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writes:Hi, I'm 14, turning 15. Today, I realized I like (like as a bf) someone that i thought i hated for a long time! Me and him always argue about something but we have mutual friends so we end up together a lot. Recently me and him ended up actually joking around and I realized he is really funny. We started getting along better but we still argued a lot. But the arguing kind of changed. Its more playful and we always end up laughing. And today i looked over at him an realized he's actually really cute. And when my friend said "watch you two end up going out by the end of the year." many of my other friends said they could definitely see it. When they said it i felt a surge of warmth and all of a sudden I realized i liked him! I thought long and hard and I definitely like him. How did that happen!? I didn't like him AT ALL in the begginning of the year and all of a sudden I do. I don't know if he likes me back and its killing me thinking of all the times we've argued and how I probably ruined my chances while thinking of all the people to have feelings for, it was HIM. How could this have happened. Reply to this Question
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reader, Odds +, writes (19 October 2011):
 Haha, that's how things started off with me once or twice.
Two things at work here: first, chicks dig guys who are willing to be stubborn and kind of argumentative. Not petty, just up front about what they think without caring what anyone else thinks. Or do you think you would be more attracted to him if he was meekly agreeable about everything?
Second, the opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference. Strong feelings of any sort can easily transmute, one passion to another, in the right circumstances.
This happens all the time. It may lead to a good relationship, or to a crappy one, but at least it's normal.
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reader, Luna18Cat05 +, writes (19 October 2011):
Opposites do attract. You may have argued and disliked each other in the past, but I guess the more you hang out with that person the more you notice things about them. Heck, some couples argue all the time and that is their connection. The arguments never get too horrible, but that is what THEY do. Maybe you were so focused on disliking him before that when you got to know each other more you realized he is really your type.
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