Together 7 years, still only 22 , now a guy and my girl's work is making her think about things, should I cut her out to make her appreciate me more?
Q. I am so incredibly confused. I'm 22 years old and my girlfriend and I have been together since we we're 15. I always thought that we would be together forever, however about a month ago i noticed a slight change in her behaviour as she seemed to be ...
A. 1 February 2008: Hi,
You see this all the time with couples who get together at such and early age. It rarely works out over time.
I think you are best to have a break, it sounds like she is enjoying the attentions from another man and there is little you can do t... (read in full...)
He found messages from another guy on my phone, but I'm innocent, how can I get things back to normal?
Q. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about two months (I’m 27, he’s 25). Everything has been going really, really well, until about 3 days ago. He went into my cell phone and found text messages from another guy. There were two series of ...
A. 1 February 2008: Hi there,
maybe your boyfriend has been cheated on in the past, why else would he be looking at messages on your mobile phone, this demonstrates a complete lack of trust, not to mention the invasion of privacy. If anything he should be explaini... (read in full...)
Is she just too high maintenance?
Q. Nemo solus satis sapit...or two heads are better then one. That is one of favorite latin proverbs, and thats why today I am sending this letter/question out. First off, and I'll do my best to keep this short, altought certain insight is required...
A. 1 February 2008: Hi,
I feel like you post warrants a longer response but it looks to me like a simple case of a controlling personality.
If you think she's worth all the effort then fair enough, but you sure look like you got your work cut out for you, how long do ... (read in full...)
On facebook I said another girl is more attractive than my girlfriend, now she's dumped me, how can I get her to forgive me?
Q. Hi, i need a lot of help... About 9 months ago something happened on facebook between me and one of my friends. He told me this one girl was hotter than my girlfriend and i replied yes. It had not occured to me that it would lead me to this ...
A. 31 January 2008: Hi,
this is why I will never ever use these ridiculous sites like Facebook. They have totally taken away any sort of privacy in this world - it seems to be that everything you do , you say, every person you see , talk to, meet with etc etc is p... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has a high sex drive, its driving me crazy, is there something wrong with her?
Q. this is a question mostly for the ladies- how high is your sex drive? I am asking because I am with a girl who is just about insatiable, we've been going out for three years and she's ALWAYS after sex. All the time! In the beginning we had it two o...
A. 31 January 2008: Toys my friend toys....
I have to admit my beau was rather enthusiastic for the first couple of years of our relationship. When it felt like I was going to have a heartattack if I didnt stop I would reach into the bedside drawer and bring ou... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't go down on me anymore, any ideas?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months. We're both in our early - mid 20's. When we first started dating for about the first 3 months he would ALWAYS give me oral sex(though not very good) and always talked about how much he liked giving ...
A. 31 January 2008: Hi,
you've done the right thing by refusing him oral. Now you need to talk to him about it. That is the only way you are going to get any response from him, tell him that you need foreplay - all girls do - and that unless he goes down South he can ... (read in full...)
He is avoiding me after I talked about getting married...
Q. I just want some 3rd party opinions on this. I recently informed my boyfriend of 5 years that I need to know where this is actually going because discussing marriage but then counterbalancing it with what seems like sarcastic comments isn't cutting ...
A. 31 January 2008: A Graduate, a top career and a life plan. You sound like a catch, but on the flip side it all sounds rather structured and organised. For a lot of guys - no matter how intelligent and career orientated they are - when the life plan stuff comes out ... (read in full...)
I'm with a new guy but just found out I'm pregnant by my ex, please help me decide what to do!
Q. I am currently seeing a wonderful man who has a son from a previous relationship. I absolutely love his son and can really see this relationship working out. The problem is I recently discovered that I am pregnant with an ex's child. Apparently he ...
A. 31 January 2008: Hi there,
oh boy oh boy, what a situation you are in. I feel really sorry for you.
First, you obviously need to discuss this with your current boyfriend, see what his opinion is. You are very young, and you have already seen the warning signs in... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be TOO nice to women?
Q. How do I avoid being nice towards women? I've had relationships but they always end in me getting dumped. My best friend says its because im too nice. what does he mean?...
