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writes: before i start propperly My friend has just got out of a 3 year relationship and before that he was in a two year relationship with another girl - and he is 21. Anyway last nite i was talking to him and he said to me that all girls want sex as much as lads between the ages of 16 and about 23. He said that he just realised that for the first year you are in a relationship with a girl everything is fine... but when it gets to the second and third year it feels like they are cheating on you and that it isn't the same as what it used to be and that is what happened with his two girlfriends who he has had relationships with. So what he was basicly saying was that most girls but not all of them - will cheat on you. He also said to me that because im 16 i should just go round and if i get the chance to have sex i should take it. But i don't want to have sex with just anyone! i want it to be with someone special that i care for... but if he has experienced a girl cheating twice he can't be all wrong can he?? and it also got me thinking for some reason that people who marry now don't take it seriously because divorce rates are going up and marriage is going down... so can i really trust a girl if i went out with her?? I no it's not just girls because boy's do it as well but i no for fact that i would never cheat on a girl. Please answer my question because i really want to no other peroples opinions - men and women. thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2006): Hey brah, you need to chill out. The male and female fit together perfectly naturally. it is in the brain where we get all fucked up. Even if you aren't catholic you need to go back to Adam and Eve. Jealousy and envy, it is usually all that drives someone to cheat. Our natural reaction is to have sex with anything and everything and it is a shame that in our brains, looks is what really gets us going but you have to dig deep in your heart for what you truly desire. Don't do the girl before you really know her ever, unless you both know that it really means nothing and you are letting off some steam. But i wish i had waited and had my first time with my wife now, i wish i could have shared that with her. And my brothers wife says the same thing, she feels wrong for not giving my brother her virginity. Any how, wait for the girl you trully enjoy emotionally, conversationaly, and the one that feels like home. You can never be certain if she feels the same way, only time will tell, so give it plenty of time, cause trust me if it is the right girl and she takes that dive with you it will feel like you are going to live, and are living for ever. OH Yeah, your friend is immature minded. I have already done the long relationship thing and you know why i could almost swear that she was cheating in the later years? Because it wasn't for real for me, subcontiously i pushed her away by blaming her and i have grown to figure that one out my self. I eventually cheated on her, and other girls even not so good looking ones started getting even hotter, we spent less and less time together and eventually she cheated on me and i made my move and ended it really harshly.I feel horrible about that now, i kind of wish i never had sex with her or atleast waited but level headed human being learns only from mistakes or the past and i have grown up because of it. Ask your friend if he ever cheated and wait till hes drunk to get a truthfull answer. ****If i could help you in any way i have to say this " Find a woman who you trully enjoy and you will always fit like a puzzle and both of you will realize that you two won't fit any where else********
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): There are girls that cheat, just as there are guys that cheat. But there is no use in thinking that everyone that you have an intimate relationship with is eventually going to cheat on you. Thinking like this will only ruin the potentially good relationship that you could have with them and you could put the relationship under intense strain on something which is based entirely on suspicion.
As a guy who knows that he would never cheat, how would you like it if a girl consantly accused you of cheating?
In my opinion, i think you should forget what your friend told you and focus on building healthy and loving relationship based on trust and honesty. That way, the girl you go out with in the future is probably not going to cheat on you anyway because she'll think that she already has the perfect guy, and has no need to cheat.
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reader, tracey-l +, writes (3 September 2006):
dear mate
some girl feel the same way as you do.
that they want to find that spical person.
and that a relationship is just about for sex.
and that both of them have to work at the realationship.
girl like that men talk to them and you both have to tell each other how you feel. but girl also need you to tell them the truth. i think if your alway honstly with them and that you tell them how you feel and spend time with them.and take them out but girl also need aome time along to spend with there mate yuo can't alway expect them you stay with you every second of every day and girl what to spend time with there mates just like gay do and also make them feel spiceal then you can't go wrong in a relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2006): I have never ever cheated on a boyfriend. I think it is totally wrong. I focus on the relationship and have never been tempted to stray, and I would certainly not get myself in a situation in which I was tempted. So, be assured that there many girls out there that don't stray. Just take your time to decide who is right for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2006): Ok, not all girls cheat just like not all guys cheat.
You'll meet the one you can trust, ignore your friend about jumping at the chance ok.
If you want to find the one then you will. Your friend may just seem to keep getting in relationships with the cheating kind of girls.
You sound like a nice trusting guy so I doubt this will happen to you.
Most girls want exactly what you're looking for so all I can say is, you'll find the one, be patient, don't rush into anything.
and DON'T be influenced by anybody else.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (2 September 2006):
 I'm pleased to tell you that your friend is wrong. A sample of two girls is not enough to draw conclusions about half of the human race (fortunately).
You are onto a good thing by the way, the wanting to have sex only with someone you care about. Don't listen to his advice on that. In fact, his advice is the sort of behaviour that gets you cheated on. If you stick to having relationships and sex with someone you really care about, you'll find the chance of being cheated on become almost zero. The less you care about someone, the more likely they are to cheat on you.
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (2 September 2006):
 If you're waiting for the right girl to come along, you're smart. Don't be swayed into having sex just for kicks. There are too many negative consequences. Just relax, enjoy your teenage years, and some day the right girl will come along and knock you off your feet.
As far as relationships go, some last for a lifetime, some last for days. It depends on the individuals involved. Relationships between two people are apt to change over time. It's the couples that grow with the changes that are successful.
Now, go get a good education and find a career that will make you happy. The girls will follow.
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reader, Green Eyed Gabriel +, writes (2 September 2006):
 Not all girls cheat. And most of them do begin to realise what they want in life in their late 20's. You should probably consider whether the girls your friend ends up are like that simpley because he's considered attractive but not the kind of person you want to commit too. So all in all yes some girls cheat... most dont and whilst there is a chance any girl will the liklihood is if they feel you a possibility for the future they wont. Your friend may just be not the right guy to make girls want to settle down. You have to go for it sometime. Just wait until you found someone special.
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