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writes:I dont know how to tell the guys that like me, that i dont like them back. (yes, guy(s) - there is 2)The first one is like my best friend, i've known him for 7 years and we've always been best friends but recently he started developing feelings towards me that are much stronger. He says he wants to be with me, however i think it will be awkward between us and i dont want to risk it ruining our relationship.The second guy i have only just met. Me and my friend went on a like a 'double date' with these guys (one was a guy we met on holiday last year, the other was his friend) me and his friend exchanged numbers and he's been texting me everyday since. The guy we met on holiday has told me that his friend likes me, but his friend hasnt told me. He's not mentioned anything, he just drops hints, we met up again yesterday and went to the pictures. We was holding hands and we kissed a few times but it didnt feel right. Now, he wants to meet up again in a few weeks, but i dont think i want to again. I just dont know how to tell him..I dont know how to tell either of them that i dont like them, any suggestions or advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2011): Like the others said, the second guy is easy. Follow there advice. But your friend is a different story. I know from personal experience that you relationship with him, no matter what you tell him, is forever changed. Well maybe not forever but it will take along time to get back to normal depending how strong his feelings are. It's going to hurt him. You cant avoid that. All you can do is be honest and tell him you just don't like him in that way. Hopefully he will accept that in after a while you two will be friends again. But just know he may come to the conclusion that he can't be around you anymore.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (31 July 2011):
 Well there's no easy way of doing this but its always good to clarify yourself from the very beginning. Just be upfront and dont beat around the bush and dont give any open ended answers.
Tell the first guy that you see him as a friend, a wonderful friend, and you dont want to ruin that relationship. You would hate it if something went wrong between you and your friendhsip is too special to ruin.
The second guy is easier to deal with actually! Just be honest and tell him that you would rather not meet up and while you did have a nice first date, you dont really want to follow up. You dont need to give any explanations or reasons, you just dont want to, and that's that.
Look, you cant sugar coat the rejections in any way, because at the end of the day, it will still be a rejection. So its best for you to be upfront and pull off the band aid quickly.
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