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Student of Psychology, Degree in Nursing with wide variety of experience. Mother, daughter, sister, wife, ex, neice, grandaughter, student, boss, colleague....you get the picture.
Interested in impulse control disorders, like chocolate, cheese, Tintin, travelling, Pepsi max, Cracker, Tony Soprano, eddie Izzard, toilet humour, Family guy - shall I go on?
Adore my family and friends. Love to help others, abuse survivor, rape survivor, holder of family record for cherry pip spitting......
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We met 5 years ago and he says he still loves me.....but he's also married!!
Q. hi, its hard for me to forget what my boyfriend did to me. I fell in love with him 5 years ago, we met at work. he claims he loves me too. even though he is married, no kids. since he left for overseas, it has been difficult for me. on one hand he ...
A. 20 March 2006: Remember this tho. You gave him all you could but he wasn't yours to give to! Also, you only ever got a very poor 50% of him. He is married leave it alone move on. Find somebody free to love you back and who won't lie to you.x... (read in full...)
A one night stand wanted to keep in touch, but then told me about another woman! What's this??
Q. I met a guy back in mid November, I am in my mid 40's, he is 40. It was supposed to be a one night stand, that ended up being more... Shortly after Christmas I heard from him, vis a text message that he was in a real mess with huge problems, he ...
A. 9 March 2006: Sexybum wasnt mocking, sorry to continue this. She said she fancied my old picture and I had to change it cos it was a pic of a comedian Eddie Izzard and we really shouldn't have been spamming on here. So sorry... (read in full...)
A one night stand wanted to keep in touch, but then told me about another woman! What's this??
Q. I met a guy back in mid November, I am in my mid 40's, he is 40. It was supposed to be a one night stand, that ended up being more... Shortly after Christmas I heard from him, vis a text message that he was in a real mess with huge problems, he ...
A. 9 March 2006: New picture, same guy but this time with a girl and a pot noodle.......x... (read in full...)
A one night stand wanted to keep in touch, but then told me about another woman! What's this??
Q. I met a guy back in mid November, I am in my mid 40's, he is 40. It was supposed to be a one night stand, that ended up being more... Shortly after Christmas I heard from him, vis a text message that he was in a real mess with huge problems, he ...
A. 9 March 2006: Thats it I need a new picture...... :-)... (read in full...)
A one night stand wanted to keep in touch, but then told me about another woman! What's this??
Q. I met a guy back in mid November, I am in my mid 40's, he is 40. It was supposed to be a one night stand, that ended up being more... Shortly after Christmas I heard from him, vis a text message that he was in a real mess with huge problems, he ...
A. 8 March 2006: T'is alright, serves me right for being slightly obsessed with Eddie Izzard.....x... (read in full...)
A one night stand wanted to keep in touch, but then told me about another woman! What's this??
Q. I met a guy back in mid November, I am in my mid 40's, he is 40. It was supposed to be a one night stand, that ended up being more... Shortly after Christmas I heard from him, vis a text message that he was in a real mess with huge problems, he ...
A. 8 March 2006: Julia, I am a girl.....its just a picture of Eddie Izzard, not me on my little pic............ (read in full...)
My gf needed space, but I want to be with!
Q. "my girlfriend wants "space" and i have given it to her, but i just want to get us back together!" me and my girlfriend have been seeing each other for 2 year 8 months and she says she still loves me and wants to get married and have kids but sh...
A. 8 March 2006: Hi there
I am going to give you the same advice I gave Angelicc. You must give your GF space to breathe. This is what she has asked for and this is what she very obviously needs.
I know you are hurting, but I can give you another piece of advic... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my teacher! How do I attract him?
Q. I'm a 24 years old girl. I'm a political Science student. I've broken apart from my boy friend about 1 months ago. my real problem is that I'm in love with my master. I mean my teacher. he is about 50 years old, damn sexy and handsome. I'm in love ...
A. 8 March 2006: You really dont want to hear this but I am gonna say it anyway. This is a crush. You do not know this man from Adam except in the teacher/student way. He may be married with kids or even grandkids. He could even be gay.
