I'm pretty sure my partner has cheated, but he's blaming his ex, can I believe him?
Q. Hi, like everyone else on here I have a strange situation. My partner and I have been together for two years. We have known each other for about seven years in total I guess. We don't live together but have businesses together, so are...
A. 21 November 2007: Hi again,
I would dump him now if I was you. But I'm sure you don't want to be left high and dry , so do what ya gotta do.
As I said before, not all us guys are cheats, you don't have to change you've just been unlucky. My wife isn't possessive... (read in full...)
We don't live together, but I help him out financially, now he's bought something for himself, is he taking advantage of me?
Q. This year my boyfriend was having trouble paying for school/gas. He's in his 2nd year of university and he has no other financial support other than me. He said he was BROKE so I got a part time job and gave him all of my paychecks, as well I gave ...
A. 21 November 2007: Hi,
this is a really interesting dilemma. For one, you have been supplying him with this financial help so its totally understandable that you get upset if he spends a lot of money on his computer.
But by the same token, does he have to get ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps giving me gifts, now he wants to give his antique guitar to me, dad says I shouldnt take it, is he right?
Q. I really need some guy advice! Im sixteen and ive been going out wiht this sixteen year old guy for about a month. We really love each other, sometimes i think he loves me more than i love him. He's always giving his stuff, like his watch, his ...
A. 21 November 2007: Giving you gifts this personal are a sign of his devotion to you. But this is wrong when it goes beyond small gifts.
he is a musician and he wants to give you are prized guitar? I'm sorry but that is crazy. Your dad is right, you shouldnt even thin... (read in full...)
Is my friend bi curious?
Q. Hi, i have a best friend for the last 5 years we get on really well., last year we kisses for a laugh to wind my mate up and never been mention since.. but been few weird small talks and flirting she is married and last week we were talkin on the ...
A. 21 November 2007: She sounds it.. but if you are straight, dont flirt with her. Otherwise , go for it.... (read in full...)
How do I stop a guy moving in on my girlfriend??
Q. I'm currently in a very happy relationship. My girlfriend and I are very much in love and I trust her completely. We live in the same dorm at college, and we have lots of mutual friends. Unfortunately, one of my friends from the dorm has recently ...
A. 21 November 2007: Mate,
seriously, man up. But you don't have to fight this guy, that is just stupid, you are at university not play school.
What you do, is when you are sitting with your mates, ask him in front of them why he is trying to hit on your girlfrie... (read in full...)
He doesn't go down on me anymore... Should I stop giving him head?
Q. hi,im in a stable relationship and have been for 2yrs until recently my partner loved going down on me and i him.it has been something like 2 months since he last went down and it seems he has no intensions of ressuming it,yet i have continued to ...
A. 21 November 2007: Easy mate,
stop giving him head. When he asks you why say: "I'll tell you when you tell me why you have stopped"... (read in full...)
I think I want to date him... But we're good friends. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I was wondering if you could help me. I have this guy mate, we´ve known each other for ages, we´re really close and I have started to feel like I want to be more than just friends with him. He´s really nice and single, but I don´t know how to s...
A. 21 November 2007: Hi,
he's probably thinking exactly the same thing you are. Problem for both of you is that you are good mates so neither of you want to ruin the friendship by coming on to the other.
But this is easily resolved, find a way to spend time togethe... (read in full...)
I'm pretty sure my partner has cheated, but he's blaming his ex, can I believe him?
Q. Hi, like everyone else on here I have a strange situation. My partner and I have been together for two years. We have known each other for about seven years in total I guess. We don't live together but have businesses together, so are...
A. 21 November 2007: Hi there,
Oh dear, I'm sorry to say but that is one of the most pathetic excuses I've heard. I guess he didnt expect to be put on the spot so he didnt have an excuse ready.
Look, 18 months is a hell of a long time for an ex girlfriend to wa... (read in full...)
Do all men cheat?
Q. Do all men cheat? Every serious boyfriend I have ever had has cheated on me, and my friends boyfriends have too. My dad cheated on my mother, my grandfathers cheated on my grandmothers, etc. I've never met a man who doesn't cheat! I am beginnin...
