Average amount of sex partners in a lifetime.
Q. I was wondering whether anybody knew the average amount sexual partners men and women have in their lifetimes. Im 17 years old and only have had One, I know this is quite normal and am relatively happy about it. I suppose im asking, what can i ...
A. 15 November 2007: Hi,
It is not a question you should be asking yourself. It's as though you need to put something in the bank so you can judge someone in the future: "He's had 10 different partners so he must be a player" . this is a dangerous route to go down.
Y... (read in full...)
I just woke up one day and she had packed her bags...now there are photos of her with another man.
Q. About 7 weeks ago, I woke up one Saturday morning to find that my partner of 5 years had packed some bags and said that she didn't think she loved me anymore and that she needed some time to be herself. We never argued and we had a great ...
A. 14 November 2007: Hi,
Well its not just us men who are cheaters I guess. She's just trying to make you feel better by not being honest about her relationship with her workmate, but that is now irrelevant for you as she has left you and if you dwell on her infideli... (read in full...)
Questions for guys, do you prefer younger girls over more experienced women in bed, is humour important?
Q. A survey for the men: How important is the quality of sex in the choices that you make for a relationship to stand long term. Perhaps a younger pretty girl, not so experienced or good in bed vs. an older woman who is very experienced and lusty. ...
A. 14 November 2007: Hmmmm. o.k here's my list.
I definitely prefer women over 30 to under. For one, she will have a lot of experience (hopefully!) and this will come out in the bedroom. You only have to see a snippet of Paris Hilton video to demonstrate why older wo... (read in full...)
If a man crosses my line of vision, my bf assumes I was checking him out and that I want to have sex with him. Who is right?
Q. my boyfriend of 3 yrs gets mad whenever i look at other men. he does not yell at me or hit me or anything but he is visibly upset and jealous and asks me all the time not to look at other men. i cannot help myself sometimes thought if a man is ...
A. 14 November 2007: Hi,
I'm always checking out girls ( discreetly of course :) and my wife is a bit of a perv as well !
I'm sorry to say I have no sympathy for your boyfriend whatsover. He is blaming you for his own insecurities and is attempting to exercise con... (read in full...)
I like him a lot but I don't have any feelings towards him.
Q. I'm seeing this guy at the moment and weve been togerther for a month and a half. when I met him I was a virgin and I'm not now I like him a lot but I don't have any feelings towards him. Everyone I tell says I should see how it goes and giv...
A. 14 November 2007: sorry mate, but after a month or even a week you should be bang on hot for each other if the chemistry is right between you two.
Alas in this case it appears its not, so dont worry, these things happen, some people despite their good inte... (read in full...)
What's the best way to ask her out?
Q. This may seem really stupid, but I was wondering, how do you ask someone out? What type of things do you say? Is it "will you go out with me" or something like "will you be mine" My friends are really pressuring me to ask this girl out in my ...
A. 14 November 2007: O.K. dude, forget the "will you be mine" stuff.
What you do is find out what she is interested in. Teenage girls love going to the movies with friends , so find a "chick" flick that's playing and ask her " what are you doing on the weekend,... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I lied before we have sex.
Q. im 22 and am still a virgin. ive been seeing this guy on and off but its hard because he goes to school in a different country.the last time met up i lied and said i was with another guy for a while and we had sex but didnt. im going to visit him ...
A. 14 November 2007: Hi,
Don't worry! Just tell him, we all appreciate it when someone turns around and is prepared to admit they were not being entirely honest. It shows strength of character.
As for the virginity thing, I'm 100% sure he's not going to have a ... (read in full...)
I am hurt that my recent ex..is getting messages from females on his MySpace profile. How do I deal with this?
Q. How do I get over my ex who is getting messages from new girls on myspace saying things like how they hope he made it home alright? He was such an emotionally abusive jerk to me, and no one knows this! It is driving me crazy! We just broke up a ...
A. 14 November 2007: Everytime you see his face thank your lucky stars that you don't have to put up with his shit anymore and feel pity for all the other girls who are following in your footsteps.
Just give it time.... (read in full...)
