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writes:My friends and I noticed that she's changed - She used to be really hyper around those she was close to, and she was really shy. Now we have noticed that she is really confident, to what she was before but, she still is a little bit quiet. She's a really nice girl. Doesn't come out much now. Always In college or studying. She wants to become a coach, It's something she always looked into. Sports have been a big part of her life. She not much fun anymore and she takes things seriously now. She is very well mannered. She doesn't drink with us (she's never drank) but comes out on weekends sometimes. She hates things that are sexual - like if a boy tried it on her. She doesn't have a boyfriend and doesn't care. She say's she's got plenty of time. her time is running out?
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (8 January 2011):
 hi no her time isn't running out, you's are still really young so its you that i feel more sorry for if you feel like times running out! has she changed since you left school? maybe she just has changed coz she is mixing with different people now at college? on the other hand, she might have something on her mind, have you talked to her and asked if everythings ok?xx
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 No, her time isn't running out. She's just growing up. It seems as she's skipping the partying, sex, and alcohol...and focusing on her goals she wishes to achieve in life.
Don't worry about her, she's still your friend..a mature one at that.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (8 January 2011):
 She's probably just going through a phase. At your age, it's completely normal for people to want to find themselves. If she's always studying, then maybe she just wants to do really well in her academic things.
Why don't you talk to her? Don't tell her she's not fun, but say something like, "Why don't you take a break from all the hard work?" or ask her if something's wrong that's made her become more quiet.
Don't try to pressure her into drinking or doing anything she doesn't want to with boys. Maybe she has a reason, maybe she just wants to wait for the right person.
And yes, she has got plenty of time. I know plenty of people who didn't have they're first kiss until they were 18. They weren't losers or anything, they were popular, completely normal, just quite romantic in their ideology.
You should support her if she needs to work hard to become a coach, but let her know that you are there for her, and willing to listen if she needs to talk.
Good Luck
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2011): Is her time running out? Why do you care? If she did in fact end up being a spinster coaching sports, what would it mean to you?
It seems like you admire her, but it also seems like her choices and interests intimidate you and you wouldn't mind seeing her end up alone just to reassure yourself they were the wrong choices and interests. She sounds like she has her shit together and knows who she is as an individual. You however, sound over competitive and perhaps vindictive.
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