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writes:I kissed a guy last weekend that ive known for about two years, after he made all the moves. i was pleasantly surprised at this because ive always known him to be shy and timid when it comes to girls. however, the communication between us during the week was sporadic to say the least. he text the following day and we shared a few general chit-chat messages but i was expecting something more from him is it shyness holding him back or was it just a once off last weekend? What does anyone think i should do, bearing in mind i dont want to ruin anything by just asking him out straight out (for fear of rejection mostly). our paths should cross again within the next few weeks. please help, my brain is fried!
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (16 October 2007):
 Oh boy, c'mon you two still haven't hooked up?
for heavens sake, just call him and yeah, ask him if he wants to meet when you get back.
But first see if he wants a drink before he goes, why dont you buy him a little present , no more than 5-10 quid's worth . He will then KNOW that you are interested.
Honestly some guys will never ask a girl out as they are in mortal fear of rejection. If this guy is giving all the signs ( and its easy to tell with a guy - put it this way if they talk to you for more than 2 minutues they are interested - simple)then for crying out loud try and meet up before he goes away. Then he will be dead keen when he gets back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to all who replied to my last message. We're still as bad as each other, meeting randomly, chatting within a bigger group but never having a chance to chat by ourselves or the courage to do anything about our feelings. the fly in the ointment now is that he's off abroad for a month at the end of October. what would any of you do? i personally am thinking of casually broaching the subject of meeting up for a drink when he returns. I feel that if i don't ask, ill torment myself thinking about it all while he's away.
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (8 October 2007):
If you have his number, give him a call and arrange to meet up somewhere. Make it the daytime so its less threatening, you could go for a coffee, or something else. If you know something he's interested in you could suggest that ( books,music etc..), it would be a good way to find out if he really is interested but just too shy to ask you out.. If he is keen he will readily accept. If not what's the harm?
Good luck!
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reader, Dustin587  +, writes (7 October 2007):
 I can tell you from the perspective of a shy guy that I don't mind a girl asking me out. When I turn down a friend that wants to go out with me, I am always excessively nice about it. I also continue the friendship and act like nothing ever happened. If I accept, I can tell you that I am always happy she is the one that made the move. Most shy guys won't make the move unless you press them - ie flirting a lot to the point it slips (happened to me a month ago, lol).
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reader, superhoopschick +, writes (7 October 2007):
 how do you feel about him? Do you like him or want to keep him as just friends? Think about it. because some guy are shy and do that and panic, then act as if it is nothing. Where others will still keep distance as friends but concider you not a girlfriend but a girl that is special to them.
Because you seem to like him...girls should NEVER ask guys out. But you can flirt. It does have to be super intense, but be nice and caring. Then let him make his moves toward you. It might take time, but if he likes ya back, you will have all his interest.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help  +, writes (7 October 2007):
 well if drink was invloved drink give you confidence to just do stuff you wouldn't normally do. i would talk to him a bout it. ask him if he would like to go to the next step and if he is a true friend he wouldn't let that ruin your friend ship.
good luck xxx
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