I feel as though I lose everybody close to me through my tantrums. Please help.
Q. My partner (of 1 year) has just left me because he can't deal with my severe PMT (which I've suffered with for 15 years). I get very stroppy and quite aggresive - I have lashed out and hit him on 3 occasions. I have 2 children who have become very ...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi,
I am really sorry to see you going through this.
Yes, it will be hard for you to maintain a relationship, we men are notoriously non confrontational in relationships, and it is hard to stay with someone who is aggressive be it mentally or ... (read in full...)
Does a player ever change their tune?
Q. GUYS, once a player, always a player? The man is 37 and we have gone out quite a few times, known each other for quite some time, have the same upbringing, background, and I really like him. Now, he has quite the reputation of a player. In fact, ...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi,
I'm sorry to say but once a player always a player. There are exceptions , when we lads are young we can be very unfaithful and then clean up our acts in our 20's when we meet a special girl.
If he hasnt changed his ways by his 30's you are... (read in full...)
The Prom...
Q. My boyfriend and I are in high school and have been going out for a while. We are preparing for the big prom. We are both looking forward to this special time together. Because, my boyfriend has been so nice and caring about me over our time dating ...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi,
You sound like you want everything to be ideal. An in an ideal world it would be. Unfortunately in real life you have to negotiate real obstacles.
There are no guarantees that his first time with you will be a special occasion.
H... (read in full...)
His text message to me was very offensive and wrong! How do I handle this?
Q. I feel like an idiot. I went out last night to celebrate a friend's birthday. With us was a man that I have had a crush on for quite some time. There is one problem though. He is friends with my ex. I realize that this is not appropriate on so ...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi,
It was just a pathetic attempt at a joke by somebody who shouldnt be telling them. There is a very fine line between what is really funny and what is offensive.
It's even worse with text messages as the intonation is not clear, so a quip... (read in full...)
He won't give me oral, but I give it to him, am I being unreasonable in wanting it?
Q. Hi everyone. Iam experiencing sexual troubles with my boyfriend. Iam 21, hes 22 and we have been going out for almost a year. We started having sex pretty recently and its pretty decent, except for one thing. I love recieving oral sex more than ...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi,
well you already know the answer to this don't you?
Stop giving him blowjobs. That's it. Don't fall for any of his shit about it either. As long as you continue to blow him then the relationship is all about servicing his needs not yours.
... (read in full...)
She feals I cheated.
Q. My GF hack into my yahoo address and found out I belonged to many porn related groups. She feels I've cheated on her. How can I regain her trust? As it stands where splitsville....
A. 13 November 2007: Sorry mate,
Were you in porn sites where you actually communicated with women? If so I can imagine she will find it hard to forgive. You have broken her trust and while you may not actually meet this women you are still communicating and in a way... (read in full...)
I cheated on him, should I try and work it out or cut my losses?
Q. i cheated on a guy i was in a 9 year relationship with. i relize it was because i was feeling extremely low about myself. part of this was his fault and he has yet to see this and to this day is still doing some of the same exact things he was then ...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi,
It all depends how serious the "things" that he did are?
If he is still doing them then what makes you think this will work the second time round?
I think you really need to sort out what drove you to this in the first place, and if yo... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and pregnant, how do I tell my boyfriend who is overseas now?
Q. A little help here guys? Okay im 16 years old and 4 weeks ago my boyfriend moved to another country, to be back sometime between January and June!! BIG problem. Today i found out, im six weeks pregnant, definatley my boyfriends i have ...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi,
the first people you need to tell are your parents.
You are so young, so you will undoubtedly need their support. As for your boyfriend, he is overseas and he has parents as well, you might have to accept the fact that his parents won'... (read in full...)
She's walked out on me, said I was controlling, but I think she's just stressed , I want her back, help me!
Q. hello, i have been with my wife for five years.she has had a lot of stress with work(not wanting to work with certain people), and personal issues as far as not having a sexual desire, and she came home the other day crying about how family members ...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi,
Are you able to take a good look at yourself objectively.
