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31 March 2011: I recently read something nice that I would like to share.... JUST TWO. Donate blood twice a year. Donate your eyes after death. Thank God twice a day. Write two letters a week. Visit two ailing people a month. Say two words of gratitude-"...
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27 March 2011: I’ve been a moderator here on DC for a while and it’s a great forum. It really irritates me though when the OP shows no regard for the aunts who’ve taken time to answer questions. We moderators don’t know you, yet we spend time poring over ever...
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GF won't let me walk her home.
Q. I've been dating a girl from work for almost six months now and we have been getting along very well in that time. We don't get to see each other as often as we would like as she also works as a live-in carer looking after a man who is 71 years ...
A. 14 November 2011: I personally don't think she is hiding anything; maybe the atmosphere at the old man's place isn't the best and she doesn't want any drama with him. Sometimes aged people can be very persnickety and irritating and they want details for everything ... (read in full...)
He cheated, I broke it off, but I want answers!
Q. my bf of a few years cheated on me its been a week since i broke it off with him. im still in a lot of pain. i told him to leave me alone and he said he would respect that. i promised my self to cut off all contact i blocked his number and deleted ...
A. 14 November 2011: OP I can understand this entire situation must be a nightmare but trust me, asking him anything wont make things better in ANY way.
For one thing, he is not to be trusted, so whatever he says will most likely be a lie.
Secondly, he ... (read in full...)
I walked in on a co-worker speaking ill of me!
Q. Awful day at work, coworker from another department helped out in our office. When I left to help clients, the "helper" was talking about my writing! I had returned to the office and stood in the door frozen as she talked to my colleague about my ...
A. 14 November 2011: You shouldn't have cried OP. Its very hurtful to walk in and hear someone speaking ill of you, but you should have just calmly said, "I understand you were talking about me, but in future it would be nice if you could talk to me directly rather than ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my dad's 70 year old friend and I don't mind if he's out to have fun with me, because I still want him!
Q. hi, I truly have feelings for someone who is about 70.He is my dad's friend.At first, he showed an interest in me.then he managed to get me be alone with him.He said stuff like, he's never taken to anyone like he did to me.He was so romantic...
A. 11 November 2011: Since you've decided that you don't care even if he just wants to have fun with you, then what exactly are you worried about?
Your parents don't expect a lot of things from you. The fact that you've kissed a 70 year old friend of your dad's, i... (read in full...)
Tonight I learned my husband may be cheating again
Q. My husband's iphone beeped tonight with an SMS coming in, while we were in the car together. He was driving, so i just picked up the phone for him, and happened to notice a female name that i didn't recognise, and a message saying "is it ok to txt ...
A. 11 November 2011: He is cheating on you, there is absolutely no doubt about that. The issue isn't about giving him his phone back, because he could write a thesis on cheating and ways to do it. If you don't give him the phone, he'll call her from another number or ... (read in full...)
What can I say to this 20 year old guy who is interested in me? I'm hesitant.
Q. I know this guy, he's 20 and am 31 i was just wondering why is he interested in me, when he can have anyone he wants? I am worried about the age difference when keep asking me out. i say sorry I'm too old for you and he says I'm not old. What d...
A. 9 November 2011: Sounds like you like the attention. Well who wouldn't? But the question you really need to address is, not why he is interested in you, but where do you see this going?
Look OP, there's no explanation for attraction. You just get drawn towards ... (read in full...)
She says she cant live with me but cant live without me! What can I do to get rid of my wife's inconsistent behaviour?
Q. I am married for the last 20 months . I am 28 whereas my wife is 27. 20 months back, I met her in a stadium while watching football match and I lost my heart to her within no time. In the stadium, offered her 600000 Euros to marry me as I was ...
A. 9 November 2011: Six hundred thousand Euros? Seriously, a 26 year old guy (at the time of the marriage), shelling out 600000 euros to buy a bride, while watching a match in a stadium? As CindyCares said, if you were that rich, you would be in a special enclosure, ... (read in full...)
I feel bad because I'm always saying no when he asks me out, how can I make it up to him?
Q. Over the past week I've been really really sick like I could hardly leave my bed without assistance. My fella doesn't know how sick I've been but has asked me out 4 times and I declined due to my illness like he asked me to a chariy event, Dinner , ...
