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writes:I know this sounds ridiculous, but my boyfriend has this aftershave that his ex-gf bought him and when he wears it it makes me really angry inside. He obviously doesn't know this because I would look like a joke. He's wearing it more and more and it makes being intimate hard because I just think of his past and get angry inside when he comes near me and I can smell it. I know this is probably funny to you but HELP!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2011): It is a little silly, but alright. Just tell him you don't like the smell or drop it on accident and buy him a new one of something else. Or oops I threw it away. What the real problem is here is that you have some major jealousy issues. You should probably try and sort that out, its unhealthy and unnecessary. Jealousy only leads to insanity. I mean really where does it get you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2011): Hello, I have been there, only my issue was with an article of clothing that his ex got him. Seriously, trust me on this, your partner probably does not even REMEMBER that it was from an ex, each time he puts it on. He uses it because he likes he it or more likely its the only one he has lol.
Either let him know it bothers you (thats what I told my bf and he literally said 'okay, i'll get rid of the jacket tomorrow' and he did) or like Tisha-1 said, tell him it reminds you of your dad or uncle LOL.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2011): you could just buy him a new one and say you love how this one smells so much better.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (29 July 2011):
 Speaking as a guy, he won't be deeply insulted or anything if you just tell him the truth. In a gentle, polite tone of voice, tell him it makes you anxious when he wears the scent his ex gave him, and ask him nicely not to wear it anymore. Offer to go pick one out with him, one that both of you can like.
My guess is that he wears it because it smells nice, and he thought you would like it. Strange as it may sound to you, it probably has not even occurred to him that you would not like the scent because of its history. He'll understand if you just tell him. You won't look like a joke, he'll see it as a completely normal girl-anxiety.
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reader, youngandrestless  +, writes (29 July 2011):
 an easy way out of this one is simply to buy him an aftershave that you like, and tell him you would really like it if he wore it for you. there is no need to mention the ex gf. the real issue is that you are insecure about your relationship and are jealous of his ex. is he still in contact with her regularily? or does he spend a lot of time with other women around? if not then you really have nothing to worry about or be jealous about. he obviously chose you for a reason, so dont sweat the small stuff!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (29 July 2011):
 This one's easy. Tell him he smells like your father when he wears it. That you read so-and-so loves it--making sure that so-and-so is an older, stodgy celeb. Basically, make it uncool.
Or have an 'unfortunate accident' and drop the bottle in the tub. Then buy him a new bottle of the one you like.
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reader, Celest  +, writes (29 July 2011):
 Hello dear... if your boyfriend behaving properly to you and if he's not flirting with his ex or any other woman.. just relax and don't make big fuss out of it... go in a parfume store, make a present to yourself to cheer up and remember to take some aftershave samples and give them to him. Tell him that he should try this or that because it smells really cool... according to your opinion, that is... and try to notice if he really likes one. Eventually you 'll fingure out.. then go and buy it for him... be smart, be happy, be effective!!! All my best!!!
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (29 July 2011):
 the aftershave is not the problem really though is it? you seem to have a jealousy issue about his ex and i think you should address this yourself. if you tell him you don't like the aftershave coz it makes you angry coz his ex gave it to him you will sound like a bit of a 'bunny boiler' - so if i were you i wouldn't tell him. just tell him you don't like the smell of it, tell him it makes you feel sick or it makes you wanna sneeze or something and hopefully he will stop wearing it around you BUT in the meantime, definitely get to the bottom of your jealousy about his ex. the older you get the more exes your future boyfriends will have so you need to get used to this
x
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reader, goalstopper +, writes (29 July 2011):
Tell him it and if he loves you he will use another brand.
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