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*BillyM
writes:Hi, my wife and I are both plus sized, overweight people, and lately our sex life is being affected because of our weight, we have usually when having sex, had her on top of me facing me, and lately that position has been harder for us to do, and when we have sex we end up just masturbating each other, which is enjoyable, but honestly not the same. And what I'm wondering is if anyone has any ideas for other sexual positions we could try that might work better for us, with both of us being big. Any help we would be very thankful.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 January 2011):
 One last thing, have you tried on different types of furniture? For example if doggy doesn't work because your wife can't get in the right angle she could lean over a chair or something that is the right height and angle. Or you could just experiment with furniture as that opens up to different positions, heights, and angles.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (11 January 2011):
Yeah I know, we all wish we had a swimming pool! I was thinking most people don't so that'd be a dream only, but hey you never know, haha. Just don't try anything in public pools, I know people do and it's just not .. nice?
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): Have her lie on her back on the very edge of the bed, you stand next to the bed. That and cowgirl are the only ones that work for us -- I'm big, she's not.
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reader, BillyM +, writes (11 January 2011):
BillyM is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks ladies for your input, Angel we have tried Doggy, but it doesn't work for us, and reverse cowgirl hasn't either. But I appreciate your ideas. Angel we are trying to lose weight, and we know that losing the weight will help us a lot, not just in improving our sex life, but our lives in general. chigirl, we haven't looked at bookstores as of yet, but thank you for the idea, it gives us something to look at. About the swimming pool, damn it would be nice if we had our own house that had a pool, we would be in it all the time, but we live in an apt. and there's no pool here, would love it if they did. But we sure will look into checking out books at a bookstore to see what they have.
Thanks again ladies for the ideas.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2011): are you big bellied people?
when hubby and i were both SMO we only had a few positions
the best for us was a dovetail or scissors. Wife on her back at an angle towards the husband's pelvis legs stacked his on bottom one of hers between his her's on top... he then can slide in... no bellies in the way. he does the thrusting... worked for us. Doggie worked well too. Hubby was too big (nearly 500 pounds) and my legs were too short for me to be on top but we managed doggy once in a while.
we also were able to have oral sex very well.. and that was what we did most of the time....
there is a website for plus sized people for sex but I am at work and can't look for it now... I will try to remember to do it when I get home.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (11 January 2011):
 hi
i hope you are both trying to lose weight then? it'll make you more healthy and feel better in yourselves too. in the meantime though, have you tried doggy style?
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reader, chigirl +, writes (11 January 2011):
Have you tried looking in the bookstores? They have books on sex positions, it is possible that they might have one for overweight people as well? Or that you at least could look through such a book and see if anything in there will work for you. Loosing weight is an obvious answer to make the sex life better... but I figure you are fully aware of that.
I am sad to say though that if you are so large that sex is difficult it's not looking too bright. Several seriously overweight people have had to stop having sex because they just can't physically do it. The fat is in the way. You could try to wear a corset to keep bellies tucked in if that's what gets in the way. But if the problem is weight, then the only thing that could work would be to have sex in a swimming pool. Which of course could be great if you happen to have a swimming pool. Not to mention work outs are easier on the body in a swimming pool as well.
Have you tried reverse cowgirl? Her on top not facing you? Or on top and sideways? Having a look through the Kama Sutra could give some inspiration though, they list many positions you'd normally never even think of.
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