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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...
A little humility goes a long way
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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
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Tried to get my GF to "change" for me, but I'm still not attracted to her and there's no sexual tension
Q. I've been with my GF for 3 years now, but our relationship is missing sexual tension. I'll try to be as honest as possible. You will judge my behavior as selfish, and I will not object, but know that when I'm changing my GF to my tastes, I'm trying ...
A. 1 April 2011: The cardinal mistake in your attitude is that you're trying to get someone to change to suite YOUR taste. You think in turn thats going to save your relationship? This poor girl is so low on self esteem that she "wanted" you even though she knew you ... (read in full...)
He asked me to pay for dinner on the second date! What should I think about this?
Q. If a man asks a woman to pay for dinner on the 2nd date what should she think ?...
A. 31 March 2011: What should you think? Nothing. Why should you take favours from anyone? Why should a guy pay for you? You're going on a date with him, pay for yourself! Henceforth dont wait for a guy to ask you to pay, do it yourself. Iv been with my boyfri... (read in full...)
Why do so many women hate porn?
Q. Maybe I'm opening a can of worms here, but why are so many woman so vehemently against porn? What is there about it that makes it so evil? I read so many questions from women who are disgusted by their partner's porn use. Some consider it as b...
A. 31 March 2011: 1.)It’s a natural instinct to be fiercely loved, wanted and protected by one’s mate. Most women in a relationship hate it when their men view porn, because not only does that mean he’s looking at another woman, but he’s also looking at her naked and ... (read in full...)
Why do women say you're a fantastic guy, the best lover they have ever met, yet leave and say they need to move on?
Q. When my lady walked into my life, it was like a ray of sunshine, she was tall, elegant, graceful and very very beautiful with intelligence, so she should being a doctor. The second we met it was sparks, being a free spirit she didn't want a ...
A. 31 March 2011: Well women say that because for some thats the perfect way of saying goodbye without letting the other person down. I mean, as it is break-ups and good byes' are tough, and saying good things about the other person just lessens the impact. Its like ... (read in full...)
A little humility goes a long way
Q. I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
A. 31 March 2011: Thanks for all the feedback.
I understand your point Mishmash, there are times when the aunts get into a battle of words between themselves and the OP is no longer the focus of attention. Thats a pity really, because we're not here to prove ou... (read in full...)
I need money. Is gay porn the answer? I don't want to cheat on my GF.
Q. hello, i am in serious dept, i haven't got a job and have £103 every 2 weeks. with my balance being so high I cant make the next step with my girl friend. i watched a program on MTV about porn stars lives, there was a guy on there whom who was ...
A. 30 March 2011: Pornography is not the answer. It would end up being the key to the biggest disaster of your life. If your girlfriend gets to know that you've been doing gay porn for money, do you think she would want to touch that money with a barge pole?? How ... (read in full...)
I need money. Is gay porn the answer? I don't want to cheat on my GF.
Q. hello, i am in serious dept, i haven't got a job and have £103 every 2 weeks. with my balance being so high I cant make the next step with my girl friend. i watched a program on MTV about porn stars lives, there was a guy on there whom who was ...
A. 30 March 2011: Pornography is not the answer. It would end up being the key to the biggest disaster of your life. If your girlfriend gets to know that you've been doing gay porn for money, do you think she would want to touch that money with a barge pole?? How ... (read in full...)
My step father is getting a bit too close! Does he just think I am a child? Is this part of his culture? Or should I tell my mom?
Q. Hello. I am a fourteen-year-old girl. My widowed mother just recently married again. My stepfather seemed very nice. She's attracted some sleezy men in the past. But he seemed great. I'm an only child and while they were dating, they'd often take me ...
A. 30 March 2011: Tell your mom right away that your step father's behavior is making you uncomfortable. Always trust your instincts, and in your case, you're right to feel weird about it.
This is not acceptable parent-child behavior. He can be a truly great gu... (read in full...)
Is sexting with another woman cheating?
