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writes:Hey, well before i start i'm 14 years old and i am in England so i'm sure school situations and things like that are rather different to places in America so just clearing that up. Well haven't been in school for a year now and yeah i know its bad and i know things could of been different you don't need to remind me with things like that. Well anyway i left because i had a mental break down and i was suffering from depression and i was getting bullied too. After i had the break down i went to a special pyschiatrict place who were meant to gradually get me back in too school and just help me. But they done the opposite they didn't help me they revealed confidental information about me and were just really really unsupportive. So we had to leave there as we were getting no where and they wouldn't offer us any help or therapy or anything. Its about 10 months on now and i have managed to get myself on the straight and narrow, im no longer depressed and the only few things i have to sort out is my anxcity and school. I now want to go back to school so i have appplied to go to a school outside of my area because i can't go to any round here because i live in a small town everyone knows me and well they just want to bully me again to put it simpley. Well my application has been rejected for this school and other schools are refuseing to take me because of a letter that the pyschiatrict place sent out which wasn't true and made me out to be some sort of distrubtive teenager. The only places which are now avaiable to me is the school i previously left and one which is a goverment failing school that has police provision i know if i go to either those schools i will end up back where i was at the beginging of the year. I now feel like i don't have a future, the big run up to my GCSE'S is starting and no schools are willing to take me simplely because they think i'm some sort of crazy manic i feel so disheartend and i am ready to give up as it feels like no one wants to help and im entitled to a free education and a future but no one will give me one. I gusse the main question is i'm asking for support or maybe someone would shed some light on the situation or if they have got any advice or suggestions for me would just be great. Thanks
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (22 October 2011):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the question Wow may i say iAmHereToHelpYou thankyou so much! you don't realize what a reliefe it is to acutally here from someone who has been in the same postion as me.
I will give childline a go so thankyou. Also thanks for saying about the GCSE thing, i have been non-stop worrying about my exams thinking that if i didn't do them then id never get a job or any opportunity as i am sure you know that when your not in school everyone treats GCSE's like the end of the world.
I like you tryed home tutoring for some months too but i just could not asert myself and i didn't understand half of it.
Also as for the dreams you are not the only one, i have dreams like that there not about the bullying but they have all my old friends in them and all the details are so precise and vivid its hard though when you want to forget something or someone and you can't.
Thankyou so much for your answer you don't know how reasuring it is to hear from someone who atleast knows what its like.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (20 October 2011):
xTheAlmightyDuckx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for your advise. First of all i only have one parent my mum but she is doing everything in her will power to get me into another school, she has tons and tons of crap to deal with at the moment as she has recently been listed disabled and will have chronic back pain and spasms for the rest of her life so we can only go at a slow pace. We do plan to go back to our GP and even though i do not want to it seems we will have to go back to the pyschiatrict place as it is the only way to get a second opinion off a different case worker and another mental asscessment and anull the letter which has been written. We are also looking into legal support and action but we are very poor so as i am sure you can imagine it is quite hard to find a certain lawyer/solictor who would take our case. We tryed home schooling but i just really didn't understand it and as i am coming up to my main exams i do need some guidance. We can't afford tutors so that is out of the question. Thankyou for your advice though i will try out the website and we will continue trying to get a result.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 October 2011):
 Where are your parents in all of this? Could they support your move, so that you can go to schools further away? Could the support you in fighting the system? It sounds as if you are up against all of this on your own. Find someone else to aid you. Perhaps get a second opinion from a doctor who can go against what this pyschiatrict place wrote.
Could you possibly afford a session with a lawyer to hear if that pyschiatrict place had any rights to send out this information? It doesn't sound right. You could possible search up and find a free lawyer service, some times they are offered to those who can not afford a lawyer themselves. At least ask for a consultation to see if you have a case, and ask what such a consultation would cost before you go there.
Again I have to ask, what are your parents doing? Are they involved in helping you? Could they possibly move with you?
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reader, natasia +, writes (20 October 2011):
 You need first to go to you GP and explain everything as you have here. Then you need a new psychologist assessment. I feel so sorry for you - I just can't believe that when you need it most, you are getting zero support. There must and will be someone who can help you.
Also try this website with your parents:
http://www.bullying.co.uk/
And contact them for advice about what to do.
It is a pity you can't go to a private school, because there really is no bullying or fighting there (or if there is, it is jumped on so quick and so hard that it is dealt with asap). And they look after you as an important person, whoever you are. A pity that the state can't do that as well, but it just can't.
Good luck and well done for trying to sort it out. I'm sure you will - you just need the right people helping you. Try the GP and that website. It will be OK.
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reader, chocoholicforever  +, writes (20 October 2011):
hi - I'm sorry to hear about your difficult situation. You're a strong person for trying to move forward with your life and education and not letting your past troubles keep you stuck in the past.
Is it possible to be home schooled or hire a private tutor to prepare for the exams on your own?
Are your parents sympathetic and understanding of your situation?
another option is maybe to unfortunately go back to your old school or the other school that you were hoping not to have to go to, but be prepared to behave differently and think differently so that it's a different and more positive (or at least less negative) experience this time around.
I think you need to get a sympathetic adult on your side. Were there any teachers at your old school that you got along with and that you can trust? Perhaps you can talk with them and they can suggest something useful or write letters in support of you so that you can get accepted into other schools.
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