Former sex industry worker to mistress to my boss!
Q. I am a former employee of the sex industry trying to get my life back on track. I recently went back to a day job which I love. It had gotten around the office what my former occupation was. One of the boss's (not mine directly) started asking me ...
A. 1 January 2007: Firstly, have you given yourself time to heal to deal with the choices of your past? You have just started piecing your life together, thats admirable, but you can't follow one good decision with a bad one that relates to life choices.
You know ... (read in full...)
Is it cause for concern if your partner doesn't reciprocate, oral-wise?
Q. I haven't seen this certain question asked here, so I am going ahead and ask. If your p artner wants you to give him a bj, but in turn he won't return the favor, with no explanation what so ever. Should there be cause for concern, or not? I want ...
A. 1 January 2007: I think he might just be shy and not know what exactly what to do in pleasuring you. So talk to him and find out, he might just need a little nudge and a confidence boost.
I know when I first did it, it was like a bit of an adventure and my ... (read in full...)
Worried that my ex will start dating one of my friends!
Q. Worried about my ex and one of my best friends dating. My ex girlfriend has a blog where she mentioned that she can hardly go without a day without talking to him and she calls him her "bestfriend." She goes on to say that he is one of three guys ...
A. 28 December 2006: Dude, you don't want to come across as neurotic.
But do talk to your friend and let him know how much she still means to you and that you cherish his friendship. Good luck.
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She used to want me back but now she doesn't. Problem is, now she has a bf andI want her back!
Q. I have been separated from my ex now for around 4 months! there was a time when she desperately wanted me back but i wasnt to sure! i am now desperatly trying to get her back but she has a boyfreind! we were together for two and a half years and i ...
A. 27 December 2006: I think you might be missing her cause she's moved on. Do you think that if she still wanted you back, you'd feel the same? It might be best to move on, if you two are
meant to be it'll happen...
But move on.... (read in full...)
This could really be my happy chance but I'm so afraid of rubbing anyone up the wrong way! I need your advice!
Q. Dear Cupid, I wonder if you can help me sort this situation out? I have recently ended a relationship that has been going on for two years with my boyfriend. The problem was that I was never really attracted to him and did not fall madly i...
A. 27 December 2006: Although there's nothing wrong with you being happy, your ex has just lost you and now he's going to loose his friend.
Guys have a 'code of conduct' between friends that they won't make a move on gf's and ex's. It's just the way it is.
I think you ... (read in full...)
I am in pain and so unhappy! I need some advice to help me through this!
Q. I'm worthless..i don't do anything..i just cause more people pain. my parents want me 2 get emancipated so i don't have 2 live off of them. i literaly don't have any friends.. i have been homeschooled all my life. i don't go anywhere. i don't have ...
A. 26 December 2006: You just have to make one change at a time (per day/week/month) to change your life.
First thing, you're not alone, you're awesome and worth every ounce of love, effort and support.
You were made for bigger things, you were not made to be discarded. ... (read in full...)
I am in pain and so unhappy! I need some advice to help me through this!
Q. I'm worthless..i don't do anything..i just cause more people pain. my parents want me 2 get emancipated so i don't have 2 live off of them. i literaly don't have any friends.. i have been homeschooled all my life. i don't go anywhere. i don't have ...
A. 26 December 2006: You just have to make one change at a time (per day/week/month) to change your life.
First thing, you're not alone, you're awesome and worth every ounce of love, effort and support.
You were made for bigger things, you were not made to be discarded. ... (read in full...)
One night together and now he hasn't been in touch! Is he scared or does he think I'm a slut?
Q. Do you think this is strange behaviour? This guy I met couple of nights ago liked me a few years ago. Anyway he asked me to dinner and I didn't want to seem to keen. Anyway at the end of the night, he said that I was going home with him, I refu...
A. 25 December 2006: I just want to add:
you're feeling a little awkward after this 'one night stand' and that's maybe why you're upset that he hasn't got in touch with you. You haven't mentioned once that you were falling for this guy.
If you don't have feelings for ... (read in full...)
Feeling low because he doesn't call to say he misses me--am I being taken for granted?
Q. I feel really sad tonight. I'm a first year university student, home for the holidays after my first semester. I met my current boyfriend through our halls - we live together in the same flat. Anyway, recently i've been very low because he hasn'...
A. 25 December 2006: Hey there honey bun, he has been treating you badly and no one should stand for that... If he's fallen out of love with you or whatever reason it may be, you need to get to the bottom of HIS problem, cos it is hurting you in a way that isn't fair ... (read in full...)
He's dating someone else but I like him..what should I do?
Q. I really like one of my guy freinds and i know he likes me, but he's dating some one else. What do i do?...
A. 25 December 2006: Hold on to your feelings at least until they've split or move on, go out and meet new friends and guys - it's the best thing for your self-esteem and sanity...
