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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for over a year. a few months a go this girl he used to work with text him saying her boyfriend dumped her she'd sent it to her phone book slagging him off so didnt think anything of it .then a few days later when he was at mine he got a text and looked shifty he said its her asking if he wanted to go for a drink, he said he dont reply she keeps texting left it at that, i felt something wernt right a few weeks later so checked his phone and he deleted sent and inbox texts but i found on call history they'd sent each other 50 times on my works do . then last week i said have you heard from her lately he said no then i saw on hotmail when he'd left it on she'd been sending messages on facebook,then last night he has terrible night dreams and was talking in his sleep and he was taalking about having sex with her, i threw him out ,my family think im a drama queen and only a dream but its just thats it her and hes lied about her so many times what do you think am i a drama queen , sorry its long x
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (28 July 2011):
 You're not a drama queen. He lied to you about the texts and people lie when they have something to hide. If his relationship with her was a "normal" friendly one, he wouldn't have hidden it from you or lied to you about it. Its obvious that he sees he in a sexual way, and if he hasn't already cheated on you, then he soon will. You did the right thing.
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reader, mrg123 +, writes (28 July 2011):
 I am a bit surprised your family have taken that line. Have you detailed all the other things? As bandit said, he was lying about contact with her, dreaming about her and not very far from cheating on you with her. You did totally the right thing to nip this in the bud before it got out of hand and you got even more hurt.
I suspect it's probably a little demoralising to lack the support of your family. I suggest you tell them about everything, not just the dream, because if you haven't then they are basing their reaction soles on that. Once they know the full story I doubt they will say the same thing.
For you, you now have to move on but you should know you did totally the right thing. Good luck :)xx
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (28 July 2011):
You're not a drama queen. I would have done the same. The lies, the texts, the e-mails/facebook messages and now the dream. I wouldn't be surprised if he's already emotionally cheating on you with her and I think that if you'd stay it wouldn't take long for him to cross the line entirely if he hasn't already. Good riddance! May it be a lesson for him.
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reader, banditsmom1124 +, writes (28 July 2011):
 nope...i feel you did the right thing. i cant stand liars! if hes gonna lie about the texting i wouldnt put it past him to cheat.
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