Q. Is sexting (sending sexually explicit texts/pics) cheating? A guy I know has been doing this with me on FB and to my cell phone. I found out he's engaged! So I have stopped responding because I feel it is disrespectful to his gf, but is it ...
A. 30 March 2011: Yes its cheating. You did the right thing in putting an end to it.
As far as telling his girlfriend is concerned, dont do it. She might already know that her B/f is a creep and she chooses to keep quiet, OR she might completely not believe what... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't treat his girlfriend well...and I like her. How do I handle this?
Q. me and my friends girlfriend have been talking recently online and when we see each other in person. my friend isn't a good friend and he isn't a good boyfriend either and i don't see their relationship going anywhere. i told her on that i think ...
A. 29 March 2011: Well if he doesnt treat her well, then she should be the one having the problem and dealing with the relationship in the appropriate way. If she's that unhappy, she should walk out first before starting anything with you. Dont get into anything ... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend says its ok for him to have sex with call girls since its just "meaningless sex"
Q. Hi Me and my bf are in LDR for the past 6 months. I'll be going back within 3-4 months. My bf wants to have sex with some callgirls, since there was no sex for the past 6 months. I dont like the idea, when i said even i didnt have any sex for 6 mo...
A. 29 March 2011: "Meaningless sex"?? Really??
If you still havent kicked this guy to the curb, do it NOW. What a great way of justifying himself!! Guys are different from girls? says who? this idiot who wants "meaningless sex"?
Please do not even think about... (read in full...)
Is it true that only time is a healer?
Q. I was just wondering how you get over a break up? I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years in January and it is still hurting. I know the break up was right for me as I am at Uni and the relationship was getting difficult to keep healthy and happ...
A. 29 March 2011: Time does heal wounds. Obviously one doesnt completely ever forget, but you just learn how to deal with it better. I realize that breaking up with someone who you love very much must be absolutely terrible. Why did you break up with him in the first ... (read in full...)
A little humility goes a long way
Q. I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
A. 28 March 2011: I liked your article Dirtball...isint it so annoying when the OP just doesnt give a damn, especially when the aunts have given a thoughtful, considerate answer??!!
You have a good point though...most people need a validation that they are right in... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has no money, no ambition and he wants a baby!
Q. Hi evryone! 1 am in love with my bf (his 27 yrs old), we love each other so much but my problem is he doesn't have money, even the money to start a business, his working but his salary is 2 smal, and he cannot get another job because he doesn't ...
A. 26 March 2011: They say when you have nothing else but love, then love itself is enough. Clearly in your case. But very impractical.
All love and nothing else is not a very happy place to be in. I'm not discouraging you; he could be a great guy. But a few year... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong for keeping the pic of a guy who means nothing to be but is associated with my holiday memories?
Q. Do you think i'm in the wrong? i have a photo of this boy i met on holiday when i went away for a week when i was younger. My bf of 4 years is telling me i should get rid of it and asked me why i kept it in the 1st place. The reason i kept it...
A. 26 March 2011: I dont think you're wrong at all. I have some wonderful holiday memories too, the most amazing time of my life in different countries where I met so many different people, each with a special place in my heart. I still have pictures and emails with ... (read in full...)
My fiance's sister wants to date my ex?
Q. So a couple of years ago, I dated this guy. He was a HUGE part of my life, and we dated for a long time. However, we grew up, and went our seprate ways. But we still talk. I moved 6 hours away, and...every couple of months, i'll get a text or a ...
A. 26 March 2011: Well you really cant stop either of them from meeting up or "gettin' around" because really, thats not your place. Sorry you dont want to hear this right now, but they can turn around and tell you that its not your concern and they are both free to ... (read in full...)
Opinion on friends with benefits?
Q. Friends with benefits. What's your opinion? Do these kind of "relationships" always turn into something much more complicating? ...
A. 26 March 2011: FWBs' never work. You cant have sex with a friend...a sexual relationship with a "friend" negates the friendship right there. So what is one left with? No friend, no relationship, nothing.
