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Student of Psychology, Degree in Nursing with wide variety of experience. Mother, daughter, sister, wife, ex, neice, grandaughter, student, boss, colleague....you get the picture.
Interested in impulse control disorders, like chocolate, cheese, Tintin, travelling, Pepsi max, Cracker, Tony Soprano, eddie Izzard, toilet humour, Family guy - shall I go on?
Adore my family and friends. Love to help others, abuse survivor, rape survivor, holder of family record for cherry pip spitting......
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What is cum supposed to taste or smell like? How can you tell if it's normal or not?
Q. What is cum supposed to taste like? or smell like? whats right? and how would you know if something wasnt right with it?...
A. 29 March 2006: I always thought it SMELT like bleach-ish or beef flavoured monster munch!!... (read in full...)
His night time habits are hurting me and I feel used, please help!
Q. hi My partner and I are going through a really bad patch and arguing frequently about sexual problems. The main problem is my partner has nocturnal emissions every night and i feel hurt the next day, we argue and then it starts again. He also c...
A. 29 March 2006: Whoops hit the cap lock and forgot to add the websites.
http://www.sexhealth.org/problems/premature.shtml
http://www.webmd.com/content/article/53/61404.htm
http://www.end-premature-ejaculation-now.com/... (read in full...)
His night time habits are hurting me and I feel used, please help!
Q. hi My partner and I are going through a really bad patch and arguing frequently about sexual problems. The main problem is my partner has nocturnal emissions every night and i feel hurt the next day, we argue and then it starts again. He also c...
A. 29 March 2006: Your partner is having *wet dreams* to use a phrase that springs to mind. If he is asleep whilst this is happening then he has no control over it. In fact I think it is pretty unfair of you to have a go at him about it. It is only natural after ... (read in full...)
Could his cheating with his ex have been a "mistake"?
Q. My boyfriend of four months recently cheated on mewith his ex-girlfriend when I went away. He rang her after he spoke to me and took her back to his house. He says it's the biggest mistake of his life and is completely distraught. He says he has ...
A. 29 March 2006: 4 months into your relationship in the so called HONEYMOON PERIOD, your guy pursues and sleeps with somebody else. read your question again. Pretend one of your friends has this problem. Tell me what you would say to them?
I bet you anyhting... (read in full...)
Why do I want a baby? I don't understand it! Help
Q. Why Do I Want A Baby I am 17 and have been with my 19 yr old bf for over 2an half yrs now. I am very happy with him, he treats me like a princess (hence the screen name), bu over the past few months all i can think about it having a baby. Now i w...
A. 29 March 2006: You have a fantasy of how this will be in your head. I think at 17 and with a bf who ahs stated he doesnt want kids yet you may be jumping the gun a little. It isnt all hearts and flowers having kids it can be pretty hard work. I am not saying ... (read in full...)
I had to cancel our date, and now she hasn't called me....
Q. Met this girl at work, we talked over the phone a couple of times and hookup at work to see each other and we had agreed to meet up on a Friday to go out or in her case hang over her house for the first date. Well my job has put me on this shift ...
A. 29 March 2006: Sack her off. It would seem that she is shallow and obviously didn't believe what you said. If you really like her phone her one more time, and if she doesn't respond quit chasing and date people who are more understanding next time.
x ... (read in full...)
Where is the *proper* place for a gentleman and his mistress to do their business?
Q. Hi, i live in nw england and i`m having an affair with a lovely woman, trouble is where can we sleep together during the day i`m fed up with quickies in the car, any suggestions?...
A. 29 March 2006: *were can we sleep together during the day* pretty good assumptions can be made about this wouldn't you say tux? Think about it, why wouldn't he just go home if this is his girlfriend and not his *bit on the side*. I am pretty sure that the ... (read in full...)
Is getting tanned the way to get attention from the guys?
Q. A question for the men: do you prefer women who are pale or women who are tanned? I ask becuase I find that women with tans always seem to get the attention from men and I have pale skin and I often go unnoticed....
A. 29 March 2006: Yep, tanning sure is the way to get attention. From your dermatologist, oncologist and surgeon......... (read in full...)
She admitted she has kissed other guys, what am I to do about this?
Q. I went out with my girlfriend the other night and we got chatting to a couple of guys whilst we were out, we ended up going to a club with them and I saw one of the guys come out of the toilet walk up to my gf and kiss her. I hit the guy a few times ...
A. 28 March 2006: You had EVERY right to be angry with her, so dont let her use the *you frighten me 'cos of what happened before' because (and I know this will upset some readers on here) that is a plain, old-fashioned COP-OUT! I truly believe your gf is taking you ... (read in full...)
I have lost my sex drive!
Q. i have a problem which seemed to have started about six months ago in that i have lost my sexual desire and drive i am 47 years old ...
