise. ... (read in full...)
Can a man be "raped" by a woman?
Q. I would like to know if it is possible for a man to have sex with a woman against his will?...
A. 9 October 2007: yes it is possible. But very rare, are we talking about him being raped as in having an object inserted into his butt? Or him getting an erection and a lady taking advantage of him.
But you havent told us why you are asking the question... (read in full...)
We are having problems. I don't think we want to be together, but are too comfortable to just leave. What should I do?
Q. My fiance and I have been engaged for 3 months and we have been together for just over 3 years. I am not happy with him and from what he says when we argue he is not happy with me but I know he won't leave me. I believe he may love me more then I ...
A. 9 October 2007: You are 21 and you think that you have no where else to go?
Good grief that is a pretty lame excuse. You have your whole life ahead and if you two are already at breaking point what the hell are you still doing together. Can you imagine what you ... (read in full...)
So many mixed signals! Can you help me make sense of this?
Q. ok, so last year i met "rachel" in college, and we became best friends. she lives about an hour and a half drive from my house. she introduced me to many of her friends including her then boyfriend "tom". me and tom became friends as did i and his ...
A. 9 October 2007: I think "Tom" and "Frank" are treating you like a piece of meat. If you want a bit of fun, go for it, but these two look like right little manipulators who go from girl to girl. If you are up for it, I wouldnt worry, Tom will hit on you soon enough ... (read in full...)
She had a one night stand and I'm struggling to accept that. Should I stay or should I go?
Q. Hello, I am flattened by emotions right now and need a little advice. Today I learned that my girlfriend of 6 1/2 years had a one-night stand about 3 months ago. She tells she was wasted and doesn't even remember how it happened. I am very confus...
A. 9 October 2007: This will be a hard one to forgive. I always believe that long term relationships which start in high school are fraught with danger. Both partners usually end up wondering what it would be like to be with someone else, and I can see how in a moment ... (read in full...)
How could he love me and move on so fast, when I'm still trying to pick up the pieces??
Q. I am a 21 yr old college student attending same school as my ex BF We dated for 3 years but I broke things off this summer because I was not happy with the lack of effort he put into our relationship. He was very upset; even wrote a long letter to ...
A. 9 October 2007: At your age, I'm afraid it is. You ended the relationship after all, you should be happy for him that he has moved on with his life and wish him all the best.
In any event, haven't your fears about his effort and commitment been confirmed after he r... (read in full...)
Should I work things out with my husband or go with this other man?
Q. I've been married for 11 years now with 3 children, but recently my husband has not been taking any notice of me we barely talk, hardly ever have sex or even do things as a family. 4 weeks ago i met a new man but he lives a plane ride away, he is a ...
A. 9 October 2007: Hi,
You really need to think about what you are doing. Spending hours on the computer each night is not going to solve your relationship problems, in fact its probably exacerbating them.
Maybe you and your husband have reached a stage in you... (read in full...)
He has nude pictures of himself on his computer. How do I tackle him about this?
Q. My boyfriend is moving in with me, therefore some of his stuff is already here.... like his computer. Last weekend i borrowed him my camera to take pictures at his job site. Today, I went on his computer to watch a movie and looked in his picture ...
A. 9 October 2007: It sounds relatively harmless. Though you might want to have a discussion with him , discreetly say that you accidentally found them. He will probably be embarrassed but as you are living together now is the time for you to encourage him to be open ... (read in full...)
His ex is trying to split us up. How do I keep my cool?
Q. what do i do when all his ex is tryin to do is seperate us ? how do i keep my cool and keep it together ?? ...
A. 9 October 2007: First, what is she still doing on the scene?
Second, boyfriend needs to be told that if she cant behave herself and she is still hanging round you guys then you two are over.
It may be blunt, but ex girlfriends have a way of staying in their ex ... (read in full...)
My husband wears my bikinis to dinner parties and shows porn fils at kids birthday parties. Should I divorce him?