People find these relationships convenient because ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me return or exchange a foster child, but I would like to adopt
Q. I fostered a three year todler, with a view to adopt, against my boyfriend's will last year. We are now engaged to be married in next few months. he is still not for the idea of the boy being around. He is an active boy, and like any other child can ...
A. 21 March 2011: This is really weird!! What kind of a man is your boyfriend? He's referring to this child like a pair of shoes...oh I dont like it, so please return/exchange it!! Who even THINKS of exchanging a child??? This is bizarre!! You should not mess ... (read in full...)
Do you think the man I am having an affair with is seeing someone else?
Q. Please don't judge me... I am married and am having an affair with a recently separated man. (We hooked up when he was married last year). To give a brief hx, I knew him from the past yet never hooked up. Well we did last year and had sex. I never...
A. 21 March 2011: Even if he WAS seeing someone else, how does that change anything?
You're married, having an affair with him. He is separated, not even divorced, and you hooked up when he was married.You dont intend leaving your husband, even though he has a tr... (read in full...)
I love my girl but am scared of losing her if I admit to having kissed another girl while drunk
Q. Hi, really need some help, i have now been with my girlfriend for 6 months, i love her to pieces and think out relationship is absolutely amazing. However, i am at uni and she lives back home, during freshers weeks, while very drunk i kissed a few ...
A. 20 March 2011: First of all, being drunk is no excuse for kissing random girls. No matter how drunk you are, you cant do something pathetic and blame it on alcohol. Anyway, since the damage is done, if you're ABSOLUTELY sure this wont happen again and from n... (read in full...)
My son is depressed about trying to help his ex,and I want to help my son!
Q. my son and his partner are both studying they have at his partners insistance moved into a one bedroom flat and have been there for 8 months. His partner has been unfaithful with several other men and the relationship is over however they are ...
A. 20 March 2011: As the other aunts have said, the only thing you can do is to ask him to move back home and keep paying his part of the lease. He has to realize that he is not responsible for her. In any case, she is an adult and is capable of making her own ... (read in full...)
Much to do about pancake mixes?
Q. My bestfriend and i go to the same hairdressers,we've both known him for years.The hairdresser and i were chatting and he dropped into the conversation about an incident that my bestfriend had brought up which my daughter got upset because i only ...
A. 20 March 2011: Please dont react to this. Unless someone tell you something DIRECTLY, never react to it. Even if its true, she hasn't told anything to you or your daughter. Dont ever react to what you hear from others.
Very often conversations take on a complete... (read in full...)
I'm not attracted to my girlfriend's body. Should I leave her?
Q. Hi. I don't know what to do. Please read the whole question before cursing me and telling me what an idiot I am. You can do that after you've read the question. Well, I am not attracted to my girlfriend's body. We've been together for several mont...
A. 20 March 2011: Since you've already started with the relationship, all you can now do is let go of her WITHOUT making her feel bad for the way she is. Its very easy to hurt someone and its really not her fault that she doesn't fit into your mental ideal.
Keep ... (read in full...)
Am I right in feeling troubled about my gf's sleeping with her ex whom she known for a very short time?
Q. Girlfriend's Past sex life Hey guys..i am 25.......need some help...i just started seeing this girl and we hit it off instantly...we have met only 4 times till now.....and recently we got physical. During that, some stupid force of nature prompt...
A. 20 March 2011: ...."She said she really thought she loved this guy, but after meeting me, she broke off with him." Thats a little weird. You dont just fall in and out of "love" at the drop of a hat.
What if she finds someone new and moves on? Tread carefull... (read in full...)
I feel cheated because she loved someone more than me in the past!
Q. Please help me,I am suffering with this big problem,I don't know if I share this issue, you may think stupid but 'I am' what to do, here goes my story I believe in one women/one men in life for marriage/love, I have loved my g/f too much for 8-yrs ...
