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anonymous
writes:I have this guy in a college class of mine and he has been flirting with me a lot. Yesterday I finally told him he should ask me out. We went to his house and watched a movie, ended up kissing and cuddling during the entire film. So he walks me back to my dorm (did not sleep with him!)and he kissed my hand, hugged me, then surprised me with a peck on the lips before I went inside. He then texts me the next night that his ex came to him today saying she is pregnant with his child. I asked for verification that he was going to be with her since some situations don't mean the parents are together and all he said was "i'm sorry". I might be paranoid, but could this just be some twisted way of ending the relationship with me because I was a bad kisser? It was my first kiss so I just don't know how it works. If that isn't the case, I feel bad wanting to still be with him. He was happy when I said we would still be friends.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 October 2011):
 nope no one will end it because of one bad kiss... and
is this you too: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/had-my-first-kiss-with-a-guy-i46.html
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (19 October 2011):
 Nothing to do with your kisses. It sounds like he's got a lot going on right now, and for the time being you are better off keeping him at arms length no matter if the story check out or not. Although why wouldn't it be probable? He kissed you on the first date, sounds like a man who moves ahead quickly, which could help explain how he got his ex pregnant in the first place. Action without thought...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (19 October 2011):
 I don't think this has got anything with you being a "bad ",-i.e. unexperienced kisser. Kissing is not astrophysics, a few practice sessions and he could have taught you to kiss to perfection, -or you'd have got the hang of it on your own .
It's just that...things are going upisde down nowadays. We are so used to hear about people casually making babies and NOT being together, that for once we meet two young future parants that want to try and make it work and act as adults... we say , oh no ,impossible, that must be a lie .
Where does this leave you ? Out of his way please . The friendship thing does not really mean anything , it's a courtesy expression, and anyway you LIKE the guy, want to kiss him and stuff, - you don't want to be his " friend ". Don't be upset, you had a romantic evening, exchanged your first kiss, - chalk it up to experience, and next time, if you are looking for something more relatonship-y, first make sure the guy is really single and available !
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 October 2011):
 Any girl who makes her lips available to a guy who wants to kiss her.... IS A GOOD KISSER!!! You may put that out of your mind, now....
Look, the guy gave you a plausible story which was as complete and conclusive as it needed to be. Let it lie...
Good luck.... and keep on kissin' (and that's ALL you should "keep on"!!!!!!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2011): I don't think he would have offered you friendship if he was making this story up - if you continue to hang out with him, the lie (if it is one) would soon be exposed. I know you are feeling hurt - anyone would - but honestly, this guy has done you a favor by (from the sound of it) putting a stop to things. You've never kissed a guy before, and he is about to have baby mama drama like you wouldn't believe. For the next 18 years, he has a kid to raise with another woman. At best, they reconcile and are mutually cooperative and involved in raising the child and providing a stable home. At worst, there is a long and bitter road of custody and child support disputes ahead. You sound like a very nice girl and I think you would be in over your head if you got involved with this guy as your first (I assume?) serious relationship. So relax and keep your options open - you have years and years to meet more guys and get more practice. Good luck.
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