Is God the reason my answers aren't being posted?
Q. I don't understand. I've responded with reasonable answers to reasonable questions on this site and my answers are not being posted. Has anyone else had that problem? I've responded to some questions that are very meaningful to me becuase I've ...
A. 3 January 2008: "I think if more people received general knowledge in a simple form not based on a particular religion but based on "Gods Word" as it states in the original Bible then the true meaning of "God" would be exposed".
Hi, I am one of the moderato... (read in full...)
He dumped me and now I find myself...going past his place everyday to see if he's in...advice?
Q. Ok you lot will think im a complete idiot here but im not. I was kind of seeing this guy he was a few years older than me and to be honest ive never before had a relationship and this guy was so special i was so happy to have a guy like me. anyway c...
A. 30 December 2007: Hi,
there are a lot of guys out there who will give a girl a little time then when she doesn't "put out" will simply move on to the next girl. He wasn't into you , just sex.
But don't worry, there are plenty of guys who want to have a relationsh... (read in full...)
He said girls are attracted to guys who are mean to them...is this true?
Q. hi. i am at uni and really like my flatmate. however,he is always constantly mean to me..like he exerts his power over me, making m feel small. For example, if he says something to me and i walk or look away he's like: 'I'm not done talking to you' ...
A. 13 December 2007: No, he is mean because he is a controlling person.
There are plenty of them out there mate and many come in the best disguises. Nobody is mean for the sake of it, you have to have it inside you to be mean to someone.
The really tragic thing... (read in full...)
Should I choose my boyfriend or his brother?
Q. I am in a completely odd situation. Along time ago I met this guy I thought was so hot. I of course flirted with him and gave him my number. He called me and we talked a lot, sometimes late into the night. And then everything just ended. He never ...
A. 12 December 2007: Now you sound a bit confused. You are now saying that the brother is critisizing you and making comments about you to his brother yet you still fancy him? As I said before its the "treat em mean keep em keen" syndrome.
As for the single life, yo... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I like as my friends advised me? I'm 13, he's 27. Worried about ruining our relationship.
Q. Well for the last 3 months I've been talking to this guy. He's turning 27 soon and I"m only 13. We talk all the time and about last month I started to have feeelings for him. My friends say it's not wrong, but the age differance conserns me. They ...
A. 12 December 2007: Hi,
o.k. it looks like you have met him through the internet.
If he knows you are 13 it is very important for you to tell your parents immediately. He is a sexual predator, the police are on the lookout for these type of men and hopefully th... (read in full...)
Last night I cheated on my husband. Should I tell him?
Q. I have a terrible dilemma--I cheated on my husband last night and I don't know if I should tell him or not. We have been together for over seven years (married two), I met him when I was 18 and he's the only guy that I had ever slept with or even ...
A. 12 December 2007: Hi,
I cant believe all the people who are saying its bound to happen if you are away from your partner.
I have been away from my partner for periods of time and all it does is make me want her more, not someone else. So I think that is a very sh... (read in full...)
Poll question: duration of the sexual act?
Q. Hey i would like to know how long on average a man can have sex for, i just want to compare. can you give me one number or 2 instead of saying it varies please? Thank you so much xx...
A. 12 December 2007: well if you insist on numbers.
I think an average guy should be able to last 15-20 minutes. A wham bam thank you mam type of guy will probably only last a couple/three minutes ( you might want to avoid these ones :)
A guy with a long term parn... (read in full...)
I suspected he is a player, but we have really connected and are taking it slowly, am I just his bootie call?
Q. I met this guy about a month ago, hated him at first, he screamed player to me, however after getting to know him I began to like him and have slept with him twice. Both times we connected emotionally as well as sexually. I dont know where we're ...
A. 12 December 2007: Hi,
I wouldnt worry too much. Though if you do start to seriously fall for him, you might want to get some further commitment otherwise risk being severely disappointed.
But in a way isnt this what all relationships are about? Most fail early o... (read in full...)
She says she's going to leave her husband for me, but I'm not sure, neither me or her husband deserve this, should I say enough is enough?
Q. i am having an affair with a married girl , i have tried to end it cause i love her but she cannot be with me . but she came right bk the next day saying she had made a mistake to let me go , and i am the only one she wants so i took her bk , and ...
A. 12 December 2007:
I'm sure her husband will me more than willing to sit down with you and talk man to man about you taking his wife off his hands. Especially if he loves her, he wouldnt want to see her unhappy with himself when she can live happily everafter in your... (read in full...)