A. 8 November 2011: I don't get it! There's no reason to feel bad, because you are sick. Why haven't you told him how unwell you are? Its taken you less than 5 lines to explain your situation to perfect strangers on the internet, I'm surprised at how and your ... (read in full...)
What's happening to me? I get this warm fuzzy feeling when she is there.
Q. I met this girl at school and she is really pretty. We have a lot in common. When ever I see her I get a warm fuzzy new feeling. I feel really shy around her. My face feel hot and I notice my cheeks get red. Whats happening to me? Why am I feeling ...
A. 6 November 2011: Ah...you have a crush on her! Enjoy this feeling while it lasts!... (read in full...)
Why would his ex send naked photos if nothing happened between them?
Q. Dear Cupid my bf recently told me his ex gf ever sent hum naked photos of herself and although he said that it was quite some time back and that he had already deleted them, I still feel uneasy. Of the random things we always talk about, he suddenly ...
A. 4 November 2011: While its natural to doubt him, I think he might be telling the truth. Obviously your B/f and his ex were talking about sex when they were together and there was dirty talk involved, but maybe it just stopped at the picture thing. After all, 14 is ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my lesbian girlfriend to take it easy on me during sex without telling her I was a virgin before her?
Q. Girlfriend is on a quest to sexually open me up. She doesn't like to use lube although she can be real rough during sex. I really really love her and she says she loves me....we've been together two years n being intimate for a yr and a half. We ...
A. 4 November 2011: Sorry but this isn't a healthy sexual relationship. You shouldn't have to use the lube without telling her, because you're not doing anything wrong! The very fact that she is averse to the fact that you should use lube, shows that the sexual act is ... (read in full...)
I'm 6 weeks pregnant, against abortion and the guy is no longer interested in me and has a girlfriend
Q. 6 wks pregnant and worried about our relationship? Is he done with me now? What should I do? I'm 18 and have been in college mostly interested in singing only interesting thing about college is this guy I'm highly attracted to. We had hooked up...
A. 3 November 2011: I'll answer one question at a time.
"Should I tell him or not"? Yes, you should. Its his child and he has the right to know.
"Do you think he'll ever be interested in me only"? - No, he wont. Sorry, but that's the truth. Sadly he never was int... (read in full...)
What do I take my father in law's comments to mean?
Q. I recently told my father-in-law (in a state of despair and hurt and expecting some empathy) about his son's (my husband) cheating on me with different women. Father-in-law's response was that I was not the only woman to have been hurt. Does his ...
A. 2 November 2011: Since he has himself been a victim of infidelity, he knows what its like to be hurt by a cheating partner. Going by that logic, he should have comforted you, but rather than getting all emotional, he simply put up a strong exterior and said that you ... (read in full...)
A man she had a thing with years ago commented on her Facebook, I feel so betrayed!
Q. Yesterday i saw a post of a picture of my wife and my grandfather on facebook and saying that she feels much happy because never had a real blood grandpapa and for having a grandfather like him,etc. And everybody replied and liked it, and this guy ...
A. 1 November 2011: If there was ever an over-the-top reaction, this is the one.
I'm surprised your wife is even taking part in this ridiculous conversation with you. HOW is it her fault or her problem if that man comments on her pic? You know what, I could write mo... (read in full...)
Is he more interested in sex than me? now all he seems concerned about is how soon we can become a couple and start having sex
Q. Hey guys would love an outsiders opinion to this... Long story short I've met this amazing guy two weeks ago who is sweet, cute, funny and matched and rivalled my humour and we got on really well. We've been talking non stop over this time and al...
A. 31 October 2011: Well this side to him which you never knew existed, because he was busy trying to charm you with the "shy and cute" tactics, to get you to like him.
Sorry OP, this one's upto no good. No guy with honorable intentions would talk about sex so early... (read in full...)
My bf is convinced I'm in love with my friend (which I'm not!) and now he wants to speak to my friend's pregnant and emotional wife to see how she feels about our friendship!!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend (I will name "Ned") for about 17 years. "Ned" broke up with me about two and a half years ago saying I wasn't "the one" and he wanted to find her and didn't want to waste more time with me. I had wanted to get ...
