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*lltheabove1212
writes:We really liked each other, a LOT. Then she saw her ex of 2 years and had to get over him so I gave her space and we didn't talk as much. She has been initiating Facebook chat with me ever since. So she likes me, but realized she had to get her head straight first. We've done sexual stuff before. It's up in the air whether or not we will date because of her situation. We agreed not to talk about relationships until the fall.So we were on skype and I was making her laugh. First thing she told me was about how she "hadn't talked or looked at her ex for 2 weeks!" And she kept sending links of lingerie she was thinking about getting.She said when she was shopping she wanted to buy them but told herself “I don’t have anyone to wear it for anymore”And “if I knew I had someone to wear it for, I would’ve gotten it” and she was kicking herself for not buying it.So I joked and was like "Ya know, if you ever needed to model these things, I'm here". She laughed and said "You'd have to be dating me to see that"The sexual tension's still there, but what does this all mean?Also last night she asked what I was doing for July 4th cus there was nothing going on, I said lightly that she could come visit if I’m off workBONUS: Her comment to her friend today “You know what I just realized? We’re both gonna be single coming into this semester. (my school) better watch out.What’s that all about?
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reader, alltheabove1212 +, writes (2 July 2011):
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sexual stuff at least a month after the breakup. But I'm not sure if she wants to be serious right now. just saw pictures on her facebook of her at the club and hugging a guy. May have been something random. But it's either one of two things:
She's slowly backing away,
or She was dropping hints and wanted me to ask.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (1 July 2011):
 Ok some clarifications needed here.
You've done sexual stuff before?When was this? While she was still with the ex or after the break up?
Why have you set a time frame for the relationship? Its not that September is going to bring a magical change suddenly. From the hints that you've been getting from her and the clear sexual tension, you should talk to her now. There is no fixed time to get over someone or start something new with someone. Ask her what she wants.
She seems to be open about the idea of a relationship, but really, you have to ask her. Maybe she's just playing around, maybe she sees something serious, only she can tell you.
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reader, alltheabove1212 +, writes (29 June 2011):
alltheabove1212 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionBut I can't really ask her out because we agreed not to talk about relationships until September. Because she's trying to get over him completely i guess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2011): I think she either wants you to ask her out now, or she enjoys flirting with you and the attention that you give her. Now the flirting and attention thing may eventually lead to dating, but at the moment its hard to tell. All you can do is be direct with her and ask her straight out. She sounds like the type of girl that enjoys the flirting and toying with the idea of the two of you together, but reality is a different thing.
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