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writes: Hi.. my gf is now 6 weeks pregnant, her parents didnt even know i exist... we already want to tell them the situation to ease our burden and Im willing to accept the responsibility... Our problem is.... How to tell her parents? I mean the right way?? thank's in advance...... Reply to this Question
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (13 September 2006):
 Hey there, Honey I dont think there is a right way for something like that. Im guessing you are quite young and do know that you may have bitten off more than you can chew, but im glad you are prepared for that and are doing the right thing. My sister had to tell my dad she was pregnant at an early age, but she didnt do it straight away, she had left home after a row etc.. anyway turned up 6 months pregnant on her own to tell him, dad passed out.. anyway .. what im saying is, tell them together, go to her house, sit down together explain the whole thing to them let them kinda see you have a good heart, tell them how you care for their daughter and wonderful you think she is and then slowly break it, not easy but you know that, there is not going to be any easy way for them to hear it, first there was you, second shes had sex, third the baby! they will be shocked that she is expecting, so I dont think you can break the news without maybe some anger coming across so be prepared for the raised voices etc... Dont panic though, just show that you have taken responsibility for your actions and that you are going to do the right thing for thier daughter. Its gonna be hard at first, but stick with it, just let them know that you are prepared fully for the outcome of this and you respect that the first impressions of you are not going to be great, but tell them they will have to hear you out and see that they can rely on you to be responsible from here on in. They may be pleastantly surprised that you actually went around to tell them all of this rather than leaving it to thier daughter, so im hoping that at least stands you in good stead.
Good Luck, once the burden is lifted and the news sinks in a bit, things will be easier.
Take care x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2006): Yos gives excellent advise and I concur with him. When telling her parents of this pregnancy it will be vital that you let them know how much you do genuinely care for their daughter and how committed you are to taking care of your new family. It's important that they understand that you fully realize that the most precious gift you can give to their grand child is to be fully and forever committed to your child's mother....their daughter. Just remember, dear, this is a life time job you are signing up for. Life and family are series of wonderful, happy times interspersed with difficulties and challenges. You sound very responsible, mature and ready to take this on. My best wishes to you and good luck.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (13 September 2006):
 I suggest you go visit them and tell them the whole story. Let them know who you are and how you feel about their daughter. It sounds like you love her and are happy about what's happening (which is wonderful!), so just let them share.
All they will want is for her to be with a man that loves her and cares for her. Show them that you are that man, and they'll be happy. They may be surprised and shocked to start out, but they'll get over it quickly if you are honest and real. Hug her and hold her and show her and them that you love her and are their for her. If you do that you'll find that they will want to help, and be a part of what the two of you are going through.
You are taking on something big, but it's the most natural thing in the World and it's why we are here.
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (12 September 2006):
 Right way? I mean thats a lot of factors left in the air. How old are you? Does she still live with her parents? I'm sure if you are underaged there isn't a right way to soften the blow of someone's little girl having a baby. You just have to say it and state your intent and hopefully her father won't break your jaw in the process before you can. You acted as adults and you must face the consequences as such. Be a man about it. Good Luck.
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