I hope I've helped you and that you can see through your feelings in this situation.
Good ... (read in full...)
Told her I liked her more than a friend and she said we couldn't hang together, anymore! Any advice?
Q. i told my good friend who i've hooked up with in the past that i had feelings more than friendship. her response was that she didn't know what to say, and by that i said i figured her answer and we could not hang out. al she could say is that it ...
A. 25 December 2006: The moment you have feelings for a girl friend, it changes your expectation of the relationship... So just take a break from her, until you no longer have feelings for her...
Sorry that my advice doesn't sound hope for you...... (read in full...)
His female roomate yells at my bf and bosses him around a lot and I am fed up! What should I do?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about two months. He seems to be an almost perfect match for me... we have a similar sense of humor, enjoy hanging out alone and in social situations, have a lot to talk about, and care for eachother well. However, ...
A. 25 December 2006: Hi there, she is imposing herself on him and immasculating him before you, that is not what the 2 of you need. I was in a similar situation, but I had to draw the line and put her in her place, cos she was running riot...
Talk to him and tell him ... (read in full...)
One night together and now he hasn't been in touch! Is he scared or does he think I'm a slut?
Q. Do you think this is strange behaviour? This guy I met couple of nights ago liked me a few years ago. Anyway he asked me to dinner and I didn't want to seem to keen. Anyway at the end of the night, he said that I was going home with him, I refu...
A. 25 December 2006: It's difficult to say sweety, but I would suggest you don't make any hasty conclusions.
Have you thought of maybe phoning/texting him and thanking him for the night out? Then you could find out why he's been so quiet...
Hope I was of help.
God bless ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my son's father or pursue this guy from church?
Q. do u think that the relationship that i am in with my son's father will last? should i pursue the relationship with the guy at church? do the guy at church feel the same way that i do?...
A. 25 December 2006: Sweety, you need to give us some more info...
What is the relationship like between you and your son's father? Why do you have reservations about your relationship?
I would suggest that you at least deal with one relationship at a time, you cannot ... (read in full...)
He wants me to get bigger boobs and blonde hair and tells me if I get fat, he will leave! What should I do?
Q. Hi my boyfriend of 5 yrs wants me to get plastic surgery for my breasts and wants me to bleach my hair. I was always happy with my breast but he says they should be bigger and higher...he also wants me to become a blonde.....which I dont think would ...
A. 24 December 2006: For what it's worth, when a guy is truly in love with you, it isn't your body that he has fallen in love with (although it might be a part of what first attracted him - and it will be a part that fascinates him and draws him to you sexually). Your ... (read in full...)
He's 30-I'm 17. Is the age difference a big factor here? And he does this weird thing with his eyes..what is it?
Q. Well, i am 17 years old. I met a guy at college and we get along really well. I like him alot but he is 30. I sometimes think the way he acts around me that he might like me but im not sure. He smiles alot when he is around me and if he sees me in ...
A. 14 December 2006: As with anything age isn't a problem unless you make it a problem.
If he treats you well and respects you, who is to say it's wrong. Besides most of the agony aunts here are over thirty...... (read in full...)
I have a wonderful husband who treats me like a queen but ..how do I tell him I've fallen for another man?
Q. I have been married to the same man for 23 yrs I married at 15 I have two grown daughters 21 and 19 I dont have to work, I do what I want, when I want, and how I want I go out on weekends with the my friends to dances.. my husband is a wonderful man ...
A. 14 December 2006: I think you had too much freedom, your husband trusted you and now you're bored and going out your way to show him that he shouldn't have done that. But the thing is it's not his fault [although letting you go out every weekend with friends is a ... (read in full...)
I think my gf is pretty, but I'm not sexually attracted to her - I don't know what to do!
Q. Should I stay with her? or am I just hurting my self by missing out? I'm 22 and my gf and I have been together for almost 5 years! She's absolutely great: she's very good to me, we love all the same things, and we get a long with no problems. I a...
A. 14 December 2006: What we usually find attractive in a woman is the opposite of what we are or grew up with, but that's not necessarily who we settle down with. Take me for eg. I'm an olive skinned guy (I tan easily, thanks to my southern european genes), and I find ... (read in full...)
What does dating mean??
Q. I was on a date with this guy and he asked me: Do u want to start dating? What does that mean exactly?...
A. 13 December 2006: Ivanna, I think he wants to know if you like him too, maybe even consider going 'steady'?
Let us know how things develop, but I wish you and him all the best.... (read in full...)
This is the last chance I''ll ever have at love with someone I adore immensly!
Q. Greetings to everyone at dearcupid. ive just literally found this site and im glad i did. for about two years i have had enormous social problems and other things that drove me to severe depression, anxiety but have pushed myself forward cos i dont ...