A. 31 January 2008: Hi,
You see posts on here ( there's one today actually ) where girls say how much they love their partner despite the fact that they are treated worse than an animal. "treat em mean keep em keen" was a saying made for girls like these.
But fortu... (read in full...)
Is talking dirty to my college teacher wrong?, I'm 18 he's 31
Q. I am talking dirty with a teacher and i dont know what i should do? It started last week when i seen him out in a club. We got chatting and then i emailed him via the college and said i was sorry if i said anything i shouldnt because i was so drunk ...
A. 31 January 2008: Hi,
your both adults so there is no law against what you are doing, and even the age gap while quite large is not that insurmountable.
The only thing I worry about for you is that he is taking advantage of his position of authority. If yo... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me then jumped into another girls arms, I can't stop peeking at his emails, am I going mad?
Q. If anyone could offer any advice I would really, really appreciate it...I think I am going mad and I don't know what to do. My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me via email 3 months ago...we're both doing gap years and he's decided he wants...
A. 31 January 2008: Hi there,
You know what you have to do don't you, deep down that is.
You have got to stop looking at his emails first and foremost. When you do this you will be on the road to recovery, it is an important step to make to start the healing proc... (read in full...)
I do not want my bf to think I am not interested in him just because I am generally not excited about Valentine's Day!
Q. Hello, I'm in a fairly new relationship with this guy and I like him a lot. My sort-of dilemma that's developing is he's clearly into Valentine's Day and is looking forward to doing something special and extravagant, but I'm not a big Valentine'...
A. 31 January 2008: Hey,
I agree , its a load of old rubbish. A bunch of flowers suddenly becomes worth $150 more than any other day. Its a joke.
None of my friends and their partners celebrate Valentines day as we all think its the biggest commercial ripoff there... (read in full...)
Am I right in thinking my husband might be having an affair with a co-worker?
Q. My husband has been a bit distant from me and he's been more into his job lately. I have this gut feeling that is starting some relationship with a female co-worker of his since he used to just call on a break to say hi and that has stopped and says ...
A. 30 January 2008: Hi,
Good thing you are leaving this jerk. Getting defensive when asked about whether he is having an affair is a classic sign of guilt. If my wife asked me I would shrug and most probably laugh ( who with??? ) I certainly wouldn't get defensiv... (read in full...)
Why won't he stop texting other women?
Q. Like other posts I have read on here, my fiance and father of my two year old has been texting other women for quite a while. There have been occasions where he has gone out at night and ignored my texts for hours, saying he didn't text me back cos ...
A. 30 January 2008: Hi,
I hate to be the party pooper here, but this guy sounds like an arsehole. He has a child with you and is going out to all hours getting plastered and texting strange women, and people think this could be innocent?
No guy texts women like t... (read in full...)
I left hubby now I want him back but he's with someone else now, is there any hope?
Q. i left my husband about a year ago. i thought i was unhappy with our life together and messed up big time. now that i realize my mistake i want him back but i think it's too late. he has been with a woman for around 8 months or so. the thing is he ...
A. 30 January 2008: Hi,
I am sorry to see you in this situation.
Unfortunately it sounds like he has moved on with his life.
You might have to accept the fact that after you left him he picked himself up,dusted himself off and got on with life - then met someone... (read in full...)
He's a musician who doesn't work, we have 3 kids, but I think he is cheating on me, what should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years know. We have 3 kids together and he is a musician. Which means he doesn't work. I am the only working household member. He talks to many females on the phone and tells me it is business purposes but yet he ...
A. 30 January 2008: Hi,
sounds like your man has a sweet life. He doesnt work and goes out partying to all hours while you work and look after the kids.
Maybe its time you told him to get his arse employed pronto or be there for your children. He has responsibili... (read in full...)
My wife's sexual past disgusts me--over 20 guys from the age of 16-18!!
Q. When me and my wife first hooked up, she was 18 and had me thinking she had been with two guys before me. Then the first lie came to light when I had to take a DNA test for our first son, because on a trip back home she had sex with "a friend". So ...
