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Student of Psychology, Degree in Nursing with wide variety of experience. Mother, daughter, sister, wife, ex, neice, grandaughter, student, boss, colleague....you get the picture.
Interested in impulse control disorders, like chocolate, cheese, Tintin, travelling, Pepsi max, Cracker, Tony Soprano, eddie Izzard, toilet humour, Family guy - shall I go on?
Adore my family and friends. Love to help others, abuse survivor, rape survivor, holder of family record for cherry pip spitting......
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I'm 13 dating a 24 year old man... Is this cool?
Q. Im 13 and starting to get on "WELL" with a 24 year old. Im 13 and had met this 24 year old guy and we have a hell of a lot in common. We feel strongly for each other. And we have kinda been steady for while. Im a extremly mature 13 year old,and i am ...
A. 5 February 2006: Male anon, don't impose your narrow minded beliefs on here. How sad in this day and age you feel the need to call an under age girl a tart or slag go away and grow up.
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My wife sleeps on the couch and we haven't had sex in a year..what should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3 years,she sleeps on the couch or with the grandson instead of with me, we haven't had sex in about a year,and before that average was every six months after first year. We don't do anything outside of the h...
A. 31 January 2006: I think you know when you have had enough. I also think that you are at that point now, from what you have been saying. If you have been looking at apts and stuff then in your heart of hearts you know it is over. The fact that people on here are ... (read in full...)
My wife sleeps on the couch and we haven't had sex in a year..what should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3 years,she sleeps on the couch or with the grandson instead of with me, we haven't had sex in about a year,and before that average was every six months after first year. We don't do anything outside of the h...
A. 30 January 2006: Hey there agian.
The more I read about your life situation the more I think you are wasted on this woman I am sorry if I sound a little harsh but I feel you need to dump this relationship and move on. You are obviously miserable and you sound li... (read in full...)
If a girl has unprotected sex..will she be more likely to get infected with AIDS, then the guy?
Q. Hi, i have been sexually active since 20-year-old and i have been with this guy - J for almost 2 years. I am 22 this year. We both were virgin when we had our first time. At some stage of our relationship, i took estrogen pills to get rid of my pi...
A. 29 January 2006: It is to do with the fragility of the skin in the vagina, more prone to nicks and grazes and the virus is more able to enter into the blood. It is apparently the same way you can be more likely to be infected thru anal intercourse. (It's due to ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 dating a 24 year old man... Is this cool?
Q. Im 13 and starting to get on "WELL" with a 24 year old. Im 13 and had met this 24 year old guy and we have a hell of a lot in common. We feel strongly for each other. And we have kinda been steady for while. Im a extremly mature 13 year old,and i am ...
A. 29 January 2006: Good on you both for making a sensible decision and I admire you for your maturity. I hope you both get what you need from your friendship. I wish you both all the luck in the world.xxx... (read in full...)
Haven't told her how I feel, and now she and her boyfriend are about to have sex. Anything I can do?
Q. Hey, I really really like this chick and I haven't really gathered the courage to tell her how I feel. I think she feels the same way. I found out recently she and her new boyfriend are going to have sex! Should I just let my feelings slip away or ...
A. 29 January 2006: Just a couple of lines for you to help you make your decision to tell her of your feelings or not.
Nothing ventured nothing gained - tell her it is always better to regret doing something than to think WHAT IF!!
I hope this helps and I wish you... (read in full...)
My wife sleeps on the couch and we haven't had sex in a year..what should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3 years,she sleeps on the couch or with the grandson instead of with me, we haven't had sex in about a year,and before that average was every six months after first year. We don't do anything outside of the h...
A. 29 January 2006: Oh you poor thing, she really isn't responding is she? Is there any reason you can think of that she would be so negative all the time? To tell the truth I think she sounds clinically depressed, has she lost all joy in life or is it just with you ... (read in full...)
My wife sleeps on the couch and we haven't had sex in a year..what should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3 years,she sleeps on the couch or with the grandson instead of with me, we haven't had sex in about a year,and before that average was every six months after first year. We don't do anything outside of the h...
A. 28 January 2006: It can be hard for a woman to have sex if she feels that she isn't loved or respected by her partner. Maybe your wife has unresolved issues that she feels unable to discuss with you? Have you tried to talk with her about the reasons for the lack ... (read in full...)
My wife sleeps on the couch and we haven't had sex in a year..what should I do?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 3 years,she sleeps on the couch or with the grandson instead of with me, we haven't had sex in about a year,and before that average was every six months after first year. We don't do anything outside of the h...