Should I choose my boyfriend or his brother?
Q. I am in a completely odd situation. Along time ago I met this guy I thought was so hot. I of course flirted with him and gave him my number. He called me and we talked a lot, sometimes late into the night. And then everything just ended. He never ...
A. 12 December 2007: Ever heard of the phrase "treat 'em mean keep 'em keen"?
I've heard guys who say this and they swear by it as a means of keeping girls interested, the type of guys who play around with girls affections, treat them poorly then lighten up a litt... (read in full...)
I'm still slim and attractive but he'd rather look at other women. Should I leave and find someone who is interested in me?
Q. I am worried about my sex life with hubby, we have a difficult sex life anyway mainly due to him masturbating since being a boy, he is now 48 and we have been married for 29 years, I only recently found this out, and he was watching porn behind my ...
A. 11 December 2007: Hi,
It does sound a bit like a middle age crises to me. However this is not to excuse his behaviour towards you which is outrageous.
I simply don't buy the "my girlfriend/wife is too loose" comment which we see a lot of here. I've had one girl... (read in full...)
My fiance who I love dearly is a former cheater, now a woman at work is tempting me to have an affair. What to do?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my woman for 12 years. We are still both not married. We were engaged early this millenium until I found out from her electronic mail that she's been cheating on me. We mended that problem and I stayed. We are in...
A. 11 December 2007: Hi,
it sounds like you really havent gotten closure over your partner's infidelity. I say this because you use her infidelity as justification to why it wouldnt be too bad for you to get a taste yourself before marriage.
The way you wrote this s... (read in full...)
Should I dump my teacher even though I'm madly in love with him?
Q. ok...here goes...i havnt even told my best mates about this so i cant believe im telling the whole internet...im having an affair with my teacher and its been going on for three years... honestly i cant believe noones found out about it yet and i ...
A. 11 December 2007: Hi,
well I can only guess that you are closer to 18 than to 21 - this based on your comment that he could have gone to jail when you first started making out 3 years ago.
You may be of legal age now, but you weren't then.
What you should be th... (read in full...)
She's only with him for his money. I'm in love with him! Help me!
Q. I've just came out of a 5 yr relation ship.One of the reasons i left him apart from him being abusive and a slob was becuase i had fallen for someone else (one of my best friends). This person never knew that this was my reason for leaving him and ...
A. 11 December 2007: In that case then I would still say nothing to him. It will only make you look jealous and it will be her word against yours. If she is a gold digger then he will find out soon enough on his own accord.
Then again there's nothing stopping you purs... (read in full...)
Why does he always go "limp" when I go on top?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for over a year and we have never had any problems. Until now, he will get hard but as soon as I want to be on top he goes limp. Any advice as to what's wrong?...
A. 11 December 2007: Hi,
this is not as uncommon a problem as one might think.
It generally has to do with the man fearing that the woman is going to "break" his penis if she is too vigorous on top.
Of course there are men who refuse to let woman go on top as the... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my husband's boss. What should I do?
Q. I've got feelings for my husbands boss and i know he feels the same way. We flirted with ech other at a recent party (not a work party) and he made it clear how he felt since then we spoke on the phone and agreed it could never happen but i cant get ...
A. 10 December 2007: You need to get a grip and find out what is missing in your life which is making your eye wander.
My word, there could be no bigger kick in the teeth for a man to have his wife sleep with his boss. Put the shoe on the other foot, imagine your husb... (read in full...)
15, pregnant, and my parents are angry with me. What should I do?
Q. I am 15 and pregnant. I am soooo scared but feel that with support i can do this. My boyfriend has just turned 18, he is my brothers friend. He says he will support me whatever happens, he has a good job and says he will do everything to support his ...
A. 10 December 2007: I know it must seem very hard to understand your parents attitude.
But as everyone here has said, despite how you have convinced yourself you are all grown up and mature, you are not, you are 15 years old. If you were grown up and mature you woul... (read in full...)
She's only with him for his money. I'm in love with him! Help me!
Q. I've just came out of a 5 yr relation ship.One of the reasons i left him apart from him being abusive and a slob was becuase i had fallen for someone else (one of my best friends). This person never knew that this was my reason for leaving him and ...