A. 28 March 2006: This is a comon problem for men and women as they get older. But your age indicates you may be going thru the menopause or at least starting to. That in itself can cause all sorts of problems due to fluctuating hormone levels and vaginal dryness ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be pregant even though my bf didn't cum??
Q. Hey, I'm 16 and me and my 19 year old bf had unprotected sex yesterday. Even though he never actually cums he was about to yesterday and he had to stop because of it anyway even tho he didn't cum I am just wonderring if I could still be pregnant? Is ...
A. 28 March 2006: The short answer is YES!... (read in full...)
45 single mum of 3 dating a 28 year old guy... Can this work?
Q. I'm a 45 single mum of 3 (20,17,13). Just started a very new relationship wiht a 28 young male. my age is'nt a problem to him, he knows all about them.we get on well and have a good laugh, and the sex is good. Can this actually work, or is this a ...
A. 28 March 2006: Relationships work and don't work for all sorts of reasons. So if you break up in the futrue it might have nothing to do with either one of your ages! Grab at happiness at every chance you get. Life is too short and all those other ... (read in full...)
His porn addiction and his lying about it is getting to me..should i dump him?
Q. My boyfriend has a problem, everytime I go to work he looks at pornography numerous times during the day. I have asked him to stop or be less frequent as it bothers me and every month I find it again. He has started deleting everything off the ...
A. 28 March 2006: If this is bothering you and you feel you cannot trust him then yes, do it. Dump him and get a guy you can trust. It isn't just the porn issue it is the lying that would turn my stomach. If he won't change and he won't stop lying I don't see you ... (read in full...)
Where is the *proper* place for a gentleman and his mistress to do their business?
Q. Hi, i live in nw england and i`m having an affair with a lovely woman, trouble is where can we sleep together during the day i`m fed up with quickies in the car, any suggestions?...
A. 28 March 2006: Do you know I am suprised you have the effrontary to ask a question like this. Get a room. Get a life. Give your poor wife back her dignity by telling her what a cheap low-life scum you really are!!!!... (read in full...)
Can a first kiss tell a relationships future??
Q. Is it possible to tell how a relationship will go from the first kiss?...
A. 28 March 2006: I wish!
The simple answer is no. You may be able to predict chemistry from a first kiss, but not what will happen in a relationship.... (read in full...)
My possesive ex is threatening to kill himself but i really dont want to be with him. Please help!!1
Q. Hi. I am quite scared as this has never happened to me before. I went out with a guy. It was more a rebound from my ex of 3 years. WE were together about 2/3 months and I realised I still liked my ex and also that this guy was very possesiv...
A. 28 March 2006: You must get help and get out of this relationship. His dependence and neediness have now made him emotionally blackmail you. You do not have any responsibilty towards this bloke so get out now. His behaviour is a means to control you. You dont ... (read in full...)
On all his online profiles he lists himself as single!
Q. Hi, i'm a 20 years old and in need of some unbiased advice. My bf and i have been going out for 2 and half years, we're both in university. We only have small disagreements and i think that we still have a strong relationship. However the other day ...
A. 28 March 2006: He appears to be advertising himself as available. I suggest you confront him about it. If I was in your shoes i would think he was looking for somebody else. Otherwise he would put himself down as being in a relationship.....
It isn't like you ... (read in full...)
My vagina lips swell really big after sex, but go back down. Is there something wrong?
Q. Hey, i noticed once a few days having sex, it felt really weird down below and my vagina lips had swollen up and felt uncomortable, after going to the doctors and that and got checked out, we thought it could have been the use of a flavoured condom, ...
A. 28 March 2006: This is normal, as long as there are no other symptoms to go with it. If there is no itching or pain or discharge you have nothing to worry about.
The increased blood flow to the area when aroused can make the entire area flush redder and swel... (read in full...)
How soon should after being dumped should you start dating?
Q. Hi, i was just wondering how soon is appropriate to start seeing someone else after spliting up with a long-term boyfriend. I am in position where, my boyfriend dumped me about 2 weeks ago (after 3 yrs) and a male friend of mine has told me that he ...
A. 28 March 2006: Not until you feel ready or comfortable to move on.
x... (read in full...)
I didn't use protection when I gave him oral sex...should I be worried?
Q. Hi, the other nite i gave oral sex to the guy i am seeing for the first time. At the time i didnt think about using protection and now im worried that i'll catch something as i really dont know him that well..... please help...
A. 28 March 2006: Thrush (although this isn't always passed on by sex, and can be something you developbecause of imbalnces in your body) syphillis, herpes simplex.......shall I carry on?... (read in full...)
I have a different discharge the day after I have sex.....
Q. When i have sex, the next day i have a funny colour discharge. is this normal?...
A. 27 March 2006: are you using a barrier method of contraception? If so then it could be a reaction to the condoms or spermacide. If you have unprotected intercourse then it could just be the residue of his sperm. Without being too graphic, after several hours in ... (read in full...)