A. 18 March 2011: Everyone has a past. Nobody can change it, no matter how much they wish they could.
You're being silly and unrealistic about your girlfriends past! She hasn't cheated on you; you weren't even a part of her life then!! As you grow older, you have... (read in full...)
Why am I a bad person because I use prostitutes?
Q. Dear All, I am going to ask few questions which might offend some of you if they do please pardon me and try understanding my query. I have few basic questions about life which I want you to answer but before that let me give you some insight abo...
A. 18 March 2011: Wait a sec...hold the phone. You're Indian?
Im sorry your nationality is none of my business BUT if you're a good Indian boy with tons of expectations from the parents and society about finding the right girl to settle down with, maybe that is ... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend my family has money problems and that my siblings might want to borrow some money from him...and now he finds my family disgusting.
Q. I've been dating this boy for a few years now, and so far, everything's been wonderful. I'm planning to meet his family this December, and we've talked of marriage and kids. The problem is, I'm not so stellar of him meeting my family. My sibli...
A. 16 March 2011: No you're not over-reacting. I admire the way you have conducted yourself, because money is something that is so important for everyone; your life has been difficult because of financial problems and yet you have handled everything so gracefully and ... (read in full...)
Why am I a bad person because I use prostitutes?
Q. Dear All, I am going to ask few questions which might offend some of you if they do please pardon me and try understanding my query. I have few basic questions about life which I want you to answer but before that let me give you some insight abo...
A. 14 March 2011: Your colleagues response was totally out of line. Take it from a lady.
First of all, what you or anyone else does, is not of anyone's concern, IF it does not affect them/society in a negative way. But this moral policing was totally uncalled... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't have my number saved in his phone!!!
Q. I've been seeing my boyfriend for a little over a year now. One day, he lost his phone at my place. We decided to use my phone to call it hoping to follow the sound of the ringer. When I found it ringing, I noticed that my number was not saved in ...
A. 10 March 2011: My friend had the same problem with her bf. When she confronted him, he came up with some stuff like...I have your number embedded in my memory. Why should I save it?? I remember this because I thought it was one of the best fake answers ever!!
... (read in full...)
My best friend took my boyfriend's number from my phone while I was sleeping, and now she's texting him! Please help!
Q. Ok I guess I'll just get to the point. There's this guy I REALLY like I even think I might be falling in love with. I will call him “Steve”. I was at my cousin’s house along with three other people (one of which is my very best friend). I showed m...
A. 10 March 2011: Get away from this "friend" of yours. You cant do anything much but talk to Steve and just tell him whatever's happened and if he's gracious and sensible enough, he would know that its not your fault and accept the apology. ... (read in full...)
Something is nagging me about my boyfriend's past. Should you be honest about your feelings or let the past go?
Q. I just have a short question. Something is nagging me about my boyfriend's past. I am aware that he cannot change it, and perhaps I am over-analyzing or exaggerating things. I am not sure if the answer from him would affect my feelings or not. ...
A. 10 March 2011: Never ask for the truth if you cant handle it. However, if you do know something about your boyfriend's past and it bothers you, you have to realize that its the PAST. You cant change anything and neither can he.
All of us have something in our p... (read in full...)
Is there any sure fire way of knowing if he's at all interested in me, besides asking him?
Q. I've known this guy for awhile now, and I've just recently been getting to know him better. He always smiles at me and says hi, we text each other once in awhile, we always seem to catch each other's eye in class and stuff, but is there any sure ...
A. 8 March 2011: Oh stop looking for signs and signals...you would just end up obsessing over every single eye contact and what not! Just ask him. And if he likes you back, well there you go! Good for you!! ... (read in full...)
Fishing with my married friend?? Is it okay?
Q. I'm a divorced female 30yrs old and am friends with a guy 31yrs old at work who is unhappily married and has 2 small children whom are his world. We get along great and joke around all the time and even text each other on the weekends comparing what ...
A. 8 March 2011: Dont get into this please. No matter how unhappily married he is, the point is he's still MARRIED. You cannot act on your crush and it'l only spell disaster. Irrespective of how unhappy you were in your own marriage, would you like it if some woman ... (read in full...)