You are attracted to his ... (read in full...)
My sex life is sooo boring-even a vibrator doesn't help! what can I do?
Q. our sex life is drying up, we have always been quite experimental with positions but we always do the same 5 or 6, am i just being too demanding? ive got a vibratior and we use that as an aid during sex but im still bored. please help!!!!!!!!!! x...
A. 8 March 2006: There is always somethjing that can be done differently in every aspect of our lives. You need to chillout a bit. Take it slow and just enjoy each sexcual encounter as it happens.... (read in full...)
We met 5 years ago and he says he still loves me.....but he's also married!!
Q. hi, its hard for me to forget what my boyfriend did to me. I fell in love with him 5 years ago, we met at work. he claims he loves me too. even though he is married, no kids. since he left for overseas, it has been difficult for me. on one hand he ...
A. 8 March 2006: This is classic *having your cake and eating it*. Dont go there, he is not yours to love. IF and that is a big IF, he was free you could go for it. But he is married to his wife and he choses not to divorce her to be with you. Can you not see ... (read in full...)
I ruined my body! So scared what my boyfriend will think...
Q. I ruined my body. I have been overwight all my life ever since I was a little girl and I lost 70 pounds by dieting and exercising, but now I'm left with saggy breasts and an awful looking stomach...my private area is even pronounced and looks ...
A. 8 March 2006: I wish I had the foresite to know at 17 my body was as perfect as it was ever gonna get, and compared to the airbrushed pics of madels in mags that wasnt that good.
But you know, it was my body and as such I was proud of it. It does things f... (read in full...)
First date sex after text?
Q. Should you sleep with a guy you really like on a first date after months of texting?...
A. 8 March 2006: Well if you like him and are gonna do it anyway, why do you care about other peoples opinions. just go ahead and do it.
The sensible opiton tho is to get to know somebody before you have sex with them in order to judge their character and to s... (read in full...)
Should you expect everything in a relationship to be perfect?
Q. I am trying desperately to work things out with my girlfriend. We broke up about a month ago but I really want to try again. Our relationship was not perfect for a couple of months before it ended, but it still had A LOT going for it. My q...
A. 8 March 2006: Nothing in life is perfect I am very sorry to say (except for me lol) After the honeymoon period has faded (and this can be weeks months or years) there will always be thos little niggles that irritate each other. If the niggles turn into ... (read in full...)
I wanted to go on a break, but now I'm worried he don't want a relationship with me
Q. okay i have to admit i'm highly dramatic for person. just yesterday i said to my boyfriend that maybe we should go on a break. i thought it was best because i think i try to be my own person again and he needs to figure out what he wants, how he ...
A. 8 March 2006: I understand a bit more now. If you feel your relationship is stifling you both then it is the sensible thing to do...standing back and viewing it from a distance for a while.
I hope it all works out for you both.x... (read in full...)
I got dumped by my boyfriend's friend and I want some answers!
Q. Hi,I am 12 and in the sixth grade and I was wondering if someone could help me out with this problem I have. You see my boyfriend of 5 months had his friend dump me this past Wednesday, but I just don't understand why. So I thought I w...
A. 8 March 2006: He had his friend dump you because he was to scared and immature to face you himself. This is pretty much par for the course in young teenagers and unfortunately sometimes doesnt improve as they get older.
You best bet is to just ignore it, let ... (read in full...)
I wanted to go on a break, but now I'm worried he don't want a relationship with me
Q. okay i have to admit i'm highly dramatic for person. just yesterday i said to my boyfriend that maybe we should go on a break. i thought it was best because i think i try to be my own person again and he needs to figure out what he wants, how he ...
A. 8 March 2006: Sorry, one more thing. I note in your reply you said you will be telling hm what you think. Bt I think you should really not be *telling* him anyhitng alse. I think you need to be *listening* to him. And hearing whta he needs. Communication is ... (read in full...)
I wanted to go on a break, but now I'm worried he don't want a relationship with me
Q. okay i have to admit i'm highly dramatic for person. just yesterday i said to my boyfriend that maybe we should go on a break. i thought it was best because i think i try to be my own person again and he needs to figure out what he wants, how he ...
