Do I stay in the marriage for the sake of the children?
Q. Help! I have been married for 25 years. Have 2 children. 6 and 9. For most of my marriage, my husband has refused to touch me. I used to think there was something wrong with me, but turns out, he is very messed up sexually, and we've just started ...
A. 23 October 2007: Hi,
I can understand it must be very painful for you now. Having no physical connection with your husband must be very hard for you. However I'm a bit perplexed as to why it has taken 25 years for you to start confronting this issue?
For one, ... (read in full...)
Bald or bushy? Why's my man obssessed with it?
Q. Iam 21 years old. I have been with my boyfriend now for a year. We generally have a satisfying sex life, except one thing: He wants me to shave "down there". I personally do not like or want to do it. I also dont believe in it. I believe a woman ...
A. 23 October 2007: Hi,
these days guys prefer girls to be at least partially shaved and I think you're beliefs are a little conservative . However, it is still your body and your decision. If your boyfriend cannot handle it then its his problem - his response... (read in full...)
He feels he didn't do anything wrong because he didn't have sex.
Q. I luv and am stil inlove with my husband.But he hurt me and i feel betrayed. About 2mths ago i caught him having inappropriate conversations with women in chatrooms downloaded on his cellphone.I went thru his cell while he was sleeping cos he didnt ...
A. 23 October 2007: Hi,
you are not being silly. Your husband has betrayed your trust and ,moreover, he seems to be unrepentant.
The fact that your sex life has taken a nose dive suggests that these online daliances are diverting his romantic interest away from you... (read in full...)
I'm torn between a possible career or love.
Q. hey guys, i have a simple small question to ask I have thought about joining the army for awhile now and i was thinking i should do it but the problem is, i dont want to leave my girlfriend behind, i dont trust her to say that she'll wait for ...
A. 23 October 2007: You sound like you want to build a life with this girl, so why jeopardise it? You are right, a lot of women need their spouses to actually be present during a relationship. Not to say that a lot of army spouses arent happy, but the spouse must be ... (read in full...)
I feel the same way as I was pregnant.
Q. ok well i am 14 years old and i have a boyfriend that is 17 we have sex all the time but i was pregnant before but never told him cause we broke up and then i lost it and then i told him and he flip out and said he was mad because i never told him ...
A. 23 October 2007: Hi,
You need to explain your question better. It is very hard to understand what you are asking.
Did your boyfriend flip out because he realised he might go to jail for having sex with a minor?
Before you get into any more trouble are you ... (read in full...)
Am I reading too much into this? What do you make of my potential boyfriend?
Q. I recently moved to a new city, been here for about 4 months now, and found a new job. With this, I found some new friends. Two guys and a girl. One of the guys, and the girl have partners, so of course that left those two saying something was gonna ...
A. 23 October 2007: he sounds like an immature prat if you ask me.
Its funny how friends often feel that the spare wheels in the group should naturally get together, as though just by being single you should try anything. Of course if this applied to themselves it woul... (read in full...)
She wasn't sure our relation was going to work so we met unofficially! Since her mum introduced her to someone else, she's put me aside. What shall I do?
Q. Hi I met someone and after 8-9months we were going to get married - but shortly after she decided to cancel saying that she had issues with me and would like to sort through them - then 2weeks after she said she just wanted out and it wasnt going to...
A. 23 October 2007: I'm afraid to say she uses you as her fallback guy. You are the one she goes to when the others dont work out.
You should delete her number cease contact with her and get on with your life, she obviously is not able to commit herself to someone ... (read in full...)
He said he was gay, then said he intended to make me initiate a break up, and now he is pushing me into marriage and having kids! What do I do?
Q. Okay guys/girls..I will try my best to keep this short... I've been with a guy, lets call him R. for almost 3 years now. things were always rocky, he was abused by his parents and it seems he takes his anger at them out on me... But thats not ...
A. 23 October 2007: It sounds like he wants the so called stability that the life of wife and kids apparently offers. He can pretend he's "normal" while engaging in his own peculiar fantasies. You see these guys coming out of public toilets followed by their conquests, ... (read in full...)
He's been looking at busty women. Should I be worried?
Q. I know I shouldn't have done it, but because of past relationships I looked into my boyfriend's history on his computer and found that he looked at a couple of youtube clips featuring very busty ladies. He told me he was just curious when the clips ...
A. 23 October 2007: Most guys get turned on by porn and hell a lot of girls do as well ( the friendlier women centred porn that is ).
Does your boyfriend get insecure over the fact he hasnt got a 9 inch penis? NO? Its the same thing really, what's on the screen is fant... (read in full...)
How can I try and understand my gay friend?
Q. I want to be able to support my gay friend. How can I try and understand? I really want to be able to support my friend as he is gay but I think he worries about finding partners and having homosexual relationships. He likes this guy but we don't...