A thank you to everyone here who's helped me
Q. I've been on dearcupid for 6 years now. Over the years, I have asked many questions, and have given the best advice I could from expeirence. I'm recently engaged to the most wonderful man I could ever hope for, and find that I can talk to him about ...
A. 7 March 2011: Its so nice of you to appreciate all those who've helped you! Wish you the very best in life....and I hope you have endless happiness together!!... (read in full...)
What's wrong with being sexually conservative?!
Q. I felt strongly about the kind of misleading advice / negative overtones that are often present in the responses to people who've been sexually conservative (or abstinent) and are disturbed to find their SO (significant other) have not. They are ...
A. 6 March 2011: Whats wrong with being sexually conservative? Nothing. Whats wrong with experimenting sexually IF one knows what he/she is doing and can make their own choices? Also nothing. "Being sexually conservative is a choice and a very good one at that... (read in full...)
Now that we've broken up, should I ask her to return the expensive gift that I had given her?
Q. i gave my girlfriend a very expensive computer. after a month she broke up with me with an excuse that "she is very busy with all other stuff and she has no time for a relationship" is it ok if i tell her to give that computer back.? i gave her as a ...
A. 5 March 2011: CindyCares is right...Its in very bad taste to ask for a gift back. Once you've given it, its not yours anymore. And no one pointed a gun to your head and asked you to gift her an expensive computer. You did it because you wanted to. Irrespective of ... (read in full...)
I miss my home, I miss my mum, I miss being in the countryside, but there are commitments that I have to fulfill in London....
Q. Hi i just dont know what to do! I'm a 21 year old girl from the countryside in a small town, i live with my mum as my dad died when i was 4 and i have no brothers or sisters so me and my mum are very close. i grew up there until i left home to go to...
A. 4 March 2011: Awww...this takes me back to those days when I first left home to go to uni. I was just the same way as you...still am...but I'l tell you what. You are very lucky to at least have your boyfriend with you. I didnt even have that!! As for being ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have been offered to join another couple for a foursome. I want to do it, but I don't want to ruin my relationship. Help!
Q. One of my biggest fantasies is a foursome and recently some friends of my fiances saw my photo on his phone and basically asked straight out if we would consider doing a foursome as they love those kinds of things. The moment he came home he told me ...
A. 4 March 2011: Your fantasy would just open a can of worms. You can convince yourself with all "successful" foursome stories if you want to, but it never really works out. You basically want it because its taboo; its giving you a thrill from the thought of walking ... (read in full...)
How do I show this jerk in a classy manner that I have moved on?
Q. Okay guys. My question is how do you handle a guy who has been ignoring you for the past two months. He liked me but then ran away because he was in another relationship and couldn't handle his feelings. So now he is back in the picture. He just...
A. 3 March 2011: Completely cut off all contact with him. No talking to him, smiling, being civil...he doesn't deserve any acknowledgement from you.
This man doesn't exist for you. Period. ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my fear of sexual-intimacy?
Q. I am seventeen and have been in a relationship for 4 months or so, and it's getting to that point where we need to move on to the sexual side of the relationship... I've had previous relationships, but they haven't worked out because I just wasn't p...
A. 3 March 2011: I felt the same way too...till I met my boyfriend. When i saw how amazing he was and what he meant to me, and that we were in a loving, committed relationship, I just realized there was nothing to be scared of.
We fear those things which we feel ... (read in full...)
I can't convince her to leave her husband.
Q. I am having trouble coping with the guilt I feel about the relationship my girlfriend and I have. She is married and has been married for 8 years, her and I have been seeing each other for 3 years and I can seriously say I love that women. When...
A. 1 March 2011: You cant convince her to do anything she doesnt want to. She had the choice and she has CHOSEN to be with her husband. That is a decision which she has taken and you cannot force her or convince her to change it in any way. Its not that she is a 5 ... (read in full...)
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