A. 28 January 2006: It can be hard for a woman to have sex if she feels that she isn't loved or respected by her partner. Maybe your wife has unresolved issues that she feels unable to discuss with you? Have you tried to talk with her about the reasons for the lack ... (read in full...)
Just thanking some great Agony aunts for their help..Thank you!!
Q. hi i would just like to thank the people who answered my problem today, star news, pressure free cheerfullcharlie and willywombat it really helped me and i felt a lot better after what you said so thank you for your help x ...
A. 28 January 2006: No problems
I hope I acn be of help again.
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If a girl has unprotected sex..will she be more likely to get infected with AIDS, then the guy?
Q. Hi, i have been sexually active since 20-year-old and i have been with this guy - J for almost 2 years. I am 22 this year. We both were virgin when we had our first time. At some stage of our relationship, i took estrogen pills to get rid of my pi...
A. 28 January 2006: Yes. A female is more likely to becaome infected through unprotected heterosexual vaginal intercourse than a man.
If you are worried about this, go to your doctor and get checked out asap. Chances are you are worrying yourself *sick* for no reas... (read in full...)
Can I break up with him, even if he doesn't want to?
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend but he wants to stay together. What can I do? Any advice?...
A. 28 January 2006: UrbanQueen
You must do what is right for you. If you want to break up and start afresh then you must. Whilst it is important to take other people's feelings into accout I think this would be one of those situations were you just have to look afte... (read in full...)
Feel like there is a war on singles... And I'm in the firing line!
Q. Why do people ALL of a sudden wanna rush into marriage, kids, "the works". I'm only 22 and most of my mates are asking when you gonna find "a chick" "mess around alittle", what is this WAR on the singles? I'm not in any relationship and I'm not ...
A. 28 January 2006: Who cares what other peolpe think sweetie? Be strong! I didn't marry til I was in my 30's and had had my first kid at 29 and the comments are now *u can't have an only child, etc etc* and do you know how I reply? MYOB
Sorry that might seem hars... (read in full...)
Don't feel emotionally stable enough to have one-night stands... Anything wrong?
Q. hi , i havent had a boyriend for two years it doesnt bother me because im enjoying going out with friends the only problem is i haven't had a sexual partner since then either i just cant have a one night stand my friends all do but i dont feel ...
A. 28 January 2006: Don't feel pressured to perform the same acts as your friends. If you do something that you don't feel comfortable with you will regret it and probably despise yourself forever.
You are the mature one for admitting you are not the sort of pers... (read in full...)
How can I forget about my wife's past?
Q. My wife has had vaginal intercourse (about 48 times with three guys, 6+12+30), anal intercourse (one time each with two guys), and/or oral sex (about twenty five times from four guys) with six men other than me. She has given manual and/or oral sex ...
A. 28 January 2006: Irish ahs said it all for me and for that I applaud her. I don't understand why you would discuss the specifics of you wife's actions before your relationship. I think you both need to leave the past behind you and look toward the future. Get ... (read in full...)
I need constant reasurrance from him...what do I do?
Q. Well where do i begin, iv been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years we dont live together, but im so paronoid that we are goin to break up or that hes fallin out of love with me that i cont concentrate on anything else,i need constant reasurrance ...
A. 27 January 2006: Somtimes we create the very monster we have been trying to avoid by our own behaviour. What I mean is, your neediness could, as you think, drive him away.
How did you survive when you broke up last time? You will probably think you didn't, but ... (read in full...)
I need tips on good masturbation techniques. Any ideas?
Q. im having trouble i want to masterbate but i dont know any good methods on how to arouse my self and i get really horny can anyone give me good tips....
A. 27 January 2006: Sex toys are always a good route to go down if you cannot have the real thing. And you can get them by mail order if too embarrassed to go into a shop for them.
Have a good time.x... (read in full...)
We are back together and my life is a living hell! Not sure how much longer I can take this..help
Q. My husband and I were separated because I cheated on him but now we're back together. My life is a living hell, he has talked to other people and we have no trust in each other. We have 2 children and I don't want to hurt them, but I don't know ...
A. 27 January 2006: He obviously loves you but still has unresocled issues about what happened in the past. If your husbands rages make you feel unsfae/in any sort of danger you must leave and protect yourself and your children from physical harm
You obviously have... (read in full...)
How much masturbation is too much?
Q. Hello, I'm 13 years old, though rather mature for my age. However I masturbate 2-3 times a day sometimes. Is this too much? ...
