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writes:So I am in college with my boyfriend of 6 months. We have been through a lot together, and have fallen in love. We have spoken about being together for a while, living together, and possibly even marriage. Our families get along together and eachother's households we fit in perfectly. I am very confident that as a couple we can acheive anything. I am just so concerned that we are so young, we are both 18. I know that things tend to change, I just want to know if anyone has any input, advice, or experience in a similar type of relationship. Is it impossible for us to last? What must we do to last? Reply to this Question
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (14 July 2011):
 Its certainly not impossible, but yes, it IS very difficult. When you're young and in love,you feel the world is only for you. You look at others and think, why cant they make it work? Its so easy for us!
But once reality sets in and honeymoon phase is over, you have the pressures of higher studies or work, possibly a long distance relationship (which most people have to deal with at some point of time), you realize that is not quite as hunky-dory as it seems. You really need to be very secure and confident in your space, because there will be a million temptations and doubts.
Communication, mutual respect,trust and understanding are all required to make a relationship tick. If you have what it takes, then nothing can stop you.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (14 July 2011):
You need to really connect, communicate and continuously reinvest in your relationship. You have to WORK HARD at the relationship... and never that the relationship or him for granted.
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reader, Claraw1  +, writes (14 July 2011):
 Hi I Know my brother was 18 years old when he married his wife, and she was just 16 years old. They have been married for 30 years, with 3 beautiful children and now they have grandchildren. A lot of people may say that it isn't possible for young people to make it, but I have seen that it can happen. My brother and sister-in-law are still very much in-love, they have had their problems and worked through it. I believe that if you are both willing to make it work then it can. The main thing that is required for any relationship to last is for both people to be willing to work at making it last and keep being open and honest with each other. I wish you the best of luck and good fortune.
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