A. 23 October 2007: It looks like your gay friend has some pretty solid support already from you.
I wouldnt worry, at the end of the day its up to him to explore his sexuality. But if you want to help you can ask the question yourself. By that I mean, if you are in a... (read in full...)
I found my dad has been cheating on my mom.
Q. I found out that my dad has been cheating on my mother for the past 4/5 years (maybe longer) with women on the internet as well as women he meets at business trips. I found out because he accidentally left open an internet browser when I went on ...
A. 22 October 2007: Hi,
It looks like you have made up your mind already. "I don't think I ever will" is what you said.
The only alternative is to confront your dad, tell him that all he has said over the years is a lie and the only way he can redeem himself is to pr... (read in full...)
Is he playin head games with me, or does he really have feelings for me?
Q. I have this guy that i work with...i really think i'm in love with him and i know he's got feeling for me too. whenever i talk to him on the phone, or see him at work my stomach feels like it's knotting up. my hands sweat whenever i get close to ...
A. 22 October 2007: You are in lust with him. Not love. Seriously what type of man is it who has a partner with twins on the way and he's flirting with a work colleague.
How would you feel if you hooked up with this man, he got you pregnant then he started to flir... (read in full...)
Longer lasting sex or a danger?
Q. I have heard that to improve the time you last under the sheets you can use your pelvic muscles to try and stop your self pissing, which i guess is a mini work out those muscles. I can now stop my self pissing three or four times during a single ...
A. 22 October 2007: you are confusing this for kegels I believe. The retraction of the muscles which you use during urination are rumoured to strenthen the muscles which allow for a longer and sustained erection. From what I have read some guys refer to their member ... (read in full...)
My ex sent me a friend request on myspace.
Q. My ex-boyfriend sent me a friend request on myspace. He was on there before when we were dating but he'd decided to delete his profile (not because we broke up). I don't really want him in my list, or as a friend because he was too intense of a ...
A. 22 October 2007: Go up to him in your class and tell him you feel uncomfortable about having an ex boyfriend on your list. Simple as that. If he asks why you can respond that you havent given up dating and there is a chance you and he will meet someone in future for ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my love?
Q. There is this guy i love him soo much, we used to be soo close. we started saying we were together a while ago now but there is a huge age gap of 11years and it is hard for him to love me because he is used to living with his girlfriends, and as im ...
A. 22 October 2007: I hate to be a spoilsport mate, but here in our country (Australia ) he would go to jail for child molestation if he were found to be having a relationship with you.
I imagine that's what is putting him off. If you really care about him, maybe you ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to think about my behavior. What do you think?
Q. i went out drinking last night and got 'extremely' drunk. i brought home a woman with the intention of having sex with her and a friend of hers and a another guy came back too. after a while, i disappeared upstairs to have sex with the girl, leaving ...
A. 22 October 2007: I think the answer is simple, neither is right or wrong.
Hell you are young, everybody goes out and gets plastered, thats part of being young.
But its different these days (thankfully ) as friends are really concerned about letting single girls go... (read in full...)
Am I getting played?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for over a year now. In the beginning it was great but then I did what I always do when someone got too close I ran. I told him I liked his friend and did not want to have a relationship with him which was a lie. After ...
A. 22 October 2007: Its hard to blame him as you seem so unsure of yourself and he is probably trying to protect himself from getting hurt.
At the end of the day though, nobody is winning in this situation. You have got to exude more self confidence otherwise you are ... (read in full...)
Can you give me an opinion to this situation?
Q. So ive been with my g/f for 8 months and everything was incredible til about 2 wks ago, she got very depressed. Were both 25. We never actually planned on being in a relationship, it started as just a friend w/ benefit type of situation. When we ...
A. 22 October 2007: It seems like you two guys have it worked out pretty well.\
By that I mean for what looks like quite a complicated situation ( money, time etc ) you both are on very good terms and the sparks are still there.
I would just wait and see what happens,... (read in full...)
Do you think he's serious, or just playing me?
Q. Im in major need of some opinions/advice!!! I have known this friend since Feb this year. For the majority of the time I had a bf. However me and my bf broke up 2 months ago. When that happened my frined started showing me alot more attention. ...
A. 22 October 2007: Hi,
him asking if you are a virgin or not is seriously suss.
For one, what business is it of his?
Secondly, its almost proprietorial - in that if you are a virgin then you suddenly become more attractive as no other guy has had you. Plenty of gu... (read in full...)
What do I do now? I'm lost!
Q. Any advice right now would be so greatly appreciated...My boyfriend of 4 years has just broken up with me. I am absolutely devastated, and I really didn't see it coming. We got together at the start of uni, and graduated in the summer. He is now in ...
A. 22 October 2007: Hi,
sorry to hear about what has happened. You have been dealt a crap hand here mate.
