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writes:ok, so last year i met "rachel" in college, and we became best friends. she lives about an hour and a half drive from my house. she introduced me to many of her friends including her then boyfriend "tom". me and tom became friends as did i and his best friend "frank". so then tom and rachel broke up. i went up to their county a week before i was due to leave for america for the summer. me and tom who id always secretly had a crush on were together for the night joking and having fun. we went for a spin until 5 in the morning and had a blast together talking about past loves and everything in general. he was texting me the next day but i never text back as i was thinking about rachel. then we were talking for ages on the phone and he told me that hed miss me terrible when i was away. i left and when i returned he and frank rang me and told me they missed me. tom test me the next night and told me he loved me. at this stage he had been hanging with a new girl since the summer, nothing serious but on and off. he continued to text me and ring me. then i found out that frank has a crush on me. and tom text me saying not to break his (franks) heart. i have no interest on frank. then last week i visited them and tom was really quiet. he started to talk to me but all he was saying was "why wouldnt u give frank a kiss?"...then he said "if i cant have you i want frank to". i was talking to frank as toms new girl had shown up and he was talking to her. frank knew about the night me and tom were hanging out. he said that he thinks that i wouldnt go near tom because of rachel which is true..... that night tom text me and told me not to break franks heart...for the hundreth time! why he keep saying this and why is he sending me mixed signals...? does he like me? if so why does he keep telling me to go off with his best friend?PLEASE HELP...IM SOOOOO CONFUSED!!!!!!!:(
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (9 October 2007):
Tom and Frank are playing games. I suggest you dorp out and find a real bf.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (9 October 2007):
 I think "Tom" and "Frank" are treating you like a piece of meat. If you want a bit of fun, go for it, but these two look like right little manipulators who go from girl to girl. If you are up for it, I wouldnt worry, Tom will hit on you soon enough most likely when he hasnt got a girl in tow and when its convienient for him that is.
If you dont mind being used like this, then what are you worrying about. In my early 20's I played the field so I cant really be to angry at Tom's obvious manipulations as I was a "Tom" myself.
Basically, it all sounds relatively harmless and as long as you are not looking for a long term relationship I would hang around and have some fun.
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