Q. Hiya, I'm 30 and have been married for 5 years. I'm sorry if this is really long but I want to get it off my chest, so to speak. In the past few months my husband's done some behaviour that's been embarrassing and in some cases, worrying. Abou...
A. 9 October 2007: It sounds like he is becoming unhinged. I would suggest conselling, if he refuses then you have to ask yourself where the relationship is going?
The porno for young kids suggests a twisted degenerate mind. If it was my house and my children I woul... (read in full...)
Is it normal for sex to hurt at the beginning?
Q. I just started having sex for the first time with my boyfriend. He has been very gentle and careful and does a great job of foreplay. We have done it a few times since then, but the beginning still hurts. As it keeps going, it doesn't hurt nearly ...
A. 9 October 2007: I'ts most likely because you are tight.
A simple rememdy would be to get some lubricant. KY Jelly or the like should do it ... (read in full...)
He's torn between his mother and me. What do I do?
Q. hey guys/gals. any advice would be appreciated. my fellas family are just driving me mad! ive been with my boyf for nearly 4 yrs now, both come to a point where we would like to get engaged and married. HOWEVER, his mom is just being a pain in the ...
A. 9 October 2007: She's bluffing. As if she would totally ignore you and her son if you decide to get married. She would be ostracised by the extended family, as nobody on this planet can justify such petty behaviour. I think you need to call her bluff, maybe its ... (read in full...)
How do I let the guy I kissed last week know that I want him?
Q. I kissed a guy last weekend that ive known for about two years, after he made all the moves. i was pleasantly surprised at this because ive always known him to be shy and timid when it comes to girls. however, the communication between us during the ...
A. 8 October 2007: If you have his number, give him a call and arrange to meet up somewhere. Make it the daytime so its less threatening, you could go for a coffee, or something else. If you know something he's interested in you could suggest that ( books,music ... (read in full...)
I am curious as to why hetrosexual males want anal sex?
Q. I am curious as to why hetrosexual males want anal sex? I personally have always considered it to be a homosexual activity and wonder why straight guys would wish to engage in this when they have other options?...
A. 8 October 2007: I admit I'm not a big fan of anal myself, I much prefer to spend 100% of time in the environs of god's greatest gift to humanity.
Having said that from discussions with male friends/colleagues the usual response is because its a tight hole. I beli... (read in full...)
The condom in his wallet changes. Is he cheating?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now, and it's been a very intense time - we've lived together, been on holiday, done a lot of things in a short time. In fact I had to move out because it was a little too much, although we're still ...
A. 8 October 2007: Worrying signs indeed.
I have been looking for ways to excuse his behaviour, after all you said he treats you very well, is affectionate and tells you he loves you. But I am then reminded of a gent I worked with who doted on his wife, bought her ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to continue seeing me because of my ex.
Q. So about a month and a half ago I broke up with my boyfriend at the time. It was obvious that it wasn't going to work and was sort of mutual. We were only together for 6 months and while we were together I always had a little crush on his best ...
A. 8 October 2007: hi,
I'm afraid this problem has been around as long as we have been walking around on two feet.
Let me give you a guy's perspective. In all likelihood he is very worried about hurting his friend's feelings. I would say that in 90% of cases the fr... (read in full...)
My girlfriend seems tempted to get back with her ex-husband. How can I spot my insecurity?
Q. my girlfriend is a divorced mother of three children. her youngest child is a 2 year old girl she had with an ex-fiancee. we have been dating for 3 months and now her ex is trying to weasel his way back into her life saying he wants to be a family ...
A. 8 October 2007: This doesnt sound too good.
For one the ex has a legal right to be involved with his children so you will never be able to keep him out of the picture.
Secondly, money can be a powerful motivator, if she is struggling and has 3 children it doesn... (read in full...)
My daughter said my partner of 7 yrs tried to take a photo of her in the shower. He says he "walked in" texting me not realising someone else was there. I want to believe both!