A. 8 March 2006: Ther is something I want to point out in your letter which I find slightly disturbing and I want you to look at it and analyse what you mena by it..
*because lately my boyfriend has been reverting back to the person he use to be and it isnt good... (read in full...)
A one night stand wanted to keep in touch, but then told me about another woman! What's this??
Q. I met a guy back in mid November, I am in my mid 40's, he is 40. It was supposed to be a one night stand, that ended up being more... Shortly after Christmas I heard from him, vis a text message that he was in a real mess with huge problems, he ...
A. 8 March 2006: You didnt have an exclusive relationship and he had major problems. This guy was going thru a crisis and needed to deal with it as best he could and who are we to judge his means of coping with something like this? He brought up the other woman in ... (read in full...)
My guy has to get permission from Mum before he can see me. Is this a deal-breaker?
Q. I am 18 and have been dating a guy of 19 for seven months. I believe he is my one true love. His mother is possessive and controlling, and he has to ask her for permission to see me. She often says no. He lives around the corner and this is killing ...
A. 8 March 2006: If this guy truely wanted to be with you he would satnd up to his family. I am sorry but if you want this man so much you are going to have to ask him why he is choosing to go with his family. Because after all that is what he is doing. Choosing ... (read in full...)
My sex life is sooo boring-even a vibrator doesn't help! what can I do?
Q. our sex life is drying up, we have always been quite experimental with positions but we always do the same 5 or 6, am i just being too demanding? ive got a vibratior and we use that as an aid during sex but im still bored. please help!!!!!!!!!! x...
A. 8 March 2006: Some people just do not have sexual fantasies, and this is just the way they are! It doesnt mean they do not feel sexual, just they dont make up things to stimulate themselves. If he doesnt want to do this you cannot force him. To be truthful it ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and may be pregnant! What can I do?
Q. Hi my name is Jessica im 14 and i think i might be pregnant.but i dont know im too afraid to go to a clinic and get checked out so i know for sure.I am like 4-5 days late and i dont want to tell my mom because she might like hate me and stuff.I cant ...
A. 7 March 2006: Look you can get money together for a test. Or you can go to your GP and get tested there. Or you can sit back, bury your head in the sand and hey presto in 9 months you have a baby. Tell your Mum because she will find out eventually anyway and at ... (read in full...)
My ex contacted me, but says she doesn't love me?
Q. Hi my ex-girlfreind contacted me on the 17th Feb of this year after 8 years, that's when we split up and we went out. now everthing was going fine till last friday i took her out for a meal, later the same evening i received a text from her. "i ...
A. 7 March 2006: Sounds like she was just checking she had made the right decision in breaking up. Sometimes this happens, life is not always within our control.
We cannot control other peoples behaviour or their feelings, but we can control our reactions to them... (read in full...)
The man who loves me is married. He says he's never fallen for anyone else, not even his wife!
Q. I have fallen head over heels with a married man. I've known him for years, and always fancied him but never ever thought he would feel the same. Only a few weeks ago did he tell me that he loves me. He honestly said he didn't fall in love with his...
A. 7 March 2006: This guy just aint yours to love and you need to offer respect to his relationship with his wife and back off until he is free. IF or WHEN that happens.
The adulterer male or female always syas what they think the other person wants to hear. He i... (read in full...)
My Dad is divorced, has no sense of smell, and because of this, he well, smells... How best to deal with this?
Q. My Mum and dad split up after 39yrs marriage. I left home at 19 to join the forces and never had a good relationship with my Dad. I am now divorced with one child my Mum has now met someone. I feel very guilty if i am not in contact with my Dad for ...
A. 7 March 2006: Look you have to tell him and you have to do this soon befroe you and your daughter lose contact with him because of this problem....yes he gets angry, but can you imagine how the poor man would feel if he found out everyone was avoiding him because ... (read in full...)
He loves his son to much to leave his marriage for me. What should I do?