A. 13 December 2006: You are way too young to think you'll never find love again... What's with that anyway, you've hardly crawled out the crib of life [he sighs, figuratively] and you are already willing to hamstring yourself?
You need to believe in yourself before you ... (read in full...)
Is 'girth' more important that 'length' when girls look at penis'?
Q. Here's a different question regarding penis size. This one is about how big around it is. I've seen that women say circumference or "girth" is more important than length. Does that mean that the thicker the better? Mine is 4 1/2 inches around and ...
A. 13 December 2006: You can't change what God gave you or which end of the genetic pond you inherited... BUT you can make a difference by being a considerate lover...
Remember that all women are different and you can't use the same tricks on all of them... But that's ... (read in full...)
Does he want something more than friends since he is taking me to a flash restaurant?
Q. Ok there is this guy that i like. Recently i found out by his friend that he just wants to be friends cuz his friend asked him if he liked me. Well anyways im fine with that. Well i asked him if he wants to hangout sometime and he said yea just gi...
A. 13 December 2006: Some guys are private and don't like blurting out their personal feelings, sometimes even to friends.
I think he likes you cos guys generally try to impress girls with what they can do for them.
Just enjoy the time with him and soon you'll find out ... (read in full...)
How do I prove to him that I never cheated on him?
Q. I need help. I have been married for almost 4 years and I have never cheated on my husband even when he was just my boyfriend. Although he thinks that I have. Before I met him I had alot of guy friends and that's all that they were just friends. I ...
A. 13 December 2006: You can't prove it to him, it's just one of those things where he has to give you the benefit of the doubt...
Surely in 4 yrs of marriage you have proven your character to him over and over again? My ex also got on better with guys than girls and I ... (read in full...)
What does dating mean??
Q. I was on a date with this guy and he asked me: Do u want to start dating? What does that mean exactly?...
A. 13 December 2006: Dating and going steady, in my mind are one and the same thing, although some people may say there are some subtle differences.
It means that the two of you are both now in a mutually exclusive relationship, and want to see where it is going to take ... (read in full...)
I feel ashamed of my body since he's been looking at porn - I feel this could break us apart
Q. Pornography - How do I cope, I can't compete Found out my fella has been using pornography when he stays in hotels.....this comes after an event 2-3 years ago when I found out he had been looking at porn on my computer.....nearly tore us appart t...
A. 12 December 2006: Oh sweetie, I'm sorry you're going through this.
No matter what anyone says, porn is an escape, a very unhealthy escape. You just have to read how they describe women (on websites in particular) and you realise that their world isn't based on ... (read in full...)
He tells his numerous girl friends that they are beautiful - I feel threatened and it's driving me crazy!
Q. can girls and boys be only friends? hi, my boyfriend has tons of very close girl friends. as his girlfriend, i feel slightly threatened by their close relationships, especially when i hear him calling them pretty, beautiful, etc. my take ...
A. 12 December 2006: Friends of the opposite sex is possible, but I've never known it not to contain at least some feelings of attraction.
I would suggest you orchestrate something similar with a willing boy friend or a close acquaintance that you trust, then when you ... (read in full...)
New to dearcupid..is it okay to post a question that is quite long?
Q. hi. i'm new to using dearcupid. most or all posted questions and answers are viewed by everyone, right? is it ok if posting a question is that is quite long? probably even take nearly whole page to write or discuss problem. what do you suggest?...
A. 12 December 2006: Ofcourse it's ok! Everyone else posts long questions why shouldn't you?
Just remember to post enough info to facilitate someone to give you good advice. Pls leave out names though.... (read in full...)
Friends with benefits?
Q. What do you say when a guy says that he only wants to be friends? Yet wants to have sex? I feel like a whore!...
A. 12 December 2006: Let me get this right, you're good enough for him to have sex with but not good enough for him to invest himself emotionally in you!?!...
I donno!? [he says quizically]...
I suppose it is cheaper than taking you out for a dinner, having to earn ... (read in full...)
My husband of 19 years has a dirty secret and I just can't bear to be near him anymore!
Q. My husband of 19 years told me on my birthday that he was at the police station and was charged with abusing someone 17 years ago( which he denies) since that night he told me we have not slept together. I cant get it out of my head. I have put on ...
A. 12 December 2006: Unless he really did something, was tried in court, found guilty and prosecuted... You should be the one asking for forgiveness...
You obviously need to ask yourself if your actions and thoughts were warranted... ... (read in full...)
He says he needs time and space to resolve a past issue!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and 3 months. He recently has said he needs a lot of space and time to himself. He is trying to figure out what to do. His head is all mixed up. He says he loves me and wants to be with me. He says he ...