A. 10 December 2007: Hi,
relationships are like newly opened restaurants , about 70% fail in the first year. I wouldnt worry about your friend as he may not be into her. Or chances are it wont come to anything.
But the issue here is not your friend, she has ... (read in full...)
Our problem is that he is constantly telling me that he would have sex with this or that woman.
Q. hi there can someone give me some advice please? I am on a relationship with a younger man and my problem is that he is constantly telling me that he would have sex with this or that woman. I make excuses for him telling myself that this...
A. 10 December 2007: Just how much younger than you is he? Is he still in his 20's? It sounds like he is very immature and just trying to prove to you what an accomplished "swordsman" he is.
I would simply tell him to stop being a prat and show you some respect.... (read in full...)
What to do over my drunken text messaging?
Q. I'm getting divorced, and felt low at the weekend. I drank too much at home alone so texted a guy that I fancy, and asked him to come over for a drink.... I didn't hear back, and am now very embarrassed about it. What should I do now? I bu...
A. 10 December 2007: Hi,
dont worry about it. If anything it will give you an excuse to get things out in the open. Personally I wouldnt text message him again - it is such a impersonal thing to do for me anyway.
Next time you see him simply state that you had some... (read in full...)
Swallow or not? Pros and cons please!
Q. Ok, this area REALLY worries me - Blow-jobs!! Firstly, do you have to swallow after giving a blow-job? Secondly, would anyone think less of you if you didn't? What is it like? And finally, is it actually a good thing to do?...
A. 10 December 2007: Hi,
it doesnt matter one bit. Although you will get a type of guy who it does matter to - they have posted on here and are all insecure about why their girl doesn't swallow - these are usually the type of guys who also moan about their partner'... (read in full...)
We were having sex, and I yelled out another man's name,how can I make this better?
Q. we had a huge night the other night ( no sleep) and we were having sex when i guess i sort of started half dreaming - it was alomost like a micro sleep - but i woke up and called him another mans name. obviously he was very upset and doesnt seem to ...
A. 10 December 2007: Hi there,
I am wondering what you are doing "half dreaming" during sex anyway? I can't imagine any guy getting overly excited if a girl he is having sex with starts dozing off!
And that's even without taking into account you calling out another ... (read in full...)
My friend thinks I'm straight, but I'm in love with her!
Q. I think I've always been bi.Since starting soccer(the lesbian day hangout where i'm from)I've made alot of lesbian freinds. I'm a major tom-boy so most people assume I'm gay, and I tell them I'm not. I recently kissed a girl, and it just felt ...
A. 10 December 2007: sounds like she's into you too from what you say, the touchy feely stuff is with girls hard to interpret, but her getting jealous is a definite sign. But most convincing is her approval of you kissing a girl. Maybe if its her first time she might be ... (read in full...)
This is my second marriage, his first, any ideas how we can keep the costs down and still make it special?
Q. I am getting married on April. This is my second weeding but my boyfriends first. I am not into spending a lot of money because I know the drill of spending 10k for 4 hours of fun and is not nice afterwards. The thing is he still wants a wedding ...
A. 10 December 2007: My wife and I got married at a registry office,then we went with all our friends to a lovely cafe/restaurant in Hampstead Heath, it was beautiful. It cost nothing but the cost of the dinner and drinks. Everybody had the best time as there was no ... (read in full...)
Should I run from this guy, he seems a little too good to be true?
Q. Ok ! I PRETTY MUCH know what im doing when it comes to men . I was married to the BIGGEST and WORST kinda PLAYER in the book ! I got involved with him at the age of 15 and married him at 18 and divorced him at 33 im now 36 . Ive learned ALOT and ...
A. 7 December 2007: Hey there,
the other poster is right, just because your last man was a player it doesnt mean all of us are players.
The thing is to take it easy with him, hang out , date , make out do what you wanna do, there's no law suggesting you have to ... (read in full...)
My ex is hot, I can't get him out of my head, but there's no way he will take me back, how can I get over this?
Q. Im drivin myself crazy thinkin about my ex NON STOP!!! He was absolutely gorgeous and so sexy i wish I was still with him but he couldnt put up with my worrying about other girls!! Ive tried to get him back but he doesnt want to know. But all I can ...
A. 6 December 2007: Hi there,
you at least admit it was lust not love, as no relationship based around a person's looks is going to last very long. You can only have sex for so long during a day, the rest of the time you are stuck with their personality :)
Do... (read in full...)
