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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...
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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
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How do I tell guys that like me that I don't like them back?
Q. I dont know how to tell the guys that like me, that i dont like them back. (yes, guy(s) - there is 2) The first one is like my best friend, i've known him for 7 years and we've always been best friends but recently he started developing feeli...
A. 31 July 2011: Well there's no easy way of doing this but its always good to clarify yourself from the very beginning. Just be upfront and dont beat around the bush and dont give any open ended answers.
Tell the first guy that you see him as a friend, a wonder... (read in full...)
Is it possible to really love two people?
Q. Is it possible to really love two people. Me and my childs father have been together five years. Weve been thru alot and i love him he is my best friend. But nine months ago we seperated and i met smeone else. It seems like i fell in love at first ...
A. 31 July 2011: You can love lots of people at the same time. But you will realize that when that special someone comes along, there will be no space for anyone else. True, attractions will always be there, but only momentary.
What you feel for both these me... (read in full...)
How do I stop my brother from becoming like our abusive father?
Q. Our parents are divorced and my brother (13) visits our dad for twice a month. I don't see him but he is having a negative effect on my brother. He is becoming sexist and says things like men should slap women if they disobey them. (this is what my ...
A. 31 July 2011: This is such a difficult situation for you to be in. Does your mother know about this?
You should talk to your brother and explain to him that only the three of you are there for each other. Your father did not do his duty and the way he treated ... (read in full...)
My boss broke up with his g/f and now he's treating me differently. I don't want things to change!
Q. hey, i'll try to keep this as brief as possible so i'm sorry if i go on a little bit. ^^' i'm 16 and i work as a secretary come assistant come general dogs body for my boss. we get along great, he treats me with respect and like a friend, which...
A. 31 July 2011: Keep your relationship as professional as possible. Draw certain limits and make it very clear that while I'm friendly, yo cannot go beyond a certain point. No gifts,no lunches,no cheap jokes, no walks,no outings.
Tell him politely and very cle... (read in full...)
All of my exes have cheated on me so I'm sure my boyfriend is going to do the same thing....
Q. Dear Cupid. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 11 months. I have a problem trusting my boyfriend. Not because he's done things but because each and every one of the guys i've been with have hurt me bad! So pretty much im just waiting for him ...
A. 30 July 2011: Well that just strange, isint it? On the one hand you're so insecure about getting cheated upon, and on the other hand, you got into a relationship with your present BF despite all your fears. Why did you commit to a relationship if you were so ... (read in full...)
This jealous woman made my life miserable either because she was interested in my BF or because she was not happy in her own life. Thoughts or similar experiences anyone?
Q. Ok so a while ago, my boyfriend started renting a room from a couple (a husband and wife) who were also living at the same property. Everything was fine at first, however things quickly started to go wrong. The couple own the property, the husband ...
A. 30 July 2011: I dont have a similar story but I can tell you that she was jealous and insecure and yes, your BF is equally to be blamed. If he had drawn the boundaries, she would never have had the audacity to behave the way she did.
This woman probably... (read in full...)
Husband caught playing "sexual chicken" now what?
Q. I've been married to my husband for over a year. Two months ago I found a sexually explicit text on his phone (I wasn't snooping, it displayed the text when I plugged his phone in the charger. You can bet I snooped after that, though). It was from a ...
A. 29 July 2011: I think its time to involve family now. This has clearly gone out of hand. You gave him a chance and he hasn't learnt from it. Its clear that he's sexually interested in this other woman and the hanky panky that's going on, will not cease unless he ... (read in full...)
Am I being a drama queen? I threw him about because of his flirting with this girl and his dream about having sex with her!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for over a year. a few months a go this girl he used to work with text him saying her boyfriend dumped her she'd sent it to her phone book slagging him off so didnt think anything of it .then a few days later when he ...
A. 28 July 2011: You're not a drama queen. He lied to you about the texts and people lie when they have something to hide. If his relationship with her was a "normal" friendly one, he wouldn't have hidden it from you or lied to you about it. Its obvious that he sees ... (read in full...)
How do I impress my professor without having to suck up to him?
Q. I am a college-student. I've narrowly missed a frst class in my BA because of rigourous under-grading by a particular professor of mine. The professor in question is overly strict and perfectionist to the core, which is but natural in way, since ...