A. 12 December 2006: The agony aunts below have given you great advice. From a guys point of view it's good news, he sees a future with you and wants to sort this out before it affects your relationship. He seems really considerate. Give him the space and time he needs, ... (read in full...)
I want to know about her previous sexual encounters, she says it doesnt matter, should I let it lie ?
Q. My Girlfriend when she was 16 she cheated on her boyfriend with someone she knew for a whilie now she's 20 with me i wanna know what she did. she told me she jerked him off While he fingered her (which she told me she never liked anyone doing) sh...
A. 11 December 2006: Wow these agony aunts have given you really good advice. Take it.
All I can tell you is that your insecurity is pushing her away! And maybe the reason that she fell for you is because you didn't seem like the rest of the assholes. But you sure are ... (read in full...)
I badly want to sleep with him but he doesnt love me!
Q. i think i love my friend he wants to sleep with me but i no he doesnt love me back.. any advice? ...i know i wanna sleep with him. badly. but maybe some of you have had experiences like this one? could you help me?? he is 8 years older tho..........
A. 11 December 2006: Hi there, on some level either than physical you believe that he is going to fall in love with you if you make love to him, right?
Wrong. He doesn't want to make love to you because thats not how he feels for you, he just wants a good time with a ... (read in full...)
I know I want to be with her
Q. Hi. I know a lot of people ask these types of questions here, but every one of us has an experience that is just a tad different. For starters, I am a 24 year old male, married with a 5 year old little boy and a little girl on the way. I have been ...
A. 8 December 2006: Is it worth breaking up your family and leaving your children fatherless just to tie up some loose ends? You are chasing after the 'in love' feeling that you get when you are in the honeymoon stage of a relationship, but after that it's back to ... (read in full...)
What are the signs you're in love?
Q. well i was just wondering how do u know when ur in love???...
A. 8 December 2006: For everyone it differs, but generally you get butterflies in your belly, you can't stop thinking about that person and you're happy and want to tell the world about it.... (read in full...)
Do I give off bad vibes?
Q. This is not a serious problem as some of the other ones I have read here. I am an outgoing and friendly person but I wonder if I give off not so good vibes to other people. I was out for dinner with people I had just met last week and one guy at the ...
A. 8 December 2006: Hi anon, you haven't mentioned what you say to put people off.
But my guess is that you are either forward or just very confident, in either case I will say that you should think about what you say before you say it.
Just remember that some people ... (read in full...)
I get so shy around people i have feelings for - help!
Q. why do i get so shy around people i like!! and just make a fool or myself lol when i dont have feelings for someone im so much more open! its really annoys me! anything you can do to feel more comfortable around people you actualy have feelings for?...
A. 7 December 2006: Hi there sweety,
there are very few people that don't feel awkward around people they like or at least started that way.
The secret is to start finding things that make you feel confident such as sports, hobbies, etc. But you also have to learn to ... (read in full...)
I caught my wife of 28 years, kissing and cuddling with a man she worked with!
Q. 4 months ago I caught my wife of 28 years, kissing and cuddling with a man she worked with.She admitted that the 'affair' had been going on for 18 months but that while he tried many times to grope her she always stopped him and that no sexual ...
A. 6 December 2006: Dear anon, 28 yrs is definitely worth fighting for. I think she might not be disclosing the whole truth so as not to hurt you. She did stop that affair. If it helps assume that it went further than she let on and deal with it, forgive her and move ... (read in full...)
I'm confident socially with friends but I am too nervous when asking a girl out!
Q. I'm 19, and I'll admit I'm fairly confident when talking to new people, and I don't cower down if someone has a go at me. Yet I'm always too nervous to ask a girl out. Is this normal?...
A. 5 December 2006: Compliment women on their looks or whatever, but it must be a genuine compliment, now what happens when you do that is very similar to asking a babe out and it builds your self-confidence. It's also relatively low risk and can only help both you and ... (read in full...)
An update to my saga
Q. There has been an update to my saga... so know i am more confused and not sure what it all means.. Friends say one thing and other friends say another.. the basic story is: My boyfriend and I have been together 7 months, and we fell in love ver...
A. 5 December 2006: If you've ever listened to anyone, PLEASE listen to what anon below has said!
Thx anon I'll use your advice in my own (similar) situation. Thanx.... (read in full...)
Can Love Alone Make A relationship Work?
Q. Can Love Alone Make A relationship Work ? Hi ! I'm a young guy, just finished Uni, and I really have some issues about my love life that I hope some of you can help me untangle. Here's the situation. I'm in a long-term relation...
A. 5 December 2006: I believe that love can conquer all (yeah, I know I'm a hopeless romantic)...
But you have to get to grips with the differences, the niggly bits that have you staying up through most of the night... You see it's not what we have in common that we ... (read in full...)
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