I am upset with her because she slept with two guys during our 'break'. But I also slept with someone else! Advice?
Q. My girfiend of 4yrs and I broke up for a couple of months recently, but we remained in contact throughout and even slept together a few times. We got back together which I was happy about until she admitted sleeping with 2 different guys during ...
A. 6 December 2007: You're stuck dude, if you do fess up she will more angry with you as she at least was honest with you.
You on the other hand are playing the moral high card while all along you were sleeping with someone anyway.
She should be concerned th... (read in full...)
My fiancee cheated on me, he said I'm rubbish in bed, we have a baby together but should I leave him?
Q. my fiancee cheated on me with my sister in law at a family party in september, i only just found out by accident when i saw a text she sent him at the time. i took him back because we have 2 year old daughter, but i cant stand him touching me and ...
A. 6 December 2007: It's a terrible thing to have to say to someone they should leave their partner especially when a child is involved.
But what is the alternative for you, you have a partner who has no respect for you, he is unfaithful, he is cruel and unkind.
You h... (read in full...)
Wife took me off-guard by regaling to our friends..how she made some guy's toes curl with a BJ before she met me! This pissed me off..how do I deal with this?
Q. My wife and I were out drinking with some friends, and (don't ask why, because I don't know), her one female friend asked if all guys curl their toes when they have an orgasm. I'm assuming that her husband either does or doesn't and she was curious ...
A. 6 December 2007: Hi,
Yes I agree that if it makes you uncomfortable you should tell your wife it does, you have a right not to be embarrassed by your wife if it can be avoided. But you fall into the same argument that most men who post on here do. You become o... (read in full...)
What do I tell him about why I didnt reply??
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out over a month now and I know he loves me but I'm always the one punishing him, I mean playing hard to get still which I know I shouldn't be doing. But I want to know how far or what he would do, He hasn't heard ...
A. 5 December 2007: Hi there,
This is what happens when you play games with people. You have to ask yourself why you did this? What do you possibly hope to achieve?
A relationship is about trust, faithfulness, loyalty and being honest with each other, it is a part... (read in full...)
She initiated everything but now I feel bad because she was a virgin.
Q. I was at one of my fraternity parties, and I met a girl on the dance floor. I was incredibly drunk, so I was super-friendly. We hit it off fast, and started making out. She pulled me into a darker room, and was throwing her leg up on me, and ...
A. 5 December 2007: Hi,
dont beat yourself up here mate. You did nothing wrong, you were at a party , met a girl, and got busy with her. Anyone who judges you on that is a hypocrite.
And the key thing is , when she asked you to stop you did.
She can count her lu... (read in full...)
Could my husband be bisexual or gay?
Q. I'm questioning my husband as being gay/bisexual. We have three kids, have been married almost 10 years and have known each other for 20 yrs. Here are my thoughts: opened computer to find "(user name) is currently logged in" - this was a male ...
A. 5 December 2007: Hi,
sorry to say , but all the symptons are there, but it's definetely not conclusive. He could be bi-sexual, but there are a lot of men out there in marriages with kids who are closet homosexuals. If you are living in a conservative environm... (read in full...)
It's just got too boring and I don't know if I want to be with him anymore. Anybody been in a similar situation??
Q. I have been with my current boyfriend for 2 years now but i think we have just grown apart i am beginning to question if i want to be with him any more. I like to go out to clubs etc and have fun but all he wants to do is stay at home and do nothi...
A. 4 December 2007: Hi there,
sorry to say but you are right. You have grown apart. At your age there should be no reason why you can't go out clubbing or whatever you want to do. If your boyfriend is holding you back, let him go and you might just meet someone... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity , it was horrible he treated me bad, now I want to wait till I get married, but the guy will probably be a virgin too, will this be a problem?
Q. I'm 18 years old and I've had sex with one person before, this was my ex bf of 7 months. I felt I was in love with him, yet it turns out the guy who I was 'in love with' didnt exist- it was all an act he put on. Less then a week after we had sex, ...
A. 4 December 2007: Hi,
I think you are wanting to avoid sex for all the wrong reasons. This is not a religious or moral viewpoint merely one based on a bad sexual experience.
I think you should take heed that most people enjoy healthy sex which is enjoyable an... (read in full...)
I am worried I came on too strong...now what do I do??
