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writes:Hello everyone!My BF of 1 1/2yrs has a "friend" at work. She is married and has 2 small kids. She texts my BF all the time, calls him all the time and even has a pet name for him. I have stressed to my BF that i dont like it and his response is "she is just a friend". They have worked together for years. Their co-workers think they r having an affair and he says that is just people talking and its not true. Their company was on strike and i found out that my BF was co-ordinating with her as to when they would walk the picket line together, if she went in at 4 he went in at 4. When she didnt go he didnt go. We have had many arguments about this situation and he stresses that they are "just friends". Apparently my BF has never told this girl of my feelings so she apparently doesnt know how i feel. He thinks there is no need to tell her because nothing is going on with them. I have tried to believe him and over look all the contact but im having a hard time with it. And yes he calls and texts her too "because she is his friend" he says. He has told me he stopped calling and answering her so much but i have seen his phone and thats not true!Everything else in our relationship is wonderful and he treats me great otherwise.What to do? What to do? Please help?Thanks everyone!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): Get a male friend to start texting,ringing you and when your bf starts asking questions just reply `he is just a friend`and wait for his reaction
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (28 June 2011):
 Everything made sense till I saw the age bracket you were in. Only because this means your BF is also likely to be in the same bracket and for someone his age, his behavior is silly. I can expect this from a 25 yr old guy, not someone almost double his age!Frankly, I dont really believe in this entire "friends only" thing. If someone is in a relationship, then they should never cross the line with "friends" from the opposite sex. Yes it raises red flags from whatever you've written.There is no need to call and text someone so much everyday. And whats with the pet name?? What's that all about?! They are obviously too close for comfort, that is why its given reason to the co-workers to suspect they're having an affair. I say talk to him about it and tell him that his close association with that woman bothers you. I mean, how would he feel if the roles were reversed? If he says that he would be ok with it if he were in your place, then he's lying.Look, friends should stay as friends, and all of us know where to draw the line with them. There is a certain relationship that we have with out partner and a different one with a friend. If that line ever gets blurry, it always spells trouble. Your BF should know that by now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2011): I think that there's some hard crushing going on and it doesn't seem like a big deal to him but for u it is and I think he should have enough respect to respect your thoughts and your mind I'm not saying that there not good friends but your opinion should count this is totally a respect issue I don't think he's cheating tho so have a one on one talk again and let him no how much this bothers u and hopefully he will see that u are really concerned good luck
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