A. 30 January 2008: sorry, there is no hope for you dude - let her get on with her life if you are just going to screw it up anyway.
This site is full of guys who are obsessed with their partners past. It's really getting very boring.
I feel sorry for your partner... (read in full...)
This older guy fancies me, but I'm not into him, people are staring to talk its not fair , should I tell my boyfriend so he wont get the wrong idea?
Q. I have shared a mutual hobby with a married family friend of ours for quite some time (in agreement with our partners because they are not interested in this hobby), however just before Christmas he confessed to me that he had fancied me for many ...
A. 30 January 2008: Firstly , apologies for the misspelt title .. it should read starting to talk not staring to talk!
Anyhoo, this is a tough one. I can see your dilemma . First I think you really need to put an end to the gossip by breaking off contact with thi... (read in full...)
I told her that the morning after pill is abortion, she hates me now, what should I do?
Q. Dear friends, I have been crying for a day now because of my best friend. I have known her for over 9 years now, and we've helped eachother so much. I moved in with her and her son from another state and lived with her for about 5 months and then...
A. 30 January 2008: Hi,
there are two issues here. First, why did she ask you to go get the pill for her. Was it not something she could have done herself? You dont explain this. But it seems silly for her to be so angry if she couldn't be bothered to get the pill... (read in full...)
My vagina is too tight, sex is painful. How can I fix that?
Q. My ex recently told all my friends how "tight" I was. unfortunatly he's right. What can I do to stop being so tight? Sex is really painful, and its really starting to make me depressed....
A. 30 January 2008: Fast track 10 years and the ex would be complaining about how his new girlfriend isn't as tight as his old girlfriend.
Seriously, don't worry about it, and don't take it as an insult if he persists you can always say: "that's funny, because ... (read in full...)
How can I assure my boyfriend that I will never cheat again?
Q. Hi, I'm 20 years old, and I'm in a 7 month relationship with a WONDERFUL man who is 21. I stupidly cheated very, very early into the relationship. My boyfriend just found out and i know it hurt him very badly as he's been cheated on before in past ...
A. 30 January 2008: Hi,
you are 20 years old. This is good as if you were older all sorts of issues have to be addressed like why did you cheat, what made you be unfaithful etc, but at 20 yrs old we all make mistakes and regret them - and yes even at the begi... (read in full...)
Does my teacher have feelings for me?
Q. I've fancied this teacher at my school for 3 years, i've recently realised that I think i'm in love with him. Lately he's been making innuendo's that he may have feelings for me too. When i'm around him he constantly stares at me, and when I look a...
A. 30 January 2008: Hi,
As an ex teacher myself who taught mainly at girls schools I am well aware of what this young girl is going on about. I don't know what it is but the number of girls who flirt is most alarming, but in a way it is too be expected, we are in a... (read in full...)
Is there a way I can trust him after he cheated, I thought he was perfect for me
Q. Hi everyone, I could really do with some advice! I was in a long distance relationship with a gorgeous guy, who I love so much. He is gorgeous and kind - I loved seeing him at the weekends, and trusted him. Well, a year ago, he got a new...
A. 29 January 2008: Hi there,
Well he did make the effort to get a job closer to you so you could be together , so that at least demonstrates committment.
But unfortunately there is the fact that some guys just cannot help being cheaters, no matter how much they cla... (read in full...)
My mother says the Bible does not approve of interracial relationships. How can I prove her wrong?
Q. Im engaged to a black man, and I could see myself spending the rest of my life with him, hes just like me in every way. My father is racist, and my mother claims that she is just "against marrying out of your race" because of her "religious ...
A. 29 January 2008: Ask your mother would she have problems with you going out with a brown skinned Jewish man.
I'm describing Jesus Christ here - just to expose the hypocrisy look at the churchs that show pictures of Jesus as a white skinned rather northern Euro... (read in full...)
Shocked and hurt that he suggested, I clear off my huge debt!
Q. I have been with my partner for a year and just recently we bought a home together. I came to the relationship with £7000 debt on my credit card and he agreed that this should go on our mortgage as the interest rate was cheaper. We were talking abou ...