A. 21 November 2007: Hi there,
simple answer - No.! And stop with the "am I not enough for these guys" that's just crazy talk o.k!
Personally I have never cheated on my wife or on previous girlfriends. I believe that relationships are exclusive and trust is imp... (read in full...)
How to end this relatioonship?
Q. Uh oh, another friends with benefits question... Long story short. I cheated on my ex, "A" at a time when I was unhappy about the relationship. Naturally, he left me, (a little over two years ago) and quickly rebounded and had a relation...
A. 20 November 2007: Hi,
you are young to start with. You cheated on him two years ago? You would have been no older than say 18-19? or even younger? God dam it, everyone does stupid things at this age for crying out loud. You cant label yourself a cheat for somethin... (read in full...)
Before I became pregnant he did not want a relationship with me but it seems different now. Am I reading more into this than I should?
Q. i had a baby 4 months ago and her dad comes round almost everyday.i am not with her dad but he has stayed overnight a few times(nothing has happened).we do go out shopping together and have even been to his mums for dinner,bbq,etc.he has brought ...
A. 20 November 2007: Hi,
I think a lot of single mums would be happy to have the father of their child trying to get back in their good books.
But as for your own personal wellbeing, you have a right to know if he wants you two to get back together. So ask him what... (read in full...)
My bf met up with his ex , he said nothing happened, but she told me she wants him back, what can I do?
Q. Before I had a profile I wrote anonymously about the fact that my boyfriend is still friends w/ his ex and I found out that he went to eat lunch w/ her two days after my birthday, which he did not tell me about because he didn't think it was ...
A. 20 November 2007: Good result dude,
hope it works out for you. ... (read in full...)
Should I confess all about my cheating?
Q. Im engaged to be married to the most wonderful man in the world he is my soul mate and i love him more than anything and anyone in the world. Unfortunately i was very immature when we first got together and for the first 6 months or so of our ...
A. 20 November 2007: Hi,
Telling your boyfriend may very well give you some peace of mind, but don't you think that would be a rather selfish thing to do? What reaction would you expect from him? This is not a one off, you behaved like this for 6 months, he would fi... (read in full...)
Do I go for maintenance or not?
Q. Hi every1, im in a bit of a delemma. I was seeing a guy for a few months and i thought everything was fine until his friend told me had a gf in another state. I tried to end it although after a drunken night wed hooked up, it was the last time i s...
A. 20 November 2007: Hi,
the fact that your ex suggested that he wouldn't want his kid to think he was a tosser is a good sign that he won't neglect his financial responsibilities.
Whether his girlfriend finds out or not is not your problem. He is the father and h... (read in full...)
We love each other, I want to get married, but he says why bother?, is it really important to get married or is he right?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. We've lived together for one of those years and I've known him for going on nine years. I love him. Recently I've thought about marriage and I've concluded that I would like to formalize and de...
A. 20 November 2007: Hi again,
You shouldnt put too much importance of my using the term "demands' . On reflection it was too strong a word, I agree "needs" would be much more appropriate.
I guess I just have difficulty understanding where you are coming from. My lov... (read in full...)
We love each other, I want to get married, but he says why bother?, is it really important to get married or is he right?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. We've lived together for one of those years and I've known him for going on nine years. I love him. Recently I've thought about marriage and I've concluded that I would like to formalize and de...
A. 20 November 2007: Hi,
wow! I can imagine the variety of replies this question will elicit.
I am not a Conservative or a religious person so my views clouded by my upbringing.
I am married ( have been for 10 years ) but most of my friends aren't. They have al... (read in full...)
Tips about anal sex? Last time we tried it, it felt weird thus I asked him to stop.
Q. My boyfriend really wants to have anal sex. Were going to try but im nervous. We tried it once before and we couldnt really get it in, it got in a little but it felt weird to me and i didnt like it and told him to stop. Since were going to try it ...
A. 20 November 2007: O.K. mate if you dont like it dont do it.
A lot of people like anal sex, but at your age if your bf is pressuring you he has some issues I say.
If he's not happy with having god's gift to mankind (the Vagina) then tell him to go take a jump.... (read in full...)
