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writes:Is it possible to really love two people. Me and my childs father have been together five years. Weve been thru alot and i love him he is my best friend. But nine months ago we seperated and i met smeone else. It seems like i fell in love at first sight. Anyway i love him and over these last nine months he became my best friend too. They both have similiar qualities but their differences is what i love about them. I wish i could have both but i cant. If i choose one im not completely happy with out the other in my life. Is this love or am i being selfish. I read smewhere that if you love two people you never really loved the first or else u never would have loved the second.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay thanks for everyones comments. So me and my childs father are trying to work it out. We've been spending time together. The other guy has backed off telling me he wants me to be happy and get my family back. But i cant stop thinking about him. Even when im with my childs father i wish it was him. I love my childs father and i dont want to hurt him again. How do i be happy with him if my mind is with someone else.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (31 July 2011):
 You can love lots of people at the same time. But you will realize that when that special someone comes along, there will be no space for anyone else. True, attractions will always be there, but only momentary.
What you feel for both these men is probably not love. Its a high degree of comfort and affection. You dont need to choose one over the other, because then you would always be in a conflict with yourself. You're not being selfish, you're just going through what most of us go through at some point of time in or lives.
When you actually meet the one that you truly love, you wont ever feel the need to compromise or feel incomplete.
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reader, Starmonster888  +, writes (31 July 2011):
 Completely possible. We love people because they possess traits we desire, and thus we feel secure/happy because them, but sometimes more than 1 person provides those things.
That said, it's also selfish(but not your fault, lol:)). Human nature is a paradox; we hurt people we love by loving them. You'll have to choose one of the two to concentrate on and lose that "other side of love". Think of it as a worthy sacrifice caz they're each getting half of you.
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