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writes: I was recently with a new partner. He seems to really enjoy rubbing up against me. This is not "dry sex" through our clothes. We will both be naked and he will rub against my waist or my hip until he climaxes. At times he seems to prefer hand jobs to blow jobs. I have never encountered a man like this. He doesn't like "rubbing" exclusively and I don't discount him for that tendency, but I do wonder about it.At times it feels more like he's masturbating ON me rather than having sex WITH me. I also feel pretty incompetent giving hand jobs. (In my opinion, if a man has grown accustomed to giving himself his own hand jobs, I feel it's practically impossible to get it right...it's kind of like trying to brush someones teeth for them.) The issue is that he seems to enjoy some moves where I feel really uninvolved and not very stimulated. I would rather use my whole body than just lie there. I would rather use my mouth than pump him like a machine with my hand.We have protected sex and most parts I enjoy it, but this tendency is a little strange to me and I'm not sure where it comes from. Any advice or even explanations from guys who are into rubbing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks D-lite.
He rubs a little bit like a dog and after reflection, a lot like a masturbating teenager. Maybe it's just his way of relating to sex. He's a bit of a narcissist....
I know I'm late on follwoing up, but I thought about it after a couple weeks of seperation and decided I could probably do better. For now, I'm keeping my options open.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 oh gawd! he must be making you feel like crap :( it is really unusual, or maybe i just haven't lived enough of a life! if i was with him i'm afraid this would REALLY make me wanna dump him. what's the rest of the relationship like? is he worth keeping, apart from this problem? if so, can you talk to him about it? you say its not a finishing technique so, is it just pre-cum that leaks out while he is rubbing against you then? is he stopping you doing the H or B jobs coz he wants to give you more kisses and rub up against you and its pre-cum? or is he really going for it, like when a dog humps your leg? (sorry!!!! i know that's crude but its the best way i could describe what i'm thinking!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe use condoms. This rubbing isn't a finishing technique either. He has stopped me mid-blowjob to rub against me. I am starting to wonder if there is something wrong with my technique. ( No one else has ever complained and I've read over the sex self-help books.) I asked him if he liked it once and he used the break in the action to ask for a hand job.
I never thought I'd have to clean jizz out of my belly button...it just seems such a strange habit to me.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (8 January 2011):
hi
when you say protected sex do you mean condom? and when he does this rubbing he is allowed to do it without a condom? if so, maybe he enjoys the freedom of not having to wear it without fear of getting you pregnant coz its not inside you. is he doing this rubbing while he waits for you to give him a hand or blow job but you don't do so he just finishes himself off on you instead, i mean do you attempt to take hold of his penis when he does this? maybe just some poor communication between you so you're not telling each other or giving each other guidance as to what you want, you think? regarding hand jobs, you will find loads of tips on the internet on how to improve your techniques. you're right the rubbing is unusual, i have never been with anyone that's done it and i've never heard it from anyone i know either
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