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writes:I am 56 and my partner is 58, he has just finished with me after 7 years together. We haven't been getting on as he wont open up and talk to me and i have become insecure about us and unloved. We dont live together but have always talked on the phone every night and see each other every weekend. Can he really walk away without feeling the emptyness and grief that I feel right now. Is there a chance that he might want to come back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2011): it sounds like he had mentally left the relationship a long time ago, as evidenced by his withdrawing and not talking. so yes I think he can just walk away without feeling the same level of pain as you. or else if he was withdrawing and uncommnicative because he has personal troubles like suffering from depression then he's already in pain.
there's always a chance he might want to come back. but I think it's better for you to focus on moving on.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 October 2011):
I think in a situation like this, you have to look beyond the fact that he has just left and might not be coming back. I know that's very hard, and I know you miss him. But from reading even your short post, it's clear that your relationship was in real trouble. You were together for 7 years, and haven't been getting on because he won't open up. After 7 years, you two should be close enough and trusting enough that you can both open up to each other. You then became very insecure about it, and you felt unloved. His response? To just end it. That's pretty cold to be honest. He should have been there for you, and he should have at the very least tried to make an effort. To add to that, after 7 years you weren't living together and were just seeing each other every other weekend. I think that when you take all those problems into account, you can see that whether he feels grief and pain now isn't the issue. The issue is that in 7 years, your relationship never really moved forward or became something truly special. My advice to you is to honestly look at what you two had and realize that actually, you can and will do better. You have a lot of time to get over this and move on from him to someone who will open up to you.
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