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writes:I've been going through a bit of a rough spot, maybe some of you will have some words of wisdom. I'll try to keep this as concise as possible.I've been having a really hard time meeting girls since graduating from high school. I'm a fairly quiet 23 year old guy and I'm very introverted (I'm confidant and have great self esteem though, mind you). I decided not to go to college and instead lay the foundation for a music career. This combination of natural introversion and having most of my peers off in school has made expanding my social network very difficult. In addition to this I have rather high standards, though they are not by any means unreasonable.The few girls I've pursued in the last number of years haven't worked out for various reasons but one particular case was just plain bad luck. I was friends with this girl for a little while but later on started to feel a connection. So we're hanging and I decide to up the ante (ask her out on a proper date and notch up the flirting significantly) but before I even get the chance she tells me she's moving... to the other end of the country.Now here's my other "issue"... I'm a virgin. Now, I was in one relationship in high school (for about a year) my high school "romance" was far from healthy... we pretty much made out, argued, repeat for a year. lol we were a terrrible match. I'm not worried about going out and "losing it"; my worry is that when I finally do find a girl I vibe with she'll be put off by my lack of experience. I really want to have a connection to anyone I'm intimate with (I could've "lost it" ages ago if I'd had the same single minded attitude most guys have). I also am affected by western culture's negativity towards male virgins. As much as I try not to, sometimes I get the feeling that I'm doing something wrong. My confidence is fine and I'm not too girl shy, I've dealt with rejection and also had it go the other way. I think I just need to find some new social outlets. The main problem is that I just see the same people over and over. Anyone have any suggestions? only problem is I'm already really busy...
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reader, adamskidude  +, writes (29 July 2011):
 You could try a night club, a social event such as an art expo /music expo. Join a gym, a social club, a cribs club, a green bowls team, anything.
You find love in the oddest of places, you just have to be somewhere first
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