A. 27 January 2006: There is no such thing as too much. As long as it doesn't interfere with your education and you don't get sore.
Enjoy yourself!!
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She doesn't look as good as I first thought so what can I do?
Q. Hi..! I got married around one year ago. We had an arranged marraige. I met my wife just once and she looked very impressive and gud looking to me. Good looks were always a priority for me over anything else. We met around 3 times before formally ...
A. 27 January 2006: I would love to be able to help you but I do not fully understand your culture or what it means to be in an arranged marriage. I thought I would leave this message tho because I wanted to wish you luck in your quest for answers.
x... (read in full...)
I need constant reasurrance from him...what do I do?
Q. Well where do i begin, iv been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years we dont live together, but im so paronoid that we are goin to break up or that hes fallin out of love with me that i cont concentrate on anything else,i need constant reasurrance ...
A. 27 January 2006: Oh you poor thing. This is very much a self-esteem problem on your part. I feel you need to work on your neediness by maybe looking at why you feel this way in the first place. Is this to do with your past? Have you been hurt before?
You say ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my intelligent bf to stop with the insensitive, smart answers to my feelings. He can be insulting and it hurts. Help me here
Q. Help, My smart bf is always rubbing in my face how smart he is, and I always feel stupid and pissed off. When I'm annoyed with something and tell him, instead of him saying it's ok you'll get through, or just by saying it'll be ok, calms me down, ...
A. 27 January 2006: Men (as a rule) like to fix things and look good. Females like to listen and share emotions. But your guy sounds like a fool.
Like the anon guy says "leave the moron" and find someone who can give you the proper love and support you should expe... (read in full...)
I have a bf but this other guy keep pressuring me for sex. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid: I have a serious problem with my guy friend who is constantly asking me for sexual favors. I told him no everytime he ask and he doesnt seem to get the point that I have a bf and I WONT AND WILL NOT CHEAT ON HIM!!! My concern is t...
A. 27 January 2006: If this is his idea of a joke you need to tell him in no uncertain terms you don't find this funny. If not then you have to tell this muppet to BACK OFF. This is not friendship or anyhting else, this is a chancer trying his hand. You loyalty to ... (read in full...)
Got my period and suddenly I am craving sex! How do I stop this?
Q. Hey guys this is Sweetie Pie here wondering if you could help me with this situation I have. You see me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months now. Everything was going great until BOOM I get my peri...
A. 26 January 2006: I wouldn't sweetie pie, really. But whatever advice we give you, you will go ahead and make up your own mind anyhow!
I hope you will use the advice given and not do it. I believe you are too young PHYSICALLY if not mentally. Please consider the ... (read in full...)
Why haven't I kissed a girl?
Q. Hi, im fourteen and now im feeling kind of awkward! All of my friends have gone out with girls, kissed them and whatnot. Im now just wondering why i haveNt. Not trying to be arrogant, but i'm good looking, brainy, muscular and nice, and i've had a ...
A. 26 January 2006: I don't want to sound patronising so I will try really hard not too!
14 isn't any great age not to have kissed someone....it will happen for you at the time it's meant to. Just 'cos your mates are ahead of the game, doesn't mean you are lack... (read in full...)
Should I tell about my bipolar condition? Won't that frighten him off?
Q. I need some help here...I suffer with bi polar manic depression, and I think it is affecting my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been together for 4 months and I haven't told him about my illness. I am afraid to tell him because then he will ...
A. 26 January 2006: Hi there
Are you on medication for your illness and are you under a decent practioner? If so next visit how about you discuss with your therapist how to tell your bf about your condition. If you were a diabectic or epileptic you would prob... (read in full...)
Can our relationship survive despite the bad sex? Any ways to improve it?
Q. Hi, ive been going out with my boyfriend for approx. one and half years now. our relationship is very good apart from the sex bit. Hes in his late 40s, Im 40. He enjoys what i do to him but Im tired of initiating it all the time. he doesnt seem ...
A. 25 January 2006: Sex isn't everything and were would you be if you had good sex but everything else was crap. If it is only the sex that needs working on and everything else is good have you thought about seeing a professional psycho-therapist who may be able to ... (read in full...)
My foreskin doesn't retract when I get an erection. I'm concerned this will affect my ability to enjoy sex!
Q. Hi When my penis is about to erect or erected I can pull back hardly any of the skin - only probably enough to see the tip of the head. If i try to pull back more it hurts. I'm worried if this will effect when / if I have sex, as there is this gir...