I only say this as your partner called you controlling. To me these accusations are not lightly levied at a person, where there's smoke there's fire as they say.
You gave a couple of... (read in full...)
My gf's co-worker is very friendly to her, am I overreacting in being worried?
Q. My gf has co-worker (married) whom I've met. He is generous with his compliments (you look gorgeous, signs emails "XXX", your hair looks beautiful, you're boyfriend is lucky). And when talking to her, he touches her shoulder/arm often. He i...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi,
its probably harmless. He looks like he has taken a shine to your girl. However on the other hand, how would your girlfriend feel if an older women was being very touchy feely with you at work? I don't think she would be too happy.
But this ... (read in full...)
I'm happily married, sex is not a problem, but there is a lack of affection, is this common?
Q. Do some people just not have any need or desire to be affectionate in a relationship? Even in a marriage? My husband of 2 months loves me, he prooves it/ but he never shows it. He has never once given me a compliment, he has never once said he loves ...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi ,
Men and women are wired differently. Some of us guys are very affectionate, but most of us need a bit of prodding.
If he never gives you a hug or makes a compliment then you simply need to say to him that it wouldnt hurt him to do so occasi... (read in full...)
I've been sleeping with my husbands best friend! He doesn't know. What should I do?
Q. Ok Guys And Gals here's my problem.2 yrs ago i did a very stupid thing and slept with my husbands best friend 3 times(over the course of a year)My Husband and i were having a really bad time and his friend was a shoulder to cry on so to speak.He ...
A. 13 November 2007: Hi,
oh boy, you've got yourself into a bit of a mess here mate.
I get the feeling this infidelity is providing a lot of excitement in your life, much the same way it does for a compulsvie gambler. You know its wrong but you can't stop yoursel... (read in full...)
I told my guy I would not cheat on him but I did, he has found out and we are working through it. Why do I do it?
Q. i have cheated on every guy i have been with. when i met my partner i promised him that i would not cheat on him because i really did not want to, but i did. not once but three times in 9 years. he found out and now we are trying to work it out. i ...
A. 12 November 2007: Hi,
Please dont run away. You will only start the whole cycle over again. Meet guy, cheat, split up.
You have found someone who is prepared to stay with you, running away will not solve anything. You need to stay and show him that his faith in... (read in full...)
Why are there double standards when it comes to men and women having sex?
Q. why is it that if a guy sleeps around hes just being a lad and its alright cos hes having fun, but if a girl sleeps around shes a slag and a slut and dirty... even if she just wants to have fun why is this?...
A. 12 November 2007: Hi,
yes it does suck. As a guy I can admit that freely. But dont paint all of us guys with the same brush please.
My own partner was very experienced before we met and I have never felt any less of her, however you only have to look at DearCupi... (read in full...)
It's about time I get a genuine guy.
Q. I'm so fed up... I feel like a total bitch coz i got with this guy for the second time last nite, since he's been with his girlfriend. Both times it was just an inocent kiss, although he was up for more, which i stopped both times! Anway i know t...
A. 12 November 2007: Hi,
it is very simple, do not snog these guys when you first meet them.
The only way you are going to meet a nice guy is if you make it clear that you want to be friends first. Then all the guys who are only interested in a grope and a snog will ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being mad.
Q. I cant seem to trust my husband anymore.Im finding info to lead to other females hes in contact with but when i bring it up nothing really comes out of it.We have been together so long that sometimes I'm not sure if its me or him that has a ...
A. 11 November 2007: Hi,
It sounds like your self confidence has taken a beating.
I think you are right to suspect his intentions. It's hardly normal for men to have a network of female confidantes and you are right to suspect something else in this. Maybe it is ... (read in full...)
Is this common for men?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months. Among the times that we have had sex, he has only cummed twice. Most of the time, half way through the act, he would complain that he is getting too hot or tired, and then he would stop. I have ...
A. 9 November 2007: Hi,
its not unheard of. But I would be more worried that he is complaining that he is tired half way through. If he's around the same age as you he shouldnt be.
So I wonder if its an excuse for something more serious.
Is he stressed at work or o... (read in full...)
