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writes: I met a man a few weeks ago through a social group. I got a good vibe and find him attractive in an unconventional way. I would have guessed he was in his mid-thirties, but I've just discovered he's 46 via Google. I'm 30. The oldest person I've ever dated was a 37 year old and he was on the juvenile end of the spectrum. I'm not exactly sure what I'm asking, but is there anything I should be wary about or merely aware of when meeting a single guy in his 40s? I'm not planning on hitting him up for a date or anything immediately, but I am meeting him again this Friday after work with the same group that he heads.The first time I met him, I sat directly in front of him, but he hardly spoke to me and I had to introduce myself. I received an email from him the next morning saying "nice to meet you yesterday" and a few unnecessary apologies for the venue and the cliquishness of the group. He's emailed me again this week about some posts I had put up.I'm pretty sure he's single. I don't think he's gay, but I could be wrong. I witnessed another female friend of his throw dirty napkins at him in front of me while we were eating; he didn't flinch, he looked totally inured to it. Another women there bit off his head about something he had said in an email to her. I just get the impression he's used to being ragged on by women? He seems a bit on the quieter, shyer side, he doesn't take himself too seriously. From his emails, he seems very earnest and seemed a little worried that I wouldn't come back to the group. I'm not thinking this is a red flag or anything, but any middle aged men out there can give me idea of what type of guy I'm dealing with, warnings, and how to feel this out? Advice?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 October 2011):
 Men: they want a beer and they want to see something naked.
done and done.
once you are past about 25/30 age is but a number in many cases.
stop planning every second. stop over-analyzing... just go with the flow and enjoy!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (19 October 2011):
 You need to stop over-analysing, you've only just met the poor guy!
We have never met this man therefore we cannot tell you what man you are dealing with, only you can make that call. As for warnings, no-one should be giving you any warnings because if you would like to date him you should go into this with an open mind and be excited about it, rather than being negative already. And how to feel this out? Well just see how it goes on Friday, make an effort to sit close to him and talk to him as much as you can, see how he reacts and responds and then take it from there.
But most importantly - stop worrying! He is a man, just like any other, age isnt really that important. If he isnt gay there may be the potential of kids and an ex-wife (or two!) but cross that bridge when you come to it. For now treat him like you would any other potential date, just because he is a few years older than any other guy you have dated doesnt make him an alien! Men are pretty standard, they dont change vast amounts after the age of 30, until they have kids which does change them quite a lot.
Relax, enjoy Friday and see how it goes, stop trying to figure him out so soon and wait until you know him better to judge him.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (19 October 2011):
 Here's a key bit of information you need to know about men...
From about age 6... and continuing until we die.... we tend to act like 5-year-olds......
Good luck......
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