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*vine12
writes:My husband used to cheat before and i forgave him he has been proving to me that he was done and he wouldnt hurt me no more .. im now pregnant with my second kid and i caught him on his email searching for the old girl he was cheating on me in the first place . i really love him with all my heart but i dont want to go through this cheating drama again i dont deserve him to treat me this way .i just dont understand why he keeps doing things like this to me i been nothing but good to him .i left him and i dont know if it should be official yet... but i still havent filled for divorce what should i do ?? should i just divorce him and leave him for good??
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): Dump him and move on.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (3 July 2011):
 Yes, it's hard, it's scary, but perhaps you really should.
I believe in giving people a second chance- but , if they blow it, not a third, fourth, and so on. You've got to draw the line somewhere.
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (3 July 2011):
 You have two options here OP and its upto you to decide what you want. Either you kick this serial cheater of a husband to the curb and make a life for yourself and your children or you continue living in this hell of lies, deceit and drama, and get used to this nonsense.
You have already given him a chance and he has betrayed your trust yet again. How many more chances will you give him? Do you think he is ever going to change? Do you want your children to grow up in a house with this man around?
Dont ever blame yourself or question yourself OP...it is HIS problem. HE is a cheater, HE has lied to you,and has done it repeatedly. Infidelity is a deal breaker in my book...its impossible to sustain a relationship without trust. Even if you forgive him now, you will live in constant distrust and you will doubt every action of his. And if you forgive this time, he will know that you are the one who's weak and he can do anything and come back home, because at the end of whatever little resistance you put up, you will eventually take him back.
Dont get into this cycle. Difficult as it is, leave him for good. Let him do whatever he wants, as long as you and your children are out of the picture.
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