Your boyfriend's friendship with this other girl was the first sign of concern. Having said that though if she isnt in Japan with him I cant see how she would be... (read in full...)
Should I give him an untimatum?
Q. I am in a long distance relationship since 5 years. He is American and I am Canadian. The first 2 years we spent lots of weekends together. We love each other and we fit perfectly well together. We spoke about getting married early in our ...
A. 22 October 2007: Hi,
It really sounds like you are in a tough spot. Mostly because all the boundaries in the relationship seem to revolve around what your boyfriend wants not what you want.
Obviously he cannot help being overseas on service, but by the sounds o... (read in full...)
I don't want to tell him about my crushes.
Q. Sorry, it's a bit long.... I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years now and have lived with him for most of this time. I am currently living with him in his home area and most of 'our' friends are his. I love it here and have a good job but am ...
A. 22 October 2007: Where to start?! It sounds like you both have serious low self esteem, hence why you end up pashing a stranger at a pub and his harrassing this other girl.
He being 'honest' with you about these other daliances is a load of rubbish, its almost as t... (read in full...)
Am I getting the wrong end of the stick?
Q. Hi, There's a girl (j) I work with who's well to say the least, so beautiful and has a lovely personality, we both work for a communications company and I've been there since June and she's been there since febuary this year also, While i was on m...
A. 22 October 2007: Dude, what are you waiting for? She's doing everything but asking you out, but she wont so its up to you!
Get in there, otherwise some smarmy guy who asks 100 girls out a week will get in there before you!
Good luck... (read in full...)
Are men able to cope with more than one thing at a time?
Q. i ve been seeing someone for about a month. we ve agreed to be exclusive and things were going great. however he s been having some personal problems in the last week and has been ignoring any attempt ive made to get in touch, which really hasnt ...
A. 22 October 2007: Hi,
despite the rumours, yes, we men can think about more than one thing at a time ( although we give appearances that we often cant ).
Having said that, lack of communication is more a male problem than female, but after only a month you wo... (read in full...)
I want to have sex, will it hurt?
Q. im 12 years old and my boyfreind is 23 years old,we want to have sex will it hurt and will he have to force his penis in me?...
A. 22 October 2007: O.K.. if this is not a joke ( and I pray that it is ) then I truly hope that this paedophile will be arrested and thrown into jail.
... (read in full...)
I'm getting board with my marriage.
Q. hi... need some advice, im married 4 almost 7 years with 1 kid. since i got married me and my husband were staying together, we work on the same company,..lately, i was so bored with our relationship..our daily activities were only ...
A. 19 October 2007: Hi,
It sounds like you and your husband are not communicating very well with each other any more.
Why not try and plan some activities that both of you can do together, if he is reluctant then perhaps suggest something you know he will be inte... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to get through this?
Q. I've recently gotten in engaged to my fiance' about 2 months ago. We've known each other for about 2 years and lived together for nearly a year. We had a plan to come to the US, (i'm a us citizen) and start a life here. So I've given up my job and ...
A. 19 October 2007: Jumping on a plane may not be a bad idea. It would give you two a chance to clear the air and find out what is really going on. Maybe you turning up in person will help alleviate all the tension?
She really could be terrified of starting a new life... (read in full...)
Help! I am addicted to him
Q. me and my ex split 2 and a half months ago we were together for 7 years, he said he wanted to be single. i was totally devaststed. i found out he started seeing another girl 2 weeks later. he says he still loves me but doesnt want a serious ...
A. 19 October 2007: Gee some guys really do have it all huh. It almost makes me envious for these type of guys, they have all the girls at their beck and call and they seem to always want to come back for more. No committment , no relationship, just good ole sex and ... (read in full...)
Cheated on my husband and now I'm pregnant.
Q. I am in love with a man and he is really good to me. However, I cheated on him and he was always working and not making any time for fun with me. I am pregnant and wondering if I should tell my husband?...
A. 19 October 2007: You have to tell your husband. He may even be suspicious , especially if he does the maths and realises he cant possibly be the father.
You should also have a check up for STD's as the unprotected sex might have given you something else other th... (read in full...)
I'm grossed out by his behaviour. I need some reassurance.
Q. Is his behavior appropriate. My ex-fiance (thank God he's an ex) used to do a lot of things that made me worry. And one was he was 34 (i'm 24) and he talked to a 17 yr. old because it was his 22 yr. old friend's younger sister. anyway, I remember ...
A. 19 October 2007: Count your blessings you are no longer engaged to this man.
I wouldn't be worrying about it now though, you are split up, its time to move on and forget this creep.
He sounds quite sick if you ask me.... (read in full...)
Is there a way that I track my man's escort service adventures? How?
Q. Is there a way to find out if your significant other uses or has used a local escort service? And still uses from time to time? Is there a way to find either his phone number or his name from the escort service log books? If so? How? Thanks~...