A. 29 January 2008: Hi there,
so much for love conquers all huh? What a bunch of meanies we got here!!! :-)
Having said that I do agree your boyfriend has a point, 7,000 quid is a hell of a lot of money after all. But I see both sides to the story. If you lo... (read in full...)
My friend assaulted his child!
Q. If you had a friend that you had known for a couple of years and then you found out that some time ago they had been in the paper for assaulting their child who was 3 at the time, would you then see that friend in a different light and would it make ...
A. 29 January 2008: Hi,
that sure is a lot to think about. Is this "friend" your boyfriend or just a friend friend.
I think that's important, if he's your boyfriend it is only natural to be highly suspicious of this man, if you had kids wouldn't you be constantl... (read in full...)
I got so drunk and did something real stupid! Help
Q. i am so overwhelmed with embarrassment right now. in my local bar i pulled a guy into the packed bathroom and tried to get him into the cubical.. i was so so so so so so so drunk and its completely out of charecter but it has really effected my ...
A. 29 January 2008: Hi,
Oh dear, the perils of living in a small town. It's easy for a big city guy to say ignore it, but I know in a small town gossip like this spreads like wildfire. People are so judgmental because they are bored out of their skulls and they env... (read in full...)
How can I get him interested again and spice things up for us?
Q. i have been with my partner for 7 years now.i love him so much and i still really find him attractive.he claims he hasnt went off me but the last time we made love was many months ago.we do get on apart from the odd tiff.i have stopped trying to ...
A. 29 January 2008: Hi,
Assuming that there is nothing wrong physically with him. I think it is worth one more try. You said sex was getting stale, save for the usual suggestions to spice things up - i.e. lingerie,toys etc.. How about dressing sexily when you are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to remain jobless, but I want to work. How do I get past this?
Q. Hey I was wondering if I could get some help from some people to help me solve my problem. My Boyfriend and I want to get married. We aren't getting married anytime soon and know mostly everything we want. He wants to graduate and be a lawyer....
A. 29 January 2008: Hi,
You have got a boyfriend who is living with 19th century values. But you also embrace these traditional values. However, you are not so keen to totally give up your freedom. This could be a dealbreaker as a lot of men need to have this con... (read in full...)
I want a baby, but I'm scared of sex, help!
Q. hi everyone, i have a problem.. i really really want and feel ready for a baby, trouble is i wont let myself be close to anyone as i fear sex so much, and as soon as i think things are going to lead that way.. i sort of freeeze! it sounds odd but ...
A. 29 January 2008: Hi,
I think there are some more serious problems here than you being scared of sex.
first , why do you want a baby at your young age? You are obviously not married or in a relationship so why the desire to be a single mum? I feel you have int... (read in full...)
Can fighting/arguments be good for a relationship?
Q. Hi guys. I just have a general relationships question that I've been pondering for quite some time now and I'd really like some outside oppinions. Okay so, do you guys find that fighting/arguments are helpful or detrimental to a relationship? Is it ...
A. 29 January 2008: Personally I hate arguments and conflict with my partner and so does she. But we are both very low maintenance people and despite the odd very brief tiff, we get on famously.
My best buddy is different, he and his wife argue all the time, they have... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend is married, but his wife doesn't care, he still wants a future together, should I bother?
Q. please help is there anyone out there who has been involved with a married man? I met the most wonderful man almost two years ago. two months after dating him i found out he was married. I was crushed but couldnt drag myself away. His wife knows ...
A. 29 January 2008: Hi,
boy, you have got yourself a dud here mate.
Seriously you think this man is wonderful despite him lying to you and cheating on his wife.
I guess if you want to be the woman who is there for sex then go for it, if sex is great and if you... (read in full...)
Together 8 years, engaged, now she's changed, someone help me figure this out?
Q. Up until nine months ago, I was happily living and engaged to a beautiful woman. Suddenly, it all changed, and now it seems like anything I try to do becomes a fight with her. It's almost as if she's trying to make me feel guilty, but she ...
A. 18 January 2008: Hi,
are you guys still living together? or have you split up?