A. 31 October 2011: OP why do you think so poorly of yourself?
Ned made you wait for SEVENTEEN years and then packed your stuff and threw you out. The very first mistake that you made was that you waited for THIS long for a man. You made yourself wayyyyyy... (read in full...)
My past is coming back to haunt me.....
Q. I have a very big problem about my past and I'm not sure how to handle it. My husband I are married almost 10 years, and together over 10 years. My husband thinks that I was not only a virgin when we started dating, but he also thinks that I was CO...
A. 28 October 2011: Don't tell your husband anything because 10 years and a happy marriage are at stake here, in exchange for a certain truth that doesn't even matter now. You are faithful to your husband,you are committed to him and you have found your anchor in him. ... (read in full...)
Why is my G/f behaving like this?
Q. The first time discovered my girlfriend on the internet asking for quickies and affairs she became angry when I tried to discuss it and she just told me I`m paranoid and was being mentally abusive by making allegations through my own guilt, and I ...
A. 27 October 2011: So she's looking for ways to cheat on you and then calling you paranoid, she's jealous, doesn't want help for any of her problems, compares you to her ex, creates a scene whenever things don't go her way....is there anything that's left?! She is ... (read in full...)
Is getting him back a realistic aim? My bf went back to his wife, will he ever come back to me?
Q. I am 29, 5 months pregnant. My bf left me after I called him COWARD because he was too afraid to show his face to my parents and stand up for our baby. After a day, his sister told me that he's gone back to his wife. I am in so much pain right no...
A. 18 October 2011: He didn't love you. Its not something you want to hear, but unfortunately its the truth. If he did, you would be the one he was with right now, not his wife. He just did what spineless, gutless cheats do best. Have a nice time with the other woman ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's mother has seen all our dirty texts and now I cant face her!
Q. Hey this is really embarassing but i have no one to turn upto for help.! Last night, me and my boyfriend were texting each other, rather talking dirty, when suddenly his mom and dadcaught him texting. His mother already hates me unlike ...
A. 17 October 2011: Wait a min...what "sin" are you talking about?! Isn't this whole thing being blown WAY out of proportion? So you exchanged a few naughty texts. Why this over the top reaction? Agreed it must be a shock to the parents and something no parent would ... (read in full...)
B/f took my virginity and now I don't hear from him. Was sex all he wanted?
Q. I,ve been dating my boyfriend for nearly four months now and last weekend we had sex for the first time! Wel it was my first time as i was a virgin. Since then he hasn't really texted me much except for wedensday night where he asked me away for the ...
A. 16 October 2011: Well the ideal answer is you shouldn't have jumped into sex this early, when you're not a hundred percent sure of EVERYTHING, including your feelings for each other. But what's done is done. Look OP, no one except him will know what he really w... (read in full...)
Is it time to stop talking to my ex?. I still love him. What does he want from me? I am sick of him making me feel so jealous
Q. Dear readers I still love my ex boyfriend. Its been 10 months since we broke up. Lately he has been chatting with my cousin sister on a social network site. She is 3 years our junior and is more attractive than I am. He finds her to be an interes...
A. 16 October 2011: He knows you still have feelings for him, no matter how much to try to conceal it from him. He's using your cousin to try and make you jealous and to get back at you for the break up.
Why are you still in contact with this loser? If you've b... (read in full...)
Did I over-react? my husband defended his friend. Ignored my feelings. The sexual joke was about me
Q. Tell me if I'm over reacting or if I took this the wrong way. My husband has a male friend who I think has really disrespected me. They were talking online with a bunch of people. My husband's friend said: "We should get you a webcam and have ...
A. 15 October 2011: Your feelings are justified and you need to tell him how hurt you feel and that his party's over now. Enough of the "streamer" nonsense. Its gone too far and you refuse to accept this any longer.... (read in full...)
Did I over-react? my husband defended his friend. Ignored my feelings. The sexual joke was about me
Q. Tell me if I'm over reacting or if I took this the wrong way. My husband has a male friend who I think has really disrespected me. They were talking online with a bunch of people. My husband's friend said: "We should get you a webcam and have ...
A. 15 October 2011: Your husband probably thinks that he's lucky enough to be included in the "popular" group, and he thinks this is how the "cool" guys behave. He's basically like a school boy with a bunch of wannabes trying to be cool and laugh at sexual jokes. Even ... (read in full...)