A. 25 January 2006: Go see your GP. This sounds like a problem that he/she can help you with.
I wish you good luck and happy times.x... (read in full...)
I don't get why my boyfriend goes to his mum with OUR personal problems. What can I do about it?
Q. I have known my boyfriend for almost for 4 years. We were bestfriends for 3 before we actually started dating almost a year ago. (March will be a year) We have both graduated high school and we have both moved on to college. My concern is that ...
A. 25 January 2006: Oh boy this needs to stop now! You poor thing!
Sit down and try to talk to your bf about this situation calmly and quietly. It is bad enough knowing he is discussing your probs with anyone but his MA!
If you tell him how you feel and why you ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my best friend I was a webcam-sl*t with the guy she likes? I only did it to get back at her...
Q. theres this guy he's my x (lets call him will) i still like him even though it was me who ended it. lately hes been sending really dirty txts to my best mate i act like im not bothered but i rly rly am. i havnt told her. yesterday i got back at her ...
A. 25 January 2006: Is she really your best friend? I think you should move on 'cos your relationship doesn't sound to healthy and one or both of you is going to get emotionally hurt by all this.
Good Luck... (read in full...)
Got my period and suddenly I am craving sex! How do I stop this?
Q. Hey guys this is Sweetie Pie here wondering if you could help me with this situation I have. You see me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months now. Everything was going great until BOOM I get my peri...
A. 25 January 2006: Ok
I asked because you sounded a little too like a pervert who might get his kicks imitating a 12 year old girl. They exsist and I didn't want to give them fodder tfor their sordid scenarios.
Anyway, it is normal to feel like this at this time in ... (read in full...)
Suddenly after 5 years together, my boyfriend hit me when he disagreed. Am I wrong not to want to sacrifice what we have over this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and just recently I've seen a side to him that I've never seen before. We had been out drinking and something made him mad. He wanted me to go home because he was going to his house. I didn't want ...
A. 25 January 2006: Sorry to say this because I know you don't want to hear it but GET OUT NOW.
He will do it again now he has broken the taboo on violence in your relationship.
Being hit once you are a VICTIM. Being hit twice you are a VOLUNTEER.
Get out befroe h... (read in full...)
Things between us are strained since my boyfriend moved interstate!
Q. I have a bf who had to move to another state 3 months ago for a job in the Oil Rig Camp. Before he moved we were always in contact either through email or phone. Well since he moved away he never phones or sends emails. The last time I talked t...
A. 25 January 2006: It could be he is distracted because he is getting used to being away. Or it could be he wants to end it without having to do the dirty deed himself.
I would suggest putting your concerns down in a written letter and sending it by snail-mail. Don'... (read in full...)
Can I fight my way back?
Q. How can I get back into the heart of a guy I love who once loved me but says he doenst anymore because I tend to be too agressive?...
A. 25 January 2006: Don't try and walk away with your dignity intact and your head held high. Make a new life for yoursself. Learn to live without him. If he wants you abck he'll come running when he sees you don't need him.....and who says you will want him back ... (read in full...)
How do I handle my anxieties about his ex? She annoys me and how do I cope with my feelings?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and we now live together in his home town, 200 miles from my home town.He has a 4 year old daughter with his ex who lives round the corner from us. In the first couple of years she stirred trouble ...
A. 25 January 2006: Difficult this one, but you actively need to seek out other sources of amusement for your lesuire time to avoid bumping into her. You and your BF should find a new set of friends, whilst not dropping your old ones of course, but just spending less ... (read in full...)
My gf is a self-harmer and I'm worried sick about her. What should I do?
Q. My girlfriend of over a year is a self-harmer. I dont know how to deal with as she wont talk about it and says 'it's private.' I feel helpless, worrried sick and guilty. What should I do? ...
A. 25 January 2006: I think Irish said it all to tell you the truth!
But I must add, that sometimes self-harmers perform these actions not only as a release of their emotions but also as a way of obtainging notice and sympathy. If she won't alk to you then you shou... (read in full...)
Got my period and suddenly I am craving sex! How do I stop this?
Q. Hey guys this is Sweetie Pie here wondering if you could help me with this situation I have. You see me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 months now. Everything was going great until BOOM I get my peri...
A. 25 January 2006: SORRY, BUT ARE YOU REALLY TWELVE? yOU SOUND SLIGHTLY LIKE SOMEONE HAVING A LAUGH......... (read in full...)
Do I have a yeast infection?