My friend's boyfriend is a control freak. What advice can I give her?
Q. ok so I have a friend who has a boyfriend and her boyfriend is telling her who she can and can't talk with she likes him but he has taken it to far from telling her when she can drive and how loong she can stay out and she wants to break up with him ...
A. 9 November 2007: Dude,
listen to the advice. Tell her to break it off for crying out loud. He cannot physically force her to go out with him. If she tells him she doesnt want to see him anymore that should be it. You can be there with her to offer support,... (read in full...)
Chatting up an older guy in work?
Q. I'm nearly 20 and I work in a huge store in the stockroom which near enough sells everything. I'm really tall and look about 25. I really fancy an older guy who is 30-35. I thought the crush would go away but it hasn't and I have never fancied ...
A. 9 November 2007: Hi,
I can see your dilemma. If he's flirting with you , chances are he likes you. Believe me, we guys can be pretty shallow people, we dont tend to flirt with girls who we dont like.
But find out if he's married first!!! You dont want to go t... (read in full...)
I need YOUR help...
Q. I need YOUR help... I'm female and in my early 20's. I am completly in love with another woman approximately 10 years older than me (please don't question it - I never knew love until I met her). I've never felt this way before about anyone - m...
A. 9 November 2007: Hi,
all I say is tread carefully. If she is 10 years older than you surely she wouldnt be ashamed of admitting her sexuality .
But then again, in America I know there are many communities that a very backward in their values so maybe the th... (read in full...)
I'm scare it will hurt more.
Q. i'm in a relationship with the man of my dreams and he really wants to have "hit it from the back" i'm afraid it'll hurt but i want to give him what he wants. is there anything i could do so it wont hurt or hurt less ...
A. 9 November 2007: I am unsure what you mean by that, but I assume we are talking about backdoor sex.
You are so young, you need to know that there are men out there who after a while insist on sex only that way. They have all sorts of issues these guys and you real... (read in full...)
I love him but find it hard to accept this.
Q. My boyfriend has got money and not willing to take the money out and help me when I really need it. I just feel that is not love. My elderly mum is in hospital in Hong Kong and I don't have enough money to get a ticket to visit her. This upset me ...
A. 9 November 2007: Hi,
He sounds mean. A sick family member should always be a priority,if you partner cannot see this it is obvious where his priorities lie isnt it?
I just couldnt imagine telling my partner NO if she needed assistance for a sick family membe... (read in full...)
My husband cheated, now this girl wont leave us alone? Why?
Q. My husband cheated on me. The thing is that the girl keeps bugging him and saying she wont leave him alone because he has hurt her so much. What does she means with that? I read this on a letter she wrote to him. Why is she so insistent?...
A. 9 November 2007: Hi,
He probably promised her the world. Then like all cheating husbands when things got difficult he dumped her. He was after sex she thought she could lure him away from his wife. She didnt count on his cowardice.
I don't know what to suggest o... (read in full...)
My friend's boyfriend is a control freak. What advice can I give her?
Q. ok so I have a friend who has a boyfriend and her boyfriend is telling her who she can and can't talk with she likes him but he has taken it to far from telling her when she can drive and how loong she can stay out and she wants to break up with him ...
A. 8 November 2007: If your friend can stay with you that's a start. In any event you shouldn't let go of this because the longer she stays with him the more he will exert his control over her. Before long she wont be talking to you anymore.
He is not god, she simp... (read in full...)
Why is he afraid?
Q. I really need some help with this one. I have been with my lover for about 12 years now. We were both in relationships when we met and began our affair. Almost 2 years into our relationship I left my relationship. He is still in his (for the ...
A. 8 November 2007: Hi again,
I believe you have invested so much of your life into this man that it is blurring your ability to look at this objectively.
A woman I work with had an affair with a married man for 20 years , he dumped her last year. She now realises... (read in full...)
How to get rid of the sicky feeling when your nervous?
Q. how can you get rid of a sicky feeling wen your nervous? im a shy girl and really like this guy who is very outgoing and he likes me to but the thing is i get so nervous around him and i find it easier to talk to him via txt. how can i change this?...