Q. Hi all, Im new to this but see people regularly reply to mesages which will be great for me... I have met, weekend before last a new guy.. i am 26 and he is 23 and i am really really excited and totally into him. We met in a club and he lives abo...
A. 4 December 2007: Hi,
as a male i have one simple piece of advise. If you text at 8.15 dont text again 10 minutes later, then 10 minutes after that. A lot of guys alarm bells will start ringing "clingy". If you text him, wait for him to reply , simple as that.
O... (read in full...)
This guy has been flirting with me now for a couple of weeks, but he hasn't made a move yet, should I?
Q. Hey ! I need some help here ??? Ive been talking to this guy for about two weeks now . He calls every day and has been to my house twice to watch movies and hang out . He has stopped by my business several times to say hi and he tells me how sexy ...
A. 4 December 2007: I would make the first move in your position.
You need to know if he is a bit of a player and is just leading you on, or if he is genuine but a little shy and doesnt want to appear to forward by asking you out.
If he's one of these guys who dri... (read in full...)
We are getting married, but he's neglecting me in bed, is there hope I can turn this around?
Q. Hello, Well I have a bit of a problem. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and we are going to be married in a few months. When we were first together, he was a sensual and giving lover, and did perform oral sex on me occasionally. But as time ...
A. 30 November 2007: I guess the question is, are you prepared to spend your life with this man knowing he is not interested in meeting your needs in the bedroom? I assume you realise things won't improve after you get married.
Some men will do anything to please a girl... (read in full...)
I cheated and we are seeing a counsellor but what do we do till then??
Q. I recently cheated on my husband. We have been talking about it for a couple of days and have an appointment to meet with a counsellor, but not for another week. What do we until then?...
A. 30 November 2007: Hi again,
it is natural that he is going to take a lot of time before he can trust you again. You just have to accept this.
A lot of couples end up stronger after an affair, hopefully you two can be the same. Just stay strong and keep your he... (read in full...)
Is it true that most men need to sleep with various women? Is "it was just sex" just an excuse? Or is there actually a connection?
Q. is it true that most men need to sleep with various women? is it possible for a man to "love" a woman but cheat on her constantly and it mean nothing? when men say "its just sex" is there really a connection. Is this true or just intended to make it ...
A. 29 November 2007: Hi there,
oh dear, I'm sorry but you have got a cheating scumbag on your hands. I assume you are asking this question as a boyfriend has told you this?
In any event, a guy can treat sex as just sex, a physical event with a grand finale, an... (read in full...)
I would not like my partner to feel pressurised if I (curiously) ask him about wanting a baby!
Q. hey guys, Right here is goes, how can you tell if your boyfriend wants a baby?. my boyfriend is 18, far tooo young i know but i keep gettin the feeling that he wants us to have a baby. can men get broody too? is it normal at this age? i dont rea...
A. 29 November 2007: Hi there,
A simple answer to this question :
There is not a single man on this whole planet who feels broody at the age of 18.
18 year boys, want to go out, party, spend time with friends, anything - they dont want to have babies.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to sleep with other guys to 'learn new tricks'. Isnt this totally off the wall?
Q. i was a virgin when i met my boyfriend so hes the only guy i have ever slept with, given a BJ to, etc, etc. we have been together for nearly 4 years but he ended it the other day and said that he wanted to go on a break and that he wanted me to go ...
A. 29 November 2007: Hi there,
sorry to say but this is really weird. I think he is using this an a pathetic excuse. I hope so anyway, as otherwise you really are lucky to be done with him.
If a couple love each other, they are in no better position to explore new ... (read in full...)
I cheated and we are seeing a counsellor but what do we do till then??
Q. I recently cheated on my husband. We have been talking about it for a couple of days and have an appointment to meet with a counsellor, but not for another week. What do we until then?...
A. 29 November 2007: Given that your husband has agreed to see a counsellor with you, I assume he is prepared to work through this with you.
A counsellor is not going to be able to wave a majic wand and make your problems go away, bascially its down to the two of you ... (read in full...)
I cheated and we are seeing a counsellor but what do we do till then??
Q. I recently cheated on my husband. We have been talking about it for a couple of days and have an appointment to meet with a counsellor, but not for another week. What do we until then?...
A. 29 November 2007: Given that your husband has agreed to see a counsellor with you, I assume he is prepared to work through this with you.
A counsellor is not going to be able to wave a majic wand and make your problems go away, bascially its down to the two of you ... (read in full...)
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