Q. I have been with my partner for 7 years and thought evrything was great after being in a bad marriage. Tonight my 19year old daughter sent me a txt saying he tried to take a photo of her in the shower . When i challenged him about it he said he was ...
A. 5 October 2007: There is a very slight chance he could be telling the truth. One can get absorbed when texting and we guys definitely have our heads in the clouds half the time, I've walked into our bathroom many a time with my wife sitting on the loo!. But th... (read in full...)
Getting mixed signals from my online bloke
Q. I met a bloke on the net who seemed nice and we had 4 dates in about 1 year of talking online, the 1st 10 monts ago and the last 3 in the last 3 months, he told me he doesn't want a girlfriend but that he is really interested in going out with me ...
A. 5 October 2007: It really is hard to tell from your post what the whole picture here is. My best guess judging by his insisitence on not having a relationship but then wanting to "go out with you" is that he's looking for sex. Would it be right to assume you ha... (read in full...)
Does he want me back? Or is it just he cant stand to see me with someone else?
Q. Ok Me and my ex, are always off again on again, but he has a new girlfiend and I a new boyfriend. But he always calls every week, then when I talk about these other girls, he gets upset, and say he didn't call to talk about them... Why does he keep ...
A. 5 October 2007: yep, ditto with the other posters. He's keeping you as his plan B. In other words, if his current relationship goes to hell, he'll simply be on the phone to you . Change your number and forget him. You have a new boyfriend whats the point in mai... (read in full...)
I cant get her past out of my head, but I need to so that we can have a life together
Q. My girlfriend of almost two years, “Sara”, just asked me to marry her. She is a realist. And for a women like “Sara” to have reached a point in her life where she would even consider marriage again (as she was briefly married to her high school ...
A. 5 October 2007: How about turning a positive into a negative huh? Look at it this way, yes she may have slept with a lot of guys but she has chosen you to be her mate for life! What does that say about you? And so what if she has slept with a lot of guys, I know ... (read in full...)
He said my weight wouldn't be a problem but I think he's repulsed by me because when he touches me he gets hard rock instantly. Am I being paranoid?
Q. Help, i think my boyfriend is repulsed by me. Iam 20 years old. Im a big and beautiful girl. I been seeing this guy for a few months now and i think he is turned off by me. I liked him for a long time before this but i too afraid to talk to him ...
A. 5 October 2007: Paranoid definitely. Why on earth would getting rock hard when he touches you signal he's not interested? By that reasoning if he cant get a hard on then he is attracted to you. I think you need to boost your self esteem. Your guy obviously ... (read in full...)
I cant get her past out of my head, but I need to so that we can have a life together
Q. My girlfriend of almost two years, “Sara”, just asked me to marry her. She is a realist. And for a women like “Sara” to have reached a point in her life where she would even consider marriage again (as she was briefly married to her high school ...
A. 5 October 2007: How about turning a negative into a positive. All of these questions are always about the Woman's past never the man's. Why is this? It's because of our social conditioning thats why; a woman with a past brings up our the little man in our head say... (read in full...)
What do men mean when they say a girl was really great in bed?
Q. what do men mean when they say "she was great in bed" ? how do i know if i am great ? or not ?...
A. 5 October 2007: the one thing a man doesnt like is for a woman to just lie there still. That is the biggest turn off.
The key is to enjoy sex, chances are if you dont enjoy it he will just go through the motions as well.
Guys like their girls to express them... (read in full...)
I have fantasies about my husband... with other women. Why is this a turn on?
Q. Ever since i met my husband i have fantasies about him being with other women. I know im his wife and not at all afraid of him leaving me for his other partners. I just want him to get all his fantasies answered. It really turns me on. I am shy ...
A. 5 October 2007: My suggestion is swingers clubs. Just look around they are everywhere. I think this would be the best way to see how comfortable both of you are. You can go to these places and just look to start , then if you want to join in the option is there.
T... (read in full...)
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