Q. Please give me some advice. I stupidly got involved into an affair 5 mths ago and have fallen deeply in love with this man. We were away on a course together and spent every night/day together for the whole 5 mnths. We get on so well and just ...
A. 7 March 2006: It still really suprises me how many women actually believe that old line *I'd leave her if it wasn't for my kids* come on!!
If it was all that bad at home they would leave regardless of the kids, the cat the dog whatever. This is a LINE. This... (read in full...)
I've fallin' for this guy......but he only wants sex!
Q. I am a seventeen year old girl and i have recently seen sense. When I was 15 i'd jump into bed with just about anybody and i was known as the class tramp. Fortunately, now i have started to respect myself and realised that affection is not gain...
A. 7 March 2006: Of course you want to be with him because he has made it clear he doesnt want a relationship with you!! We always want what we cannot have. At least he is being honest from the start and not pretending he wants a reltionship to get sex.
DO NOT ... (read in full...)
She has met someone else but still wants to stay in contact?!
Q. i have been in a relationship for 3 years and she as met someone else, but she want to stay in contact with me and she tells me no one as made her feel so wanted as i do and she also says no one as made her feel so loved as i do. please help me i ...
A. 7 March 2006: She is keeping you on a back burner in case this new relationship does not work out. Regardless of how much you love her don't be second best. Drop the contact allow your heart to heal and move on and find somebody worthy of your love.xx... (read in full...)
His cousin is getting in between our relationship with eachother!
Q. Cousins! Me and my boyfriend have a loving relationship.However, his female cousin is interferring,all the time.She has told me she loves him, and in her own words "If he wasnt my cousin,I'd 'rag' him senseless" Also told me "You've got comp...
A. 7 March 2006: This is your problam and you have to deal with it.
I would suggest a couple of ways of dealing with this. Way number one would involve your BF taking a stand also, so you will need to discuss it with him first. Next time you go out and she beha... (read in full...)
My parents don't like her because she is an actress!
Q. my parents are against my gf since shes an actress.she has taken on all kinds of roles including sexy and seductive roles and also has done sexy photo shoots.she appeared in a couple movies were she plays a hooker and in a love scene her top was ...
A. 7 March 2006: They do seem to be judging her for the parts she has played, but are all the parts requiring sexual or seductive behaviour, are you sure she is not actually a soft porn actress? Because you have to remeber your parents are form a different ... (read in full...)
In love with my husband's friend... Was this "gaze" a sign?
Q. I'm married and I'm in love with my husband's friend. Last time I saw him I just couldn't take my eyes off him till he looked at me and we made a very strong, long eye contact. I had never looked into someone's eyes like that before. The gaze was ...
A. 7 March 2006: A person with a concience, aint many of those on here. (lol)
Look, chance are yes this guy has some feelings for you and has held them in check whilst you have been with your husband. \it certainly sounds that way from what you have said. It may ... (read in full...)
I think he spiked my drink and now I'm pregnant!
Q. I am 16 and I started going out with boys when I was 14. Up to about 3 months ago I was a virgin although I did not mind boys doing anything else to me, I would not let them go all the way. Anyway, last December I went out with a new boy to a dis...
A. 7 March 2006: God bothers united. You can prove anything you want by quoting the bible, and I mean ANUTHING. Guilt is not what she came for she came for advice.... (read in full...)
I don't think that I'm gay, but what just happened with my friend?
Q. Hi there, I'm a 21 year old single girl and was out with a couple of mates last night on the pull. Two of my friends left early so I ended up ging clubbing with my pal Leanne. We got back to hers at 3ish as I was crashing there. She got a doub...
A. 6 March 2006: It's called alcohol. It makes you lose your inhibitions.
Dont fall out with your friend over this, if you dont want it to happen again then tell her it was fun but no more. This is nothing to be embarrassed about....stuff happens.x... (read in full...)
I think my husband lied about knowing this other woman for six years. I think he was just chatting her up!
Q. Tonight I just got back from a night out with my husband. He was eyeing up this girl who was eyeing up him back right in front of me, so engrossed with each other they didn’t even notice me storm off. When I moved back closer I saw him holder her ...