You don't make this clear.
Having said that, it really doesnt sound good buddy. It's not just a temporary mood, its being going on for months.
You might have to prepare yourself for... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting or do I just need to trust him more?
Q. So, my boyfriend of one year is going out of town to take a test. While he is up there his friend who lives nearby may come visit him. The problem is she is a woman. He told me about it and I appreciated that but I asked if she knew he was dating ...
A. 18 January 2008: Hi,
He told you about it as he wanted to show you he loves you and can be trusted. Relationships are all about trust, if you truly love your boyfriend you should also trust him. There will be times in your life where your boyfriend is going to... (read in full...)
Ex bf trouble..I'm thinking of him too much.
Q. well...my ex and i were together for a number of years but slip up nearly 2 years ago, ive been with my current boyfriend for nearly a year now and im really happy with him. But i still think about my ex, even though when we were together he ...
A. 18 January 2008: You still think about him because he exerted control over you. The cheating was something that made you feel inadequate along with the verbal abuse. This is how controlling types manage to get away with so much, they make their partners feel so ... (read in full...)
BF of a year doesn't love me or think he ever can and prefers his ex.
Q. OK a shorter version of my 'boring' one...my bf loved me once many months ago but doesn't now and doesn't think he ever can - or anyone else supposedly - yet having been with me over a year still prefers his ex (who dumped him). He's a good bf, but ...
A. 18 January 2008: Hi,
you are 18-21 , and you are still with this guy because?... (read in full...)
23, 6 weeks together and now I could be pregnant. Will it work?
Q. O.k...I have been dating a great guy for about 6 weeks, and after I didn't get my period (I haven't had one since we've been together) we realized that I am most likely pregnant. I am going to find out for sure this weekend. I am just having some ...
A. 17 January 2008: Hi,
Sure it can work, most of us who are with our life partners knew within a few weeks that "she" was the one. I know I did.
However, of course with a relationship only several weeks old you dont want to look at the statistics - they will not be i... (read in full...)
Should I contact an old gf, after 15 years?
Q. I've started thinking a lot recently about an ex-girlfriend. The relationship ended 15 years ago and was a brief but very intense thing (i'm 44 now). I'm now considering contacting her (how are you, how's life going, nice kids etc etc), but am not ...
A. 17 January 2008: Hi,
Only if you are both single. If she is not then all you are going to do is rekindle old feelings and disrupt her life. It seems pointless, you wouldn't contact her if she was just a mate, be honest, you are contacting her as you had a real inte... (read in full...)
He says he will never go back to her, but I can't get his ex out of my head, help!
Q. I am extremely jealous of my boyfriends ex; well, not so much his ex, but, just the fact that he has been married already and has a daughter. He says he married the right girl at the time and doesn't regret it. They still get along and their ...
A. 17 January 2008: Hi,
You might need to consider your options here.
You started dating this man knowing that he had an ex with a child, yet you still chose to continue the relationship .
Now that you are talking marriageit has become more of an issue for you, I... (read in full...)
I thought going participating in a lap dancing session would be fun with my husband, now I'm jealous, how can I deal with this?
Q. hi, my husband and i have been married a couple of years and have recently had a new baby(4months). it was a significant birthday for him at the weekend and he asked if we could go to a pole dancing club, i said yes, though inside felt alit...
A. 17 January 2008: I think you need to talk about this with your hubby. tell him you realise that you were into the whole thing as well so you are definitely not blaming him. But also tell him that it has made you really uncomfortable, and you feel it has created ... (read in full...)
I fell for my doctor, then he went cold on me, I still obsessed with him, how can I figure out what was going on with him?
Q. It's been a couple of years since I saw him last but I still think about him from time to time and wonder why he treated me as so. I was pregnant with my 3rd child. ( We lost my 1st when I was 6m. pregnant due to a severe abnormality)He treated me ...
A. 17 January 2008: Hi there,
Your doctor would not be in practice for very long if he were to have a deep and meaningful relationship with every woman who has feelings for him. Like a teacher he is in a position of trust and authority , and this is a very attr... (read in full...)
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