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writes:my husband gets very angry when i do not give him sex is this normal or is it something i should say something about.he wants it up to 2 times a day and if he does not get it then he is in a very bad mood all day. what do i do?
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reader, Asexy +, writes (10 October 2007):
 I'm sure this isn't good advice, but all I could think was "who has time for sex twice a day? Doesn't he work?!" Then I looked at your age, and thought, well, if he's that age too...
Seriously, though, his sex-drive is his problem if he can't approach you nicely. Yes, the fact that you're married implies that you will provide "regular" sex. But the definition of the word "regular" is really up for debate. (As is the definition for "sex" lol.) Some couples find 1x/week "regular" and "sex" might just be a quick hand-job.
Tell your husband that his "grumpy face" and the guilt he tries to heap on you are particularly unsexy, that it makes you feel used, not loved, and that you'll only want sex when you're feeling loved. Good luck.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (10 October 2007):
At your age twice a day is not excessive for many guys. Did you have a pattern before you married? Or, did this come out of nowhere?
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (10 October 2007):
 He is using you like a sex object. This is worrying. Its also a form of control over you. He makes you feel guilty because you are not fulfilling your role in the marriage etc.
He is behaving like a spoilt brat. Buy a couple of porno mags and next time he tries to force you into it, throw one at him and tell him to go have a wank.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much i will talk to him and see if it helps i hope it does. I will keep u updated on how it turns out.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (9 October 2007):
 I think that this is something that you have got to talk to him about. You should have sex only when you want to, not when your husband wants too. I think he should have more respect for you when you say you do not want to instead of going into a mood and getting angry, this is so wrong. Don't be pushed into anything that you don't want to do just to please him, so talk to him about how you feel and soon.
All the best & good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): Do it when it suits you and not him. You are not a sex slave to him and should not feel this may. Sex is a mutual thing and should be a lovely and loving experience between two consenting adults. Not some that you have to do because of your bloke. Dont be bullied into it either. Let him know how you feel, talk to him.
take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2007): You do what you want to. YOu are not owned by him. You are your own person. If you enjoy sex then do it, and if you dont want to then dont. Perhaps your husband should think of you instead of pouting when he doesnt get his way. That is not very loving behavior. I would rather not have sex with someone who wasnt into it as much as I was. I like to have sex alot too but if your partner isnt wanting to then you have to be able to respect that. He could try to encourage or romance you to help the situation alot more than pouting.
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