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writes:Our parents are divorced and my brother (13) visits our dad for twice a month. I don't see him but he is having a negative effect on my brother. He is becoming sexist and says things like men should slap women if they disobey them. (this is what my dad used to do to our mom). I know its him because it started when he started seeing him again after he came out of prison. My brother used to cry when he shouted at or hit our mom.What can I do because my dad is transforming my brother into a horrible person, my brother is my best friend and I love him but I hate what he is becoming.Btw I'm his older sister (15)
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (31 July 2011):
 This is such a difficult situation for you to be in. Does your mother know about this?
You should talk to your brother and explain to him that only the three of you are there for each other. Your father did not do his duty and the way he treated your mom is unacceptable behavior. That's not how normal people behave in a healthy relationship. Tell him that the way he has now started behaving is not right. He's being transformed from a sweet, innocent kid to a different person and that's not how he is.
But most importantly, you should seek a counsellor for him. If it was ever important, it is NOW. This young kid has been traumatized, he has seen a very disturbed family life growing up, and now he's imbibing those very characteristics which he hated. He needs proper guidance at once. Its essential not only for your family, but also for him, so that when he grows up and has his own relationships, he does not mess up his own life, as well as somebody else's.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (31 July 2011):
 Try talking to your brother about the past. Remind him of those feelings he had when your father was abusive to your mother. Can you talk to your mother about this? Your brother really needs some serious guidance at this point in his life. He does sound as though your father has a hold over his thinking. Your mother may need to seek the advice of a family counsellor for this. Because if you, and she, cannot get through to your brother now, he is quite likely to make some very poor decisions in the future. I feel for you, best of luck. xxx
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