A. 19 October 2007: There's only one real way to be sure I guess. Hire a private detective.
... (read in full...)
I'm a proffessional hacker, but I don't like what I've found. What shall I do?
Q. I'm 30 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 7 months. I've known him for 6-7 years. We were friends before anything. I moved from one coast to have. But I am highly insecure which causes me to snoop. I ama professional in Computer spyware ...
A. 19 October 2007: You know that what you have done is snooping and a demonstration of a lack of trust.
However, can anyone blame you? Your boyfriend is a serial cheater and liar, I really can't see any problem with you snooping as he has a problem with the trut... (read in full...)
I'm happy without him... But am I still in love with him?
Q. Im really unsure wether im still in love with my x we were together for over a year and he made me so happy and since i split up with him even though i spilt up with him as i thought i was no longer in love with him now since we split up ive not ...
A. 19 October 2007: sorry mate, but it looks like you let a goodun get away.
But there is nothing you can do about it now, you did break up with him, and now he has met someone else.
If the situation were reversed, would you want your new boyfriend being at the beck... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to get through this?
Q. I've recently gotten in engaged to my fiance' about 2 months ago. We've known each other for about 2 years and lived together for nearly a year. We had a plan to come to the US, (i'm a us citizen) and start a life here. So I've given up my job and ...
A. 19 October 2007: Hi,
I don't envy your situation. It really does look like she is getting cold feet.
Perhaps the move to the U.S is something that is weighing heavily on her mind. She will be moving away from friends and family to start a new life, its natural ... (read in full...)
Why can't he be intimate with me?
Q. what does it mean when your boyfriend says he can't be intimate with you because he is unsure about 'us' but still continues to say he loves you?...
A. 17 October 2007: It sounds like he is playing games with you. But then again, its hard to tell as you dont go into any detail.
At least you know he is not using you for sex. But he could have issues with his sexuality ( I have a friend who still dates girls even... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed. How should I feel?
Q. ive been with this girl for 7months and we have a baby on the way. she always told me she had slept wit two guys before me. i come to find out from somebody other than her last night it was four guys before me she denied it and out of nowhere she ...
A. 17 October 2007: I'm curious, why do you feel upset? Because your pregnant girlfriend has told a little white lie about her past.
Remember one thing, a lot of guys are very judgmental about the girl they fall in love with's past ( I know its pathetic isnt it?? Isnt... (read in full...)
Is he trying to be unfaithful to me?
Q. what does it mean when my boyfriend looks at match.com and saves profiles in his favourites?...
A. 17 October 2007: It means there's trouble on the horizon. At the very least he may just be getting involved in a bit of harmless flirting or at worse he is looking or has found someone to have an affair/casual sex with.
The lesser of the two evils is still a betr... (read in full...)
My husband is selfish and uncaring. I'm not happy in my marriage. What do I do?
Q. I have been married for 4 years and don't know where to start. i'm 35 yrs old and married to a pilot who is gone a lot. I have a son from a previous marriage and my husband resents my son just because we have to pay for tuition and things that he ...
A. 17 October 2007: It looks like you have very specific needs for financial assistance when a new relationship starts. But you did say you made that clear to him before you got married, so he shouldnt be blaming the financial difficulties on you.
I expect he is frus... (read in full...)
A week after the break up, she's already found somebody else. I feel I can't function well without a woman in my life. How do I get over her?
Q. Well hello Me and my girlfriend just broke up and we've dated for just over three years. it was a rough break up, we both said somethings that were uncalled for. its been about a week since i saw her when we broke up but she has already moved on...
A. 17 October 2007: She's moved on bro, you have to accept that. Though, her jumping into someone else's arms almost instantly is poor form. She is on the rebound and yeah it must cut you up pretty bad.
I would contact some friends etc, get busy and before long you ... (read in full...)
I am reposting this, please help, I'm concerned.
Q. i had posted this yesterday....................................................................i i am an american citizen. i met an australian man over the internet last year and things progressed with our relationship rapidly. like we were soul ...
A. 17 October 2007: The real tragedy here is he is using you as a punching bag to alleviate all the pain he has suffered in his past. The problem for you is you appear to accept this.
From what you have said he has serious trust issues and you have fallen for his excu... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to masterbate in front of him.
Q. Just a quick question. Before having sex once, my boyfriend was fingering me and he slowly guided my hand down and basically told me to sort of rub myself. I've never done that in front of anyone before so I was kinda uncomfortable and didn't. He ...
A. 17 October 2007: Holy cow!, yep, he's hinting alright mate.
If you are into it, dont worry what ever you do he will be incredibly turned on by it. Guys who are comfortable with their partners expressing their sexuality love seeing them pleasure themselv... (read in full...)
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