He sends me endless texts but doesn't firm up a date. Why?
Q. I met a guy and we connected straight away, we've been out on 3 dates and agreed to meet again, however all he seems to do is send me texts and wont firm up a date, this has now gone on for weeks. he keeps asking me if i want to see him again and I ...
A. 20 November 2007: I'm afraid I think you have picked a dud there mate.
Personally I dont understand it, but I have heard it so many times though: guy likes girl, tells her he is mad about her,soon only calls once in a while, loses interest - meets new girl, st... (read in full...)
My bf met up with his ex , he said nothing happened, but she told me she wants him back, what can I do?
Q. Before I had a profile I wrote anonymously about the fact that my boyfriend is still friends w/ his ex and I found out that he went to eat lunch w/ her two days after my birthday, which he did not tell me about because he didn't think it was ...
A. 20 November 2007: Hi,
looks like you are up against it here mate.
Your boyfriend wasnt totally honest with you either, saying it was a "business' lunch was a pathetic excuse.
Good luck, but if this girl stays friends with his mother , then you are going to be ... (read in full...)
We watch porn together, she admires the bigger packages, does this mean she is likely to cheat?
Q. I’ve been watching X-rated movies with my wife. More than we used to do, she's more relaxed watching it. She keeps hinting at how my penis is smaller than those guys we see on porn. Almost every time she has to make a remark like "wow, look at ...
A. 20 November 2007: Hi,
It's just the same as us guys perving over a nice big pair of boobs. It's eye candy, it doesnt mean that we are going to try and sleep with every girl who has a big pair of boobs.
Just enjoy it with her, I bet she gets horny as hell afterwa... (read in full...)
We like each other, he still hangs around with his ex, and I don't have much free time, should I ask him out?
Q. Well hello everyone...I recently told my crush how I felt about him and he told me that he feels the same way towards me...Were not going out because I believe that he still has feelings for his ex..I think this because they still talk like ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi,
From a guy's perspective it is really hard to work up the courage to ask a girl out when she keeps turning you down.
So I would find it unlikely that he would ask you out for fear of rejection again.
His ex is his ex.. she wouldnt be ... (read in full...)
I woke up next to my bf's best friend, I cant remember anything, now he's blackmailing me for sex, what can I do?
Q. Help me please! i am so lost i have been with my boyfriend now for 3 years and love him with all my heart but on friday night i had way too much too drink and my bf went to work the next morning i woke up in bed with his best friend but i dont rem...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi,
that is some best friend your boyfriend has .
If you have a strong committed relationship with your boyfriend then you should tell him what happened. His best friend took advantage of you when you were drunk. This is the lowest of the low. ... (read in full...)
What can I do to raise the temperature?
Q. me and my bf have been having sex now for the last couple of months but i want it to be exciting but i just dont now what to do. what could i do to heat it up?...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi,
all the sex toys in the world wont make a difference if the sexual chemistry isnt there or if its a wham bam thank you mam experience.
If your fella is young like yourself chances are he really doesnt have much of a clue what to do. I know f... (read in full...)
Should I be patient, or walk away.
Q. I am seeing a married man, and have been for nearly a year. I also work with him. He has been married for a number of years and has two children (18 and 14). He has told me that he loves me, is not in love with his wife and he even left home ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi,
you are 26-29? the next 10 years are the best of your life. . Just look at all the posts on this site, there are dozens just like yourself, the married man promising the young woman that he will leave his wife( who of course he doesnt have sex... (read in full...)
We lost our viginity to each other, but she's admitted a previous daliance, can I just let this go?
Q. hey people just wanted to know wot to do...ive been with my gf for about a year now we do hava good relationship..but theres a few things that bother me and im worried it may effect our relationship..we gave our vrginity to each other.. I keep ge...
A. 19 November 2007: Dude, learn one thing very quickly. What your girlfriend did in the past is just that - the past. It is none of you business and your girlfriend doesnt have to tell you anything.
You don't want to become one of these guys we see posting on this... (read in full...)
I was due to move into his house. Out of nowhere, he doesn't feel the same. What can I do?