About Facebook and relationships
Q. While generally facebook is considered a fun way to keep in touch with friends and share photos, it can be a huge source of turmoil in a relationship. If I had a dime for every time I read "I'm worried because I saw something on her/his facebook..." ...
A. 15 October 2011: The thing is, I'm sure there's something good about FB for it to have sustained for so long and still be as popular, but unfortunately I've not seen the good side yet.
I never even had an account to begin with; I created my account a couple o... (read in full...)
I don't want a baby, but I really want to be pregnant!
Q. Hello! I just wanted to know if anyone has had these feelings before, and why you have them and how you've dealt with them/got rid of them. Recently I have been wanting to get pregnant, but before I go any further I am going to assure you...
A. 14 October 2011: You've either been watching sitcoms or movies that have "happy pregnancies", where the dad-to-be fusses over his partner and everyone is always in a happy-happy, baby showery mood, or you've seen pregnant women who are treated special by their ... (read in full...)
He has made me feel so bad about myself I am considering breaking up with him. Help!
Q. I need to know the essence of our relationship and also the essential lacking. Following is the sequence of events: We met and he fell for me head over heels. Would keep complimenting me all the time, was happy with me. I did not very much ...
A. 14 October 2011: Contemplating a break up? Do it RIGHT now. You have sadly given him too much of a hold on yourself. Its natural to surrender to your partner and let your guard down, but your partner has completely twisted this and is emotionally abusing you. He ... (read in full...)
I haven't spoken to him in 2 weeks since I found out his devastating news!
Q. Ok,I need some advice. I've been to ashamed to share this with family or friends yet. I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. I'm 28 and he's 26. I found out recently almost by accident that before he started dating me he was involved...
A. 14 October 2011: You are right to feel sick about this. This guy is bad news. Trust me, breaking up with him will be the wisest thing you can do. He's not worth even a second of your thoughts. Move on, get it out of your system, don't even bother contacting him ... (read in full...)
She had sex before we met, now I can't trust her.
Q. Hi everyone. I need some advise on what I should do. I have been with this girl for the last 5 years. The problem is that I cant resepct her or do anything nice for her. She has a past, she lost her virginity when she was 15 years old and stayed in ...
A. 14 October 2011: Do her the biggest and only favor and please let her go. Let her finally live her own life and meanwhile you go and seek professional help. There's nothing wrong with her, she just has the worst luck, to have met just about the most irrational ... (read in full...)
About Facebook and relationships
Q. While generally facebook is considered a fun way to keep in touch with friends and share photos, it can be a huge source of turmoil in a relationship. If I had a dime for every time I read "I'm worried because I saw something on her/his facebook..." ...
A. 13 October 2011: Thanks Person, this article helped me!! I've been waiting for a wake up call (I'm just plain lazy!) and thanks to your article, i FINALLY deactivated my Facebook account.I've been meaning to do it for quite a while now, and this was the nudge that ... (read in full...)
B/f wants a foursome--3 guys and me! I kind of want it too!
Q. I've had the biggest crush on this guy for like a year now. He's super adorable. We flirt all the time. He and I have been "talking" for like two months now. I love when people give me attention and he gives me the most. Last month, we were at his ...
A. 13 October 2011: Whoa! This is disturbing!!
This rogue knows you like him and he thinks you will be an easy target for his sick fantasies. He has ZERO respect or regard for you, you're just a warm body who will help satisfy his craving for an orgy. And having h... (read in full...)
Am I being too jealous and paranoid?
Q. Hi, my problem is this my girlfriend of 3 years is making me very uncomfortable with her behaviour. She is texting an ex school friend of hers and has admitted this guy likes her and that if she wasnt with me she would probably go for him. The ...
A. 12 October 2011: You need to let go of her or at least take a break and be alone for a bit and let her figure out what she wants.
She's enjoying the fact that she's desired by this other guy. Its an ego boost. She's just going with whatever's happening and not ... (read in full...)
The difference between breaking up and on a break???
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend on Saturday. However after several break downs on Saturday, and seeing him yesterday I've realized I really want to be with him, and he want's to be with me. So we've retitled our breakup, to a break. My question is ...