A. 28 July 2011: I find it a little hard to understand that apparently such a genius can be this shallow. I would imagine a respectable genius of a professor to be above this pettiness of having people to "impress" him.
You say to want to get to know him and spen... (read in full...)
Happened eleven years ago & I am fuming over a stripper, should I let it go??
Q. i just found out after 11 years, that the stripper cut my soon to be husbands clothes off of him while three of his "friends" (one was his brother and "best man") held him down!! then she had them lay him on the floor while she "danced" over the top ...
A. 27 July 2011: Lets address this issue in two parts.
The Stripper issue: Difficult as it is, let it go, for your own sake. Why do you want to go through hell thinking about what happened so long ago? It was a wild night, more "wild" than what is generall... (read in full...)
Is getting a nose job a good idea?
Q. I know this is a relationship website, but i really really need some advice as to what to do and how to deal with what people will think. I know i shouldn't care about others opinions but i really can't help it!! Basically, since i was about 11 i...
A. 26 July 2011: I think this need for a nose job, coloured lenses, hair extensions...this speaks of something more than just what's on the surface. Why are you insecure of yourself? You need to gain confidence in yourself, because no amount of plastic surgery will ... (read in full...)
Girl I have been dating, poses for sexy nude modeling photos on the side. How should I deal with it?
Q. Hello, Maybe you all can help me with my problem. I am a 31-year old guy, and I recently started dating this very beautiful girl I met randomly in the metro station. She's 26, and works as a legal assistant. But on the side, she models. She hope...
A. 25 July 2011: Its entirely your decision. In all fairness to her, she hasn't hidden anything from you, so you did get into the relationship knowing everything.
This is a very subjective issue...some readers would say there's nothing wrong with what she does... (read in full...)
I'm addicted to eating at McDonald's and I need to cool it!
Q. hey everyone i have quite a weird problem im ADDICTED TO mcdonalds !!! its all i think about and im relly spending hell lots of money on that shit per month but im loving it really !! especially that where i live they have delivery service so its e...
A. 23 July 2011: The good thing is that you realize you have a problem and you want to change. Iv battled an addiction with Coca Cola...and I know what its like. I almost never had water and lived on Coke and I had the worst migraines of my life. I started gaining ... (read in full...)
He asked about my sexual history and now he's become extremely jealous.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for coming up on 5 months. We love each other very much and have been discussing moving in together. However,last night we had the conversation of 'past' relationships/flings etc. Before I was with this guy, I was married ...
A. 19 July 2011: Never ask for the truth if you cant handle it. Anyway, you were not wrong. You just told him the truth and he couldn't handle it and that's really his problem. Ideally, the past should be kept strictly off limits as long as it doesnt have any ... (read in full...)
I.m in love with a gangster,but have to leave him?
Q. hi all. Plz help. I.ve got deeply involved with a criminal who also has loads of baggage. 4 kids,dodgy dealings etc.it started out as a bit of fun,and to give him credit,he did mention what he did,and is saying he,s putting the money into a legal ...
A. 17 July 2011: Show me one reason why you want to be with him. He's a CRIMINAL, for heaven's sake!! Do you even realize what you're stepping into? What kind of a life are you even looking at, with this shady guy, who's getting arrested, who has shifty dealings, ... (read in full...)
Should I let my friend the world traveler say with me or not? What would you do?
Q. dear cupaid, I am having guilt and disappoinment over some friend issues. My Fabulous and popular friend the Pro world travler(and aspiring travel author) wants to come and stay with me and my DH again for 3 months. She wants to stay with me for 3 ...
A. 15 July 2011: Its really not your responsibility to accommodate her needs. Because you've done it in the past, she wants or rather expects you to do it again. Some people dont understand others' goodness...they take it as a sign of weakness. They think you're ... (read in full...)
Young love-Is it impossible for us to last? What must we do to last?
Q. So I am in college with my boyfriend of 6 months. We have been through a lot together, and have fallen in love. We have spoken about being together for a while, living together, and possibly even marriage. Our families get along together and ...
A. 14 July 2011: Its certainly not impossible, but yes, it IS very difficult. When you're young and in love,you feel the world is only for you. You look at others and think, why cant they make it work? Its so easy for us!
