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Student of Psychology, Degree in Nursing with wide variety of experience. Mother, daughter, sister, wife, ex, neice, grandaughter, student, boss, colleague....you get the picture.
Interested in impulse control disorders, like chocolate, cheese, Tintin, travelling, Pepsi max, Cracker, Tony Soprano, eddie Izzard, toilet humour, Family guy - shall I go on?
Adore my family and friends. Love to help others, abuse survivor, rape survivor, holder of family record for cherry pip spitting......
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His ex won't leave us alone...what can we do?
Q. My other-halfs ex cannot get over the breakup and we dont know what to do! Its more complicated as they have a baby who is now 4months old. They broke up before the baby was born. The ex cannot accept that they are no longer together. After ...
A. 10 February 2006: she wont be able to see her behaviour is so awful precisely because this woman is diturbed.
I feel that the child is the most important thing here. If your partner really wants to see it then you need for him to move out in the short tima to be a... (read in full...)
We're in our 30's. Feel sick that he dated a 16 year old when in his late 20's... !
Q. I'm in my 30's as is my boyfriend. I just found out he started seeing his last girlfriend when she was 16 (she'll be 18 now). He had previously told me she was 19 when they met. Really freaked out by this... feel that 16 is just a child. Should...
A. 10 February 2006: Whilst I can understand you feeling ill about all this but if you really love him and want to be with him you need to accept that this is in the past.
It probably wasn't the wisest thing your fella has ever done, and the fact he fibbed about her ... (read in full...)
Should I fight for him or let him go do his single thing?
Q. I have met the most beautiful guy- but I don't know whether to fight for him or let him go!! I am a 23 year old chick who has been single for maybe 2 years!!! (I don't go out with people unless I really like them). last Christmas I met a really ...
A. 10 February 2006: I wish you look and hope you didnt take offence at my question.x... (read in full...)
In love with my cousin's husband! They've recently moved to where I live and now I can't avoid seeing him!
Q. Hi, Need some aadvice. Have been in love with a married man for almost 16 years. Problem is he is married and so am I. He knows I love him, as I went and told him. He has admitted to me that he likes me too. He is married to my cousin and they ...
A. 9 February 2006: Move away and leave this poor woman and her family alone! He is out of bounds and you should respect that. How much of a betrayal do you think it would be if you and him got together?
After all he got another woman pregnant in another country as w... (read in full...)
Any way I can tell if the married man I'm dating will leave his wife, kids, for me?
Q. Why did i have to start dating a married man! It's been almost a year now, he's in his late 30s and says that, even though he loves me, he won't leave his wife because they have been together since she was 16 and they have children together and so ...
A. 9 February 2006: Just because he is with you doesn't mean he is unhappy with his wife. I am sorry to disallusion you but he is doing something called *having his cake AND eating it*.
He will Not leave his wife for you. You are just a convinient bit of fluff who ... (read in full...)
Any way I can tell if the married man I'm dating will leave his wife, kids, for me?
Q. Why did i have to start dating a married man! It's been almost a year now, he's in his late 30s and says that, even though he loves me, he won't leave his wife because they have been together since she was 16 and they have children together and so