He's still with his girlfriend, but I'm the one he wants long term...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and met him while he had a girlfriend. He is still with her but said I'm the only one he wants to be with in the long term. In a way I believe him cuz he takes risks to see me. He said he wants children...
A. 27 March 2006: He is leading you up the garden path. Having his cake and eating it. For what reason does he stay with his *serious* GF? They have no kids, are not married. There are no ties there other than the fact he wants to still be in a relationship with ... (read in full...)
Call for moderators to help out with DearCupid!
Q. Hi everyone, This is another appeal for volunteers to be moderators. You get to approve and categorise questions and approve answers. If you could spare say ten minutes a few times a week, then this could be for you! Just add your name in thi...
A. 27 March 2006: Me too. I would like to be considered.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to hide my other job as a porn star???
Q. Hiya I'm currently a porn star, working in simple films and have been in a few magazines. But I'd also like to be a secondary school teacher. Will I have to mention my career in porn in my job interview, as I'm sure they'll just see me as a stupid b...
A. 27 March 2006: If you don't mention it you are witholding information that will get you sacked when it comes out. And I do mean WHEN and not if. Skeletons in the closet always come out at some point.... (read in full...)
Our friend is dating a guy we can't stand..should we try and break them up?
Q. My friend Jacey is 17 and a junior in high school. She recently started dating a 15 year old freshman named Scott. Me and 3 of my other friends think he's totally and completely wrong for her because he's the stalker type and wrote notes to my ...
A. 27 March 2006: Yes she is your friend, but she can obviously see something she likes in this guy that you can't. That doesn't mean she is blind to it or she is going to be taken advantage of. It just means she likes him and enjoys spending time with him. Leave ... (read in full...)
My husband's always off with his male friend, what should I do about this?
Q. Hi, I am a 32-year-old woman and my husband is 35. We've been married 8 years. Recently my husband has been off on trips with a male friend of his - who I've never met in person, or even spoken to on the phone. If he's not golfing in Manch...
A. 27 March 2006: In that case you ahve a decision to make about your future. I think your husband is *playing* you and I think that 'Jason' is either a bloke he is having an affair with, or a psuedonym for a woman he is having an affair with.
The problem you have... (read in full...)
I have a BIG problem that I would like to get fixed SOON!!!
Q. i have sadly just found out i have Phimosis, where my foreskin does'nt retract easily i am so pissed off i feel like killing ymself i mean why me? As the holidays are coming up soon i will be goin to my mates caravan he has down by the coast and ...
A. 26 March 2006: GO TO YOUR DOCTOR!
Get a referral to the hospital and then you will get this issue sorted. It may take a while to get the treatment you need, but you have a whole life ahead of you to have *sexual intercourse* as you put it.
Enjoy being 14 and g... (read in full...)
He's still reading playboy and penthouse despite us dating for two years!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years. Since the beginning I have told him that I find porn degrading to women. He told me that he didn't feel comfortable reading them since the month we started dating but i found issues until 4 ...
A. 26 March 2006: There have been two sides of the coin offered to you here. I am gonna add my tuppence for what it is worth.
If this is a problem for you then he should be respecting it. But as the first two writer's said, in THEIR opinion, there is nothing wron... (read in full...)
I don't feel too fresh "down below" any more - any tips?
Q. I used to love foreplay and being eaten out and now i have a vaginal odor that makes me feel not in the mood. My doctor says dont douche and eat more yogurt. But nothing works and i don't feel fresh. Help! what will make the sometimes light fishy ...
A. 26 March 2006: Don't use strong perfumes and bubble baths. Do go to your GP and get a check-up. You could have one of many STD@s which produce similar symptoms.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be pregant even though my bf didn't cum??
Q. Hey, I'm 16 and me and my 19 year old bf had unprotected sex yesterday. Even though he never actually cums he was about to yesterday and he had to stop because of it anyway even tho he didn't cum I am just wonderring if I could still be pregnant? Is ...
A. 26 March 2006: Yes, as said below. Get yourself to the GP or for the morning after pill. Get yourself some reliable contraception, preferably a barrier method to protects against STD's as well as pregnancy and dont be so foolish in future!... (read in full...)
I work six days a week while my partner lays in bed. Am I being taken advantage of?
Q. I feel like I am being used, I work 6 days a week whilst my partner stays home. Sometimes she is still in bed when I get home from work. We do not sleep together anymore, she stays up all night watching television and smoking dope. I also do the s...
A. 26 March 2006: simple answer to your question.
YES.
Yes, she is taking advantage of you.
Question from me to you.
Are you going to do something about it?... (read in full...)
When will my periods start?
Q. when do my periods start? i have been waiting for 15 years...i can't take this much more, all my mates are bleeding but i am not ...