But once reality sets in and honeymoo... (read in full...)
How should I deal with my daughter's bad behavior?
Q. I am at the end of my patience with my 19 year old daughter! Her attitude, mood swings and rude behaviour started around the time she started 6th Form college and having sex with her boyfriend. We had a few arguments and she would storm off to her...
A. 13 July 2011: In all honesty, I have to say that it seems like you do favour your son more and your daughter's bad behavior is more of a way to draw YOUR attention, than anything else.
You haven't mentioned the father. Have you always been a single parent? ... (read in full...)
My gf's vagina seems "loose"; does this mean she is not a virgin?
Q. I have a girlfriend who i love very much..she told me that she was a virgin (she never lie to me + i've known her long ago) but last time when i fingered her, my finger was loose as if she had had sex several times and feels no pain...could it be ...
A. 11 July 2011: Look Mr 'Is she lying to me'- at least brush up on your biology and get some basic common sense before you go around doubting every body function of your girlfriend.
Because you, sir, are as misinformed as can be.
Giving birth can cause the va... (read in full...)
My flatmate is threatening to evict me, I feel hideous because of my terrible ache problem and I have no love life. I just want to crawl into a hole and stick my head in the sand and not come out.
Q. First, thanks loads to anyone reading this. My problem is this: For the last year I've lived in another country. I live with a girl and another guy (they're not a couple) and we're all of different nationalities. They sublet my room to me. The ...
A. 10 July 2011: Awww...honey its nowhere your fault, so you need to stop feeling so bad. Your crazy roommate is the one with the problem and you're bearing the brunt of it. You seem like a really nice person to be putting up with all this. I know what its like to ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to cry so much, in front of my girlfriend?
Q. Im in a distant relationship with my cute girlfriend, i really love her so much, i always write poems and songs for her, Everytime im with her as we talk deeply i really lose it and cry in front of her, even when she is not there, everytime i send ...
A. 8 July 2011: Honestly, its a little creepy. Sensitive is good, but there's a need to draw a line between sensitive and downright weird. Its nice that you're so close to her, but don't overdo it. No one likes a cry baby! And calling her "mommy"?? Whoa!! That is ... (read in full...)
How can I let him down easy?
Q. hey i'm friends with this guy, and he's really sweet he keeps on buying me food and he wants to go on a date, but i dont want him that way. and i dont want to lead him on, how do i gently tell him this without hurting him?...
A. 8 July 2011: First things first, stop accepting stuff from him. If he keeps buying you food and you keep accepting it, you're giving him hope. No gifts.
Make it clear to him that you're not interested in him romantically. Has he asked you out on a date? If... (read in full...)
My fiance is demanding I have a DNA test, even though I only cheated once back in 2010!
Q. Dear cupid, Me and my fiance are expecting our 1st baby. He wants a DNA test, just because I messed around just 1 time and that was last year (2010)! IT'S A NEW YEAR! I mean, he's actually "insisting" that i get a DNA test... I just got pregnant...
A. 7 July 2011: First of all, with this attitude, neither of you seem ready to be having a baby. You cheated on him, got back, got pregnant within a year. Maybe you still haven't cleared everything with him and he OBVIOUSLY doesnt trust you. Did both of you plan ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says I am a bad lover. What can I do?
Q. I am a relatively inexperienced guy when it comes to sex. I have watched a lot of porn. I have read a lot about it both in books and on the Internet. I have friends in alternative lifestyles who exposed me to a lot of things in conversations - ...
A. 7 July 2011: "....she says that sex with me was good when I was a new lover to her, but now that we are familiar it is boring and that it was never GREAT to begin with."
Orgasm is related entirely to the state of the mind OP. Your girlfriend does not orgasm w... (read in full...)
I feel henpecked by my fiancée
Q. Hi... strange one this and its doing my nut in. it was my birthday last week and my fiancee, who i'm marrying in august, came over to visit. we talked then she started getting picky about things which started an argument off... i told her not tod...
A. 7 July 2011: Was it just a one-time thing or is she normally the crabby sorts? Maybe she was having a bad day?
With the wedding a month away, there are bound to be jitters, but you obviously must love each other to have decided to get married. Focus on the g... (read in full...)
