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writes: My husband and I were separated because I cheated on him but now we're back together. My life is a living hell, he has talked to other people and we have no trust in each other. We have 2 children and I don't want to hurt them, but I don't know how much longer I can take his rages. What should I do? I cheated because of the lack of love that was demonstrated, and he came to me for us to get back together.
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (27 January 2006):
 He obviously loves you but still has unresocled issues about what happened in the past. If your husbands rages make you feel unsfae/in any sort of danger you must leave and protect yourself and your children from physical harm
You obviously have deeper issues as well. For you too cheat there must have been much unhappiness and disatisfaction in your relationship in the first place. I suggest you look inwards and decide if you truly want to ressurrect this relationship. If you do then you need to discuss the possibilty of relationship/marriage counselling with your husband. If he is unwilling to accept you need outside help to break the cycle you are both locked in I think you need to protect yourself and your kids and leave.
If he does accept the need for outside help then I wish you both all the luck in the world in getting your relationship back on its feet.
Take Care x
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (27 January 2006):
 It is so hard when the trust has been broken in a relationship, while you both have the best of intentions as far as working it out it can be difficult, if not impossible, to do it on your own. I would suggest marriage counseling if you are both serious about wanting to be together. In counseling they can teach you ways to get over the pain and guilt you are both feeling, as well as ways to avoid getting back to this place in your marriage. Good luck.
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