A. 26 March 2006: I would think that you should be starting soon. Do you have pubic and underarm hair yet? If you are developing other characteristics of puberty then it will happen soon. If you remain concerned go and have a chat with your GP WHO CAN PUT YOUR ... (read in full...)
Abused as a child, I get panic attacks and can't socialise properly. Now I'm afraid I'll be called a nut job for going to a psychologist!
Q. Hi there people I hope all those great agony aunts like d4uo4 can help!! Well, I am worried I'll lose everything that I have got. I'm 21 and I was abused as a child. And although years have passed I still find it really really hard to carry on...
A. 26 March 2006: Glad we can help. Let us know how you get on.
xxx... (read in full...)
Three days after we broke up, he called like nothing happened...
Q. When a guy breaks up with you and then calls 3 days later to ask how your weekend was, what does it mean? Is he just trying to stroke his ego or does he genuinely miss you? How should I play it from here on in to get him back?...
A. 26 March 2006: How is this progressing now?... (read in full...)
My husband's always off with his male friend, what should I do about this?
Q. Hi, I am a 32-year-old woman and my husband is 35. We've been married 8 years. Recently my husband has been off on trips with a male friend of his - who I've never met in person, or even spoken to on the phone. If he's not golfing in Manch...
A. 26 March 2006: Ask to meet this man. You have the right you are his wife.... (read in full...)
The man I love is already attached. But he says he's just there for his kids...
Q. I am deeply in love with this man. I've been so for like 10 years. We've been very close this whole time. He tells me that he loves me just as much. The only problem is that he lives with his kids' mom. He says he doesn't love her at all; he's jus...
A. 26 March 2006: I am sorry, but something here doesn't sring true. If you have been in love with him all this time, why didnt you tell him before he entered into a serious relationship with the mother of his children? And if he is so 'not in love' with her, why ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to give him oral sex?
Q. My boyfriend's penis is too big to really fit in my mouth to give him oral sex. what could i do to give him oral sex?...
A. 22 March 2006: Whatever you do....dont blow!... (read in full...)
How do I stop my boyfriend "tapping" me?!
Q. My boyfrined of two months has a habit of "tapping" me which is beginning to drive me nuts! He taps me when he puts his arm around me, when I wake in the morning for a cuddle, he taps me. I've tried to make a joke of it and ask him if he's sending ...
A. 22 March 2006: Tell him what you have told us here.
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The man I love is already attached. But he says he's just there for his kids...
Q. I am deeply in love with this man. I've been so for like 10 years. We've been very close this whole time. He tells me that he loves me just as much. The only problem is that he lives with his kids' mom. He says he doesn't love her at all; he's jus...
A. 22 March 2006: Of COURSE he is just there for the kids! That's what they ALL say.
Yes, custody does normally go to the parent who is more likely to rpovide a stable environment for the kids - that in this case would be his wife. After all, he has said wedd... (read in full...)
My husband's always off with his male friend, what should I do about this?
Q. Hi, I am a 32-year-old woman and my husband is 35. We've been married 8 years. Recently my husband has been off on trips with a male friend of his - who I've never met in person, or even spoken to on the phone. If he's not golfing in Manch...
A. 22 March 2006: Tell him you want to meet him and gauge his reaction.... (read in full...)
My husband's always off with his male friend, what should I do about this?
Q. Hi, I am a 32-year-old woman and my husband is 35. We've been married 8 years. Recently my husband has been off on trips with a male friend of his - who I've never met in person, or even spoken to on the phone. If he's not golfing in Manch...
A. 22 March 2006: Have you told your husband that you find this uncomfortable? How did you husband meet this guy?
My husband has a friend he knows thru work and I have never met him. Bt because he stays away regularly as part of his job and they are in the same... (read in full...)
Three days after we broke up, he called like nothing happened...
Q. When a guy breaks up with you and then calls 3 days later to ask how your weekend was, what does it mean? Is he just trying to stroke his ego or does he genuinely miss you? How should I play it from here on in to get him back?...
A. 20 March 2006: Sounds like he was concerned for you and that he wanted to reassure himself that you ahve taken the break ok. Would you really want this guy back, I mean after all he has just dumped you and he might just do it again on a whim in the future.
I... (read in full...)
Abused as a child, I get panic attacks and can't socialise properly. Now I'm afraid I'll be called a nut job for going to a psychologist!
Q. Hi there people I hope all those great agony aunts like d4uo4 can help!! Well, I am worried I'll lose everything that I have got. I'm 21 and I was abused as a child. And although years have passed I still find it really really hard to carry on...
A. 18 March 2006: OMG! You poor thing. What a dreadful experience you ahve had.
Look, there are some strangely narrow minded people out there who will judge you whatever you do. But if you need a referral to a trained professional who can help you through your... (read in full...)
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