Pregnant by abusive BF who drinks every night and tried to get me to strip for his friends... but I love him and want to help him change
Q. me and my boyfriend have been living together for 2 months now after 6 months of being together. The 6 months where incredible best 6 months of my life and he really and truly did treat me like a princess but ever since we started living together...
A. 6 July 2011: Why exactly did you even come up with a problem here if its just a "phase"?
Iv seen a previous question by you on the same date as this one, http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-my-bf-being-overprotective-or-just-very.html
You obviously either... (read in full...)
I don't know how to end a relationship with no valid reason to end it
Q. I have been with a girl for a few months, and it feels like I have been almost pressured into being with her. It's only been about 2 months, but I am already finding myself craving time alone without her there. She hasn't done anything wrong, but ...
A. 4 July 2011: You just need to tell her the truth. Tell her its not working out for you and you need to be alone, and there's no point waiting for her to go and then end it. That just seems like delaying the inevitable. ... (read in full...)
With no money.....how will I be able to change things?
Q. This might a little long and at some point nonsensical... This is the first time i ever write what's really on my mind and it's also the first time i express myself honestly and with no strings attached. I should mention however that i am not a US...
A. 4 July 2011: Hi OP,
First of all, I must tell you that although you say that English is not your first language, you have worded this question really well and its very well written and I was hooked on to it. So a big thumbs up there!!
Now, coming to your q... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and found husband is in touch with girl he cheated with. Should I end the marriage?
Q. My husband used to cheat before and i forgave him he has been proving to me that he was done and he wouldnt hurt me no more .. im now pregnant with my second kid and i caught him on his email searching for the old girl he was cheating on me in the ...
A. 3 July 2011: You have two options here OP and its upto you to decide what you want. Either you kick this serial cheater of a husband to the curb and make a life for yourself and your children or you continue living in this hell of lies, deceit and drama, and get ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend ashamed of me?
Q. Well ive been with my girlfriend for about 3 years, it's weird she never brings me around her house, never wants to have sex It comes to a point were I have to literally ask her if we are ever gonna have sex or not.. Its sad She broke up with me...
A. 3 July 2011: So your GF had sex with another man and you're still wondering what you should do??! Why are you two even together? And how do you know that did all the sexual stuff with the other guy?
Look, if she is really this way, then you should break up... (read in full...)
I go to sleep crying because I think I am going to lose him. Can you help?
Q. Hey there, I really need some relationship advice here. So first off, i am 17, my boyfriend is 16, we grew up together and on March first this year we started dating and were still together. My problem is that im hoping i can get advice on is tha...
A. 2 July 2011: OP, its a little too hasty to assume that he's been cheating on you. Yes it seems rocky right now, but both of you are young and it does take a lot to honestly commit to a proper relationship.
He is insecure of you and you are of him. I say dont... (read in full...)
My married lover now wants a threesome!
Q. I have been in a "relationship" with a married man for 7 years. We see each other every now and again and really enjoy each other physically, emotionally and psychologically. He was always honest with regards to his status and that was fine with me. ...
A. 2 July 2011: You do not want to jeopardize you children's needs/emotional security by getting into a "normal" relationship until they are fully grown and independent? What does this even mean? You want to happily be someone's mistress because that's best for ... (read in full...)
Pregnant by abusive BF who drinks every night and tried to get me to strip for his friends... but I love him and want to help him change
Q. me and my boyfriend have been living together for 2 months now after 6 months of being together. The 6 months where incredible best 6 months of my life and he really and truly did treat me like a princess but ever since we started living together...
A. 2 July 2011: OP, if you dont respect yourself, no one else will. And you clearly have no respect for yourself or your baby. Why else are you tolerating all this shit? Are you so low on self esteem that you cannot see the obvious, that you actually feel this man ... (read in full...)
We both got totally drunk and my wife was lying naked next to another guy!
Q. I went with my wife to a party this past weekend and we got completely wasted, neither of us remember the later parts of the night. But all I know is that when I woke up my wife was nowhere near me. When I looked around the house for her, I found ...
A. 2 July 2011: First things first. Your wife clearly had sex with this other man. Both of you need to come to terms with that and decide how you want to deal with it. Please undergo counselling and get yourselves tested. And STOP drinking.