A. 11 October 2011: A "break" is when you choose to step back from the relationship and not see each other with the idea that you will get back together. You basically want some space from each other and think about the relationship and how you can mend your ... (read in full...)
I know I'll be hurt if I stay with him, but it'll hurt if I say we're over too!
Q. I,m dating this AMAZING guy. He's sweet, funny, kind, caring and I really care about him. I feel like I love him but I know he doesn't feel the same...he doesn't really want a relationship. The thing is he's had alot of lovers in the past and only 3 ...
A. 11 October 2011: OP you're going to get hurt either way, so its better you call it off first. Knowing its not going anywhere and yet staying with him and falling for him is never an ideal situation. Accept that sometimes things don't work out and although its very, ... (read in full...)
Flatmate problems....
Q. I've just moved into a shared student flat in a convenient location near the uni I've just started a course at. It's an ideal location. I moved in a bit later than two of the other people in the flat because I live within an hour and waited until...
A. 10 October 2011: I completely understand this problem, because I had the worst roommate on this planet! Anyway, you say you want to stay in your room as much as possible and avoid the common area, but that's not really a practical situation in the long run. You will ... (read in full...)
How can a handle family members commenting on my health/weight?
Q. Ok. I have a question about family. So I am sitting at my nieces bday party. Once again the subject of health comes about. I have health prob related to my being overweight. Once again I hear advice from those "well meaning" family members ...
A. 10 October 2011: When I was growing up, I was tall for my age, and I ended up with a horrible hunch. My mom would keep pestering me to walk straight and so would everyone else. It was SO damn annoying that that time to be constantly nagged, but thank God they did, ... (read in full...)
He has lied and I don't know if I should stay with him
Q. My boyfriend has a son and daughter (9 and 11 years old) from a previous relationship. We’ve been together for 18 months and live about an hour apart. I noticed that the kids had not been around for a while. I asked him why, he made excuses ...
A. 10 October 2011: If you intend marrying him, then you really do need background check on this guy, because (a.) he hasn't been completely honest with you and (b.) things can take an ugly turn later when skeletons start tumbling out of the cupboard and then you'll ... (read in full...)
My "best friend" (girl) walks around me naked, teases me, and then when I try to do something, she refuses sex saying it would ruin our friendship!!
Q. So this girl I met this year is like amazingly gorgeous, and she has been my supposed "best friend" for a couple months now, even tho ive never been in a platonic relationship. The thing is were both really attracted to each other and she "swears" ...
A. 10 October 2011: Are you for real? You're kidding right? Thats what you got from all the answers? That you should do the same thing as her? ... (read in full...)
I feel like my faith in men is non existent right now! It seems that jerks always win!
Q. I was seeing someone for about a couple of months. But he dumped me by text, coz he "wanted to be single". I said I deserve better and that's your loss. Months later he apologized and said he made a mistake etc etc. He asked to meet me for coffee. ...
A. 10 October 2011: If you contact him even to give him a piece of your mind, he'll turn the tables on you and make YOU look needy and clingy. That's how jerks operate. Just flush him out of your life. He's worth just that... (read in full...)
I feel like my faith in men is non existent right now! It seems that jerks always win!
Q. I was seeing someone for about a couple of months. But he dumped me by text, coz he "wanted to be single". I said I deserve better and that's your loss. Months later he apologized and said he made a mistake etc etc. He asked to meet me for coffee. ...
A. 9 October 2011: This jerk doesn't deserve even one second of your time or your thoughts. Who cares is he wins or not? Remember, sometimes the immediate picture is all hunky-dory and rosy, but karma catches up in the long run. You reap what you sow, and you reap it ... (read in full...)
My "best friend" (girl) walks around me naked, teases me, and then when I try to do something, she refuses sex saying it would ruin our friendship!!
Q. So this girl I met this year is like amazingly gorgeous, and she has been my supposed "best friend" for a couple months now, even tho ive never been in a platonic relationship. The thing is were both really attracted to each other and she "swears" ...
A. 9 October 2011: She's humiliating and disrespecting you and doing it IN your face! Who is she to test you??! And this is not the behavior of a woman who likes a guy. This is the behavior of a cheap woman, who just wants to tease you, get some thrills out of it and ... (read in full...)
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