Q. hi i was wondering if you could help. ive had this problem for a long time now and need to know if anything is wrong with me, im not sure if i have a yeast infection because i get small amounds of white stuff in my vagina, is this normal? thanx...
A. 24 January 2006: This sounds normal, but if you ever concerned about this sort of thing you really need to see your GP or the clinic nurse. They can put your mind at rest far sooner than we can over the web.
If you are itching, or have sorenes on urinating or are ... (read in full...)
I'm an ex-teacher who fell in love with a student. I lost my career and I need help coping with the damnation.
Q. I am an ex-teacher. When I was 32 I fell in love with one of my 18 year old sixth form students. I was so aware of the power relationship issue, but sought advice from colleagues/friends as to what to do - they said if I was truly in love with her ...
A. 24 January 2006: Move on don't ever chose to end it because of some of the narrow mindedness of some people. She was na adult and so were you. Yes it shouldn't really have happened but it did and you both made that decision. She was not a child, it was not rape ... (read in full...)
Does my willy have too much skin? What will my MSN love think?
Q. Hi, i've just turned 14 (december) and have met this girl through over mates of mine. I havn't seen her in person yet but she wants to meet up soon. Many girls on msn have said i look "fit" but this girl says she "loves" me. But the only thing is...
A. 24 January 2006: Every penis is different. If you had "to much skin" it would have been picked up on by a dr or nurse at a clinic visit as a child. Every vagina is different too, and loads of people worry about their sexual organs being *different*......
But thin... (read in full...)
Why don't the men who use porn...ever think about the pain and hurt they can cause their partners?
Q. Why is it that a lot of men dont seem to even think about the hurt they can cause their partners by using porn. Dont they stop to think how it would feel to them if we used pictures of young hunks to get off especially as they are changing and ...
A. 24 January 2006: I think you may be over-reacting a bit. Remember tho this is just my opinion so please don't be offended.
Both men and women use porn and it doesn't mean anyhting to them except as a means of "getting off". They look at the bodies and are cond... (read in full...)
I'm 13 dating a 24 year old man... Is this cool?
Q. Im 13 and starting to get on "WELL" with a 24 year old. Im 13 and had met this 24 year old guy and we have a hell of a lot in common. We feel strongly for each other. And we have kinda been steady for while. Im a extremly mature 13 year old,and i am ...
A. 24 January 2006: No is the word you need. No this "relationship" is Not Cool in any way.
First, just 'cos he is older does not mean he is automatically going to rape you....but it does mean he will expect a lot more from you that emotionally and physically you ... (read in full...)
My husband has a married female friend and I find their friendship too excessive. What should I do?
Q. Husband had female friend - is she after him? My husband of five years has a female friend (she is married also) that he met at his new job. We recently moved to a new area and he says she is his only friend. They talk at least once a day, call...
A. 24 January 2006: This needs to stop. Does he show you as much care and respect as he shows his "friend"? Would he treat a male "buddy" in the same way? How would he *honestly* deal with this is the shoe were on the other foot? He probably wouldn't.....
You need... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and looking for ways to spice up my sex life with my boyfriend...
Q. Hi there... I'm a 15 year old lass and me and my boyfriend have been going out with each other for around 6 months. We sleep together (and my parents are aware, I talked to my mum before anything happened). We have a very great and active sex life, ...
A. 24 January 2006: You are a minor. You boyfriend is breaking the law by having sex with you. You could get an STD or become pregnant.
Sex is for grown-ups, what is wrong with hand-holding and kissing, cuddling and heavy petting even? Why the rush to do this stuf... (read in full...)
Our 16 year old son is with a 43 year old woman...what do we do?
Q. Recently me and my husband found out that our 16-year-old son has been dating a 43-year-old woman and has got engaged to her. We asked our son if this was true, and he said it was. He told us he is talking of getting engaged to her and havin...
A. 24 January 2006: Nothing.
You do nothing, except be there to support him when it all blows up. If you tell him "No" then you will push them together.
Be the parents you have always been, support him, love him, let him make his mistakes (which this is because ... (read in full...)
She's left to study overseas, and now I can't help wondering if she's going to get drunk and disorderly when she's away...
Q. I need help. My girlfriend recently left for study abroad. We have been dating for 6 months and she is continuously partying and going out with other people in groups. I really miss her and don't really want her to get drunk and do anything with ...
A. 24 January 2006: This is hard for you I am sure, but this does not mean she has forgotten you. She is only away for 6 months. Whilst she is away is there anything you can do to help you not obsess about what she is doing quite so much? Have you been in touch with ... (read in full...)
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