A. 6 March 2006: Whoa, why did you to get together in the first place and is this the only time this has happened?
Where you all completely straight at this time or where some of you on psychoactive drugs (alcohol, coke e's etc) as they can distort you perc... (read in full...)
He's really popular and I am not but I love him and want him to love me!!
Q. I love this guy at school, I don't know if he likes me, but i really want him to! His grandparents live next door to me, so I see him alot. I really want him to ask me out,and now I have been thinking of asking him, but I don't know if he will say ...
A. 6 March 2006: You will never know unless you take a chnace and ask him, if he says yes you will have gained something that you could only admire form afar. But if he says no at least you will know were you stand and can work on getting over your crush on him.
B... (read in full...)
My gf decided she 'couldn't be responsible for my happiness' now we are apart and I am gutted. What can I do??
Q. After my girlfriends mother passed away after a long illness my girlfriend starting pulling away from me and shutting me out. She said that she couldn't be responsible for my feelings\happiness and preferred to hang out with her friends as she didnt ...
A. 6 March 2006: Your ex GF obviously felt unable to give you what you wanted or needed from the relationship whilst she was grieving for her mother. She felt under pressure and it looks like she just didnt want to have to be responsible for somebody else at a time ... (read in full...)
He's 28 and can't get a hardon. Could it be the drugs? Any suggestions?
Q. iv been seeing a lad from work since xmas 2005 and its going really well apart from in the bedroom,we are both 28, i dont think im his usual type but i no he`s liked me for ages and iv liked him a while too.Anyway he cant get a hard on no matter ...
A. 6 March 2006: This could be because of a number of factor..
PRESSURE to perform ,he feels he is letting you don.
DRUGS, some drug can cause problems with libido or blood flow to the penis(antidepressants)or they can cause an inability to orgasm.
ALCOHOL, ... (read in full...)
Me and my best friends bf made love and now i'm pregnant with his kid!!
Q. I have gotten myself in to an awful mess. I didnt have a boyfriend so my best friend and her partner took me to a party. I didnt meet anyone there and my friend got so drunk we had to take her home and I helped him to put her to bed. Afterw...
A. 6 March 2006: You and him are such a nice couple. You in particular, you told her in revenge....why what exactly had SHE done to ou other than be your friend.
This is YOUR problem and you need to sort it out. He has made it more than obvious you were just a *r... (read in full...)
What should I do... Ex-wife, 26, is hooking up with a guy, 38, and making a BIG mistake!
Q. me and my wife have separated twice now and because of my verbal anger problem as well as the first time we separated i got involved with a women witch was the icing on the cake for us spliting that time.at the time i was 28 the other women was ...
A. 6 March 2006: Exactly what does this have to do with you?
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I got on my high horse and hurt him!
Q. I am feeling terribly low about myself. My fiancé broke up with me because I said something nasty about his mother. The truth is, I saw his family as scheming, conniving hypocrites. His mother would say nice things about me before other people and ...
A. 6 March 2006: Put all your hopes fears and love in a letter and send it by snail mail. send it to an address that u know his mother cannot get to it from. Let him read it without pressure. If he gets back to you you can move on. If he doesnt you need to ... (read in full...)
Will he leave his girlfriend and child?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have met a guy and we have really hit it off, the problem is that he has a girlfriend and a young child to her. Up until she fell pregnant he was planning on calling things off but now cannot stand to be away from his child. He has n...
A. 6 March 2006: What a lovely pair you two must make together. He is tringing you along love, and even if you do end up in a mutually exclusive relationship you will always have the worry every time he sees his ex and the child about what he will do. Will she ... (read in full...)
He doesn't give me oral so should I for him?
Q. I always go down on my partner cos he likes it and enjoys it (i dont). I dont let him cum in my mouth tho because i dont like it. When i ask him to go down on me he wont he makes excuses. Am i right to give to him even tho he dont do the same for ...
A. 6 March 2006: Stop doing it until he reciprocates.
Simple.... (read in full...)
She keeps me away from her ex who she sees every weekend...