A. 8 November 2007: I'm sure he is very nervous as well. The confidence may be there but he isnt Brad Pitt so he will be nervous as well. So dont worry!
When I was your age I used to be petrified when I went out with a girl, you think you are going to say stupid thin... (read in full...)
X mas present ideas for a 17 year old boy.
Q. can anyone suggest some xmas present ideas for a 17yr old guy friend of mine...
A. 8 November 2007: Hi,
what does he like? Is he a sporty lad? If so find out what football team he supports. You can buy any number of stuff from the shops. Scarfs/shirts,hats,key rings.. anything and for any price a couple of quid to a coupld of hundred. And we b... (read in full...)
Can someone explain the situation I'm in?? She won't commit!
Q. About seven months ago, a girl that I had feelings for back in 99' found me on the internet. when i was talking to her she was about to end her relationship of six years for obvious reasons and she has three kids. our talks over the first month or ...
A. 8 November 2007: sorry mate, But I agree with "Irish". If she was that into you she wouldnt be so evasive.
She could be just so scared to get involved again and go through all the heartbreak and this is what's making her give out the mixed signals. But her reac... (read in full...)
Why is he afraid?
Q. I really need some help with this one. I have been with my lover for about 12 years now. We were both in relationships when we met and began our affair. Almost 2 years into our relationship I left my relationship. He is still in his (for the ...
A. 8 November 2007: Hi,
Your lover has a nerve threatening to "break off" with you if you dont be faithful to him. Sorry ,but what a joke, he goes home to his wife every day and then has the gall to say that you shouldnt see anyone else.
I cant figure out your agr... (read in full...)
I asked my husband's permission to kiss another woman. Should I continue my quest to be with a woman if this fails?
Q. I am a married woman aged 31yrs, I have a 2yr old son, i have told my husband that there is a girl at my gym that I want to kiss so much, she is 22yrs and gay,she was hurt by a married woman before at the gym, I dont want to lose our friendship, but ...
A. 8 November 2007: Hi,
I would experiment outside of this girl in the gym. She obviously wants a relationship - which is the one thing you cannot provide. So you would merely be repeating the experience she had with her last lover - probably bi-curious who tested the ... (read in full...)
How do you know if a guy is cheating?
Q. How do you know if a guy is cheating? i mean people say that if you think it then it must be real but what about if you were in a relationship before and were cheated on would that just make you a suspicious person?...
A. 8 November 2007: Changes in behaviour, loss of sexual appetite. There are many things which could indicate infidelity.
However, using being jilted in a previous relationship as an excuse to suspect a new partner is a sure fire way to give yourself a lifetime of brok... (read in full...)
Two years and never had sex?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two years now. and we have not had sex. Everytime I bring it up he says we will and nothing ever happens. I am 35 and he is 47....
A. 8 November 2007: Hi,
gee, I think you deserve more of an answer than "soon" especially after 2 years.
You are at your peak sexually so it is not presumptuous to find out what is really going on. You are in a relationship after all, you deserve to know the tru... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should tell her or just leave it alone.
Q. Hi there... I just need advice on a matter that has been on my mind almost 24/7 for the past 3 years or so... I have feelings that are so strong towards an ex-teacher of mine(who is also female). After I left High school I stayed in contact with her...
A. 7 November 2007: Hi,
I guess the crucial question here is , Is she also a lesbian? If she's not then I cant see the point in telling her. If she is then you have to tell her, otherwise the relationship is in essence not entirely truthful. You will only tie your... (read in full...)
I told my guy I would not cheat on him but I did, he has found out and we are working through it. Why do I do it?
Q. i have cheated on every guy i have been with. when i met my partner i promised him that i would not cheat on him because i really did not want to, but i did. not once but three times in 9 years. he found out and now we are trying to work it out. i ...
A. 7 November 2007: Hi,
at least you are honest about it. The first thing I would suggest is to not put yourself in situations where you can cheat. i.e. dont go to bars by yourself,or with the girls if it ends up the same way everytime.
Secondly, I think most p... (read in full...)
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