Secondly, there ar... (read in full...)
This girl is confusing me, but the sexual tension is still there
Q. We really liked each other, a LOT. Then she saw her ex of 2 years and had to get over him so I gave her space and we didn't talk as much. She has been initiating Facebook chat with me ever since. So she likes me, but realized she had to get her head ...
A. 1 July 2011: Ok some clarifications needed here.
You've done sexual stuff before?When was this? While she was still with the ex or after the break up?
Why have you set a time frame for the relationship? Its not that September is going to bring a magical ... (read in full...)
Are they just friends or am I being played like a fool?
Q. Hello everyone! My BF of 1 1/2yrs has a "friend" at work. She is married and has 2 small kids. She texts my BF all the time, calls him all the time and even has a pet name for him. I have stressed to my BF that i dont like it and his response is ...
A. 28 June 2011: Everything made sense till I saw the age bracket you were in. Only because this means your BF is also likely to be in the same bracket and for someone his age, his behavior is silly. I can expect this from a 25 yr old guy, not someone almost double ... (read in full...)
My best friend's wife hates me when there is nothing romantic about my relationship with her husband! What can I do?
Q. ok i have a male best friend i mean we are even closer then best friends more like brother and sister hes 9 years older then me. he calls himself my gaurdian angel and thats what he is. he helps me i help him. anyways hes married and has 2 kids. in ...
A. 28 June 2011: There's just one thing to do here, and that is to cut down on your interaction with this family. Unless the wife asks you to babysit the kids herself, dont do it. Staying over and sleeping over is a strict No, even if they ask you to. Why should ... (read in full...)
I am in a great relationship, but have met someone else who is amazing, what should I do?
Q. I've been in a successful relationship for almost 2 years. It's been perfect, we both love each other dearly, we spend more than 5 hours daily together (be it physically (when possible) or via phone, skpy, etc.). Honestly, it's even better than ...
A. 27 June 2011: OP, in life you will always meet someone who is more your "type" than your current partner. Someone who will be gorgeous, who you can instantly connect with and there will be an instant chemistry. But that does not mean you leave the person you are ... (read in full...)
Women only, I need your advice.
Q. Hello ALL!! I need some help, this is aimed at women only!! A little advice would not go a miss. It's about the dreaded pubic hair...im a teenage girl and i choose to shave my pubic hair. However, i have never once been able to shave without ...
A. 26 June 2011: Its going to get better with time. I had the same problem as you and it was pretty awful. There's no easy solution to this.
Trim the hair down as short as possible. Longer hair might clog the blades of the razor and cause more irritati... (read in full...)
My BF doesn't want to go for my niece's christening and doesn't want me to go either. If I do, he would break up with me. What should I do?
Q. What would you do if you were me? Hello. Some advice please. I come from a very close family and we are not religious at all. My sister however has decided to get my niece christened. When my boyfriend found out about this he was totally against ...
A. 26 June 2011: The first step that you have taken is a big one. At least you have admitted to the problem. From your first post of "slightly controlling", you have come a long way. OP, this boyfriend of yours is an abusive man. Emotional abuse is much more dan... (read in full...)
I just found out the guy my wife lost her viginity to had a bigger penis
Q. hi just found out the guy my wife lost her virginty to was my 2nd cousin after 22 years of married life when she blurted out his name by mistake i asked her his name and found out he had a bigger penis and said she was sorry had i known this i would ...
A. 25 June 2011: Nothing really adds up here. What's really bothering you? The fact that she lost her virginity to someone else before you? Or that fact that that someone else is your cousin? Or that he has a bigger penis? Look, its very weird that all this just come... (read in full...)
My BF doesn't want to go for my niece's christening and doesn't want me to go either. If I do, he would break up with me. What should I do?
Q. What would you do if you were me? Hello. Some advice please. I come from a very close family and we are not religious at all. My sister however has decided to get my niece christened. When my boyfriend found out about this he was totally against ...
A. 25 June 2011: So let me get this right. Your BF has made it clear to you that its my way or the highway. And you're still thinking about what to do?
This guy is DICTATING your choices to such an extent, that it now its coming between your personal choices.... (read in full...)
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