Q. My girlfriend is still good friends with her ex. They suffered a miscarriage when they were together, which is obviously terrible, and it is something they can only talk to each other about, as I (for one) don't know how she felt, or what sh...
A. 6 March 2006: Sexybum (great name) has hit the nail on the head. Why should she keep her past and present seperate if she keeps going back to her past in the form of this old BF. Yes a miscarriage is a dreadful thing to go thru but if she needs counselling then ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to want him to leave the workplace where he had his 5-month affair?
Q. My husband confessed to a 5 month affair with a much younger woman. I am trying so hard to forgive and forget but I cannot get it out of my head that he betrayed and lied so much to me. He has been off work on sick leave now for 3 months, since ...
A. 6 March 2006: Honey, you have done NOTHING at all to feel ashamed about. He has betrayed you not the other way round. Hold your head high.x... (read in full...)
I have to referee disagreements between my wife, my mother and my sister!
Q. I got married 3 yrs ago and since then, the relationship between my wife and my family has become pretty horrible. I come from a small, intimate family (1 mother, 1 sister, father passed away). When I first got married there was some jealousy...
A. 6 March 2006: I am in the unfortunate position your poor wife is in. His Mum and sister ganged up on me, to the extent of asking him everytime they wanted to see our son. They totally ignored anything I told them concerning our son, they tried to manufacture ... (read in full...)
I want to get married...
Q. I've been with my partner for almost 7 years, im 25 and he is 35. Ive got to apoint where i want to get married but my partner will not ask or discuss it, what should i do. ...
A. 6 March 2006: Sit him down and ask him for HIS opinion and exactly were he sees this relationship going. If he is happy to let the relationship bimble along without a goal and this is no good for you then you have a serious decision on your hands.
Above all find... (read in full...)
I had a negative experience with sex and I'm not ready for that this soon. What do I say to guys I'm dating?
Q. About a year ago I was a dating a man who I thought I really trusted until one night he forced me into sleeping with him. It was a horrific experience but I now feel that it's been a year and that it's time for me to move on. I want to start da...
A. 6 March 2006: Be honest. Tell them on the 3rd or 4th date you are not interested in having sex yet until you get to know them better as you have had a bad experience in the past.....a good guy will respect your honesty and wishes, stick around and get to know ... (read in full...)
My fantasies make me think I'm bi-curious. What should I do?
Q. How come that whenever my man is peforming oral sex on me I fantasize about women? I can only ever achieve an orgasm at the thought of having sex with woman. I don't think I'm gay, but I'm very bi-curious. What should I do?...
A. 6 March 2006: This is a fantasy. I fantasize about being *taken* roughly and against my will. But I would NOT want to be raped.
Its in your head and it helps you orgasm then just lie back and go with the flow...x... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to want him to leave the workplace where he had his 5-month affair?
Q. My husband confessed to a 5 month affair with a much younger woman. I am trying so hard to forgive and forget but I cannot get it out of my head that he betrayed and lied so much to me. He has been off work on sick leave now for 3 months, since ...
A. 6 March 2006: No you are not being unreasonable. You are fighting to save your marriage and you must use every trick in the book honey.
xx... (read in full...)
In love with my husband's friend... Was this "gaze" a sign?
Q. I'm married and I'm in love with my husband's friend. Last time I saw him I just couldn't take my eyes off him till he looked at me and we made a very strong, long eye contact. I had never looked into someone's eyes like that before. The gaze was ...
A. 6 March 2006: Oh my God, you are married. Do your husband the courtesey of divorcing him before you start making *whoopie* with one of his friends.
Get a grip woman!!!!!... (read in full...)
I think he spiked my drink and now I'm pregnant!
Q. I am 16 and I started going out with boys when I was 14. Up to about 3 months ago I was a virgin although I did not mind boys doing anything else to me, I would not let them go all the way. Anyway, last December I went out with a new boy to a dis...
A. 6 March 2006: You didnt get spiked, you messed with alcohol and this unfortunately is what happens.
You need to confide insomeone who can help you as you probably only have a short time frame in which to react now if you wish to terminate the pregnancy.
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