Q. Hi There, my ex- boyfriend dumped me a week ago after 18 months together. I was due to move into his house and bought a car for this purpose. I hadn't seen him the weekend before because he said he was sick. During the week when he rang I was cool ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi,
I'm afraid a lot of guys out there just cannot commit to a relationship.
Moving in together was the final straw,as the date drew closer he probably felt more and more worried. I have never had a problem with living with a girl but I know p... (read in full...)
We've been hanging out for 9 months, but she won't leave her boyfriend, what should I do?
Q. Hi. I've been involved with a girl for about 9 months now who is already in a relationship. Things started out as just friends, hanging out at work, going for walks, getting a tea, etc. I knew she had a boyfriend, and didn't think anything...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi,
I am a little confused. She is not married? With kids?
You make it sound as though she is tied down to this guy - marriage kids the works and that's why you cant have her.
But you say he is her boyfriend. So what is the problem, why won... (read in full...)
Split up with my girlfriend, now I think she's had a one nighter with someone else, you can tell cant you?
Q. in short..i broke up with my chick 2 weeks ago, been together for 3yrs, Love her alot, but we just fight too much, and were not happy.She was really upset. MISS HER LIKE CRAZY...last night i was talkin to a buddy of mine about it, and i was thinking ...
A. 19 November 2007: Hi,
You know you shouldnt even be asking this question? You've split up, she is now a free agent.
If you feel uncomfortable in her presence knowing she is having sex with someone else, then maybe you should find a new gym. You don't want to get ... (read in full...)
My online date has got the hots for me, how do I cool him down before our first date IRL so it will not only be all about sex??
Q. I've been internet dating for a couple of months and find it good fun..there are lots of guys there who are only looking for sex, which you can normally find out within the first 10 mins of having a conversation. I've been talking with this guy ...
A. 18 November 2007: If it's the type of site where people tend to meet up for no strings sex or whatever then you have to expect that that's what he is going to be expecting.
If it is a genuine dating site, then if he expects to jump into bed with you on the first date... (read in full...)
Should I just go with the flow??
Q. Im 21 single but have quite a few male friends who i adore but never found any of them attractive. Until recently i have really fallen for this one perticular guy. Hes 26 got a job but lives with parents and i know he has taken a few drugs in his ...
A. 18 November 2007: Hi,
If you are happy with meeting up for sex then fine, you both service a need.
But it looks like you want more, whereas he doesnt, so if you find that you are becoming attached you will end up extremely disappointed.
... (read in full...)
We have a child together but he doesn't want to leave his wife, how do I cope with this?
Q. well this is going to be long. Nearly two years ago I started an affair with a married man ( i was married too). After 5 months or so I was pregnant. I knew it was his child and he never doubted that. He stood by me and our relationship grew. We ...
A. 18 November 2007:
I'm sorry to say but he is never going to leave his wife for you. He would have done by now if he ever was going to.
You are just going to have to accept that you will be the other woman in his life, if you believe his stories about waiting for ... (read in full...)
I was wondering if breaking the window of his RV was abusive, since he locked me up - intentionally or not?
Q. Was I abusive? I got in a fight with my fiance a while ago, and I was getting my stuff packed to leave and walked out of the RV that we were living in with my bags. Then he locked me out, but I realized I didn't have my purse or keys, so obviously I ...
A. 18 November 2007: You need to make up your mind , why are you asking these questions? You only posted a question a little while ago asking if he was abusive. Now you are asking if you are abusive.
If these are real questions I suggest you sort it out between the two ... (read in full...)
He never called back, what should I do?
Q. I met a guy on My Space because I had requested him as a friend. He accepted. I had sent him a couple of comments. Till one day he sent me a message in my in box giving me his number telling me to call him so I do. He asks me if he can call me back ...
A. 18 November 2007: Hi,
If he was really keen he would call you . Two days isnt that long a time and for a lot of guys its nothing, but if it was me I would've called you back by now. So I think at best he is a guy who takes things easy and is not big on the comm... (read in full...)
Do you think he fancy's me?
Q. i have a friend and recently we have been spending a lot more time together. he is actly differently towards me grap my shoulders and shacking me when he thinks i am not paying attention to him (this has happened twice)sats on my knee,hugs when we ...
