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male
age
41-50,
*heresmyluck
writes:Hi everyone;I was in a 5 years relationship with my exgf i reckon she had either borderline personality disorder or some sort of disorder because its not normal to brake up and get back together so many times. I cant resist her because im hooked up and cant give up :((.Im 26 she is 22 and we been together since she was 17 and lived together 2,5 years of 5 years.She dumped me 8-9 times in the 5 years and always some how we got back.Now she broke up again by saying same reasons;i dont love you anymorei care for you but not in love with youi dont love you as much as i could love someone elsei dont see future with you etc...Till a day before all this she was begging to have a baby with me :(I never cheated, no violence, no any big problems whatsoever. We were living past 2,5 years of it together now she moved out again back to her mums.Before when she dump me i tried to text but she never replied me at all on all the break ups.This last break up if i text her she texts me back but if i dont she never initiates the contact for some reason.Every word she is texting is with LOL`s in it etc... she sounds like she is so happy.I told her that i slept with someone else and i regretted what i have done ( but i lied first time to see how she would react) and asked her to be friends with benefits (so in longer run i get her back thats what my ideal was) and she was 50-50 at some point, considered, she would let me know when she is horny etc..But last talking she said this;"Answer is no lol my final answer lol you and your sex drive can have fun with plenty of other people lol"Bear in mind she dont know that i didnt sleep with anyone she things i did but why is she LOLs so much?I never texted her 3 days after saying that i came to gym and speak later if you want then she said ok speak later and that was it.3 days passed never heard a thing but again if i text her she will reply i believe.So if she has really moved on why would she reply me?I cant move on because my heart is with her and i would do anything to be with her till rest of my life.Please some inside information to help me how to get this back into track :(PS: Its only been 3 weeks since we break up and previous break ups each time she came back took longer then 1 before and longest we been in no contact and got back together was 4 months.I just cant figure out that if she has moved on why would she keep mentioning other girls for me to sleep? If she is not jelous or anything?If she wasnt interested whatsoever why would she reply to my texts? Its easier for her to just ignore even get my number blocked?Look forward to hearing from someone with similar experience and information would be appreciated.Thanks
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reader, Aunt Lucy  +, writes (30 July 2011):
This girl sounds very silly and very immature. You sound intelligent and grounded, but still very much in love with her and therefore unable to see clearly in the face of your attraction.Let's consider this. Five years, and eight break ups. I am going to speak for you now, and say your heart was broken eight times by a girl who has repeatedly professed to not love you, and then taken you back. No matter how much you love her, this relationship screams instability. She is clearly suffering from a bad case of love-hate in terms of how she sees you. To tell someone point blank you could love someone else better than you could ever love them takes a certain type of guts.My guess is you will take her back again, because you care about her too deeply. This time however, I suggest laying down some strong ground rules: inform her that while you think the world of her, she needs to keep her act together. It takes two to tango. She has not been playing her part.I think it will take ten breakups for you to finally see how poisonous this relationship is, and when that happens, I wish you a wonderful union with a girl who is worth your time and fully appreciates your very forgiving and generous nature.
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