A. 15 November 2007: Yes he does, if you fancy him why dont you just ask him out?... (read in full...)
Can I get some advise or some clues as to why he may be acting like this?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been talking for 2 1/2 years now. We have just started going out this year. But, recently he's been talking kind of mean to me. He has told me that I am not a part of his family. Any other guy would conside his girlfriend a ...
A. 15 November 2007: Hi,
It really is very hard to tell why he is acting like this.
But one thing is for sure he is taking his problems out on you.
I think the only resolution here is for you to put your foot down, maybe a temporary seperation for a start.
This cou... (read in full...)
I love my husbad, but he's choosing porn over me, how can I get him to want to be with me!?
Q. I am a newly wed of only 9 months and my husband seems to want to look at porn instead of me..I am a 34 years old and he is 39..I want to be with him often but when I try to get him aroused he says he is tired but then after I go to sleep he gets up ...
A. 15 November 2007: Hi,
If he was watching just a little bit of porn and using it to spice things up I would say no problem. Hell, I do it!!
But he's not is he, he has a new wife (9 months!) who is willing to offer herself in person, so substituting thi... (read in full...)
How can I convince him.
Q. Ok so I want to have a female-female-male 3some with my girlfriend and another girl. but she says she wont have a ffm 3some with me unless i have a male-male-female threesome with her... i dont want to have a mmf 3some but i really want to have a ...
A. 15 November 2007: sorry mate, but you know that nobody is going to sympathise with your predicament. I agree with RCN she is probably just saying this to make you realise she is a one guy girl.
Then again, if she is serious then why is her request unreason... (read in full...)
How do I bring up his drug taking without damaging the relationship??
Q. I've been with my husband for over three years, but we've only been married about three months. He has been an amazing husband! He provides for me financially and is in school(even though I work, all my money goes towards savings), he helps around ...
A. 15 November 2007: Hi,
I can speak from experience having dabbled in many things over my life.
My ex hated it , and I would do what your husband does, wait till she was away or whatever and then hang out with friends etc. Why did I do it? Pure escapism, I ... (read in full...)
He helps out his ex financially, should I be worried that he might go back to her?
Q. My boyfriend is from Romania and went to college in the the US. he is graduated and gainfully employed. he dated another Romanian girl for 4 years while in college. He gave her a credit card in his name to help her financially (while in college). ...
A. 15 November 2007: Hi,
I think you are just one of these girls who happens to have picked a very nice man.
Sure I can understand that you feel uncomfortable with him supporting this girl, and lets face it she needs to find a way of supporting herself and she is d... (read in full...)
Is he wanting sex?
Q. I want my b/f back! it seems lately that my b/f and i are drifting apart, more so he then me. He used to call me all the time just to c wat i was doing, he wanted to kiss me every chance he got, and he acted like he cared more about me in ...
A. 15 November 2007: I'm sorry to say mate, but it looks like he is no longer interested in you as a person. This happens I'm afraid and you just have to accept that you two aren't a match.
Now, he doesnt have to talk to you, but he is a young guy and he gets horny, s... (read in full...)
He's sulky, and he says I nag him, how can I stop this?
Q. When sometimes me and my boyfriend are talking and I say something and either by the tone of his voice I realize he's upset or because he says something like "I have to go" or he suddenly has something else to do... when I ask him what's wrong he ...
A. 15 November 2007: Hi,
You two definitely have a communication problem. Though I wonder how much of this is his problem not yours.
Men do prefer to get an issue over with as quickly as possible where a lot of females like to discuss an issue to its resolved ( or the... (read in full...)
Average amount of sex partners in a lifetime.
Q. I was wondering whether anybody knew the average amount sexual partners men and women have in their lifetimes. Im 17 years old and only have had One, I know this is quite normal and am relatively happy about it. I suppose im asking, what can i ...
A. 15 November 2007: Hi,
It is not a question you should be asking yourself. It's as though you need to put something in the bank so you can judge someone in the future: "He's had 10 different partners so he must be a player" . this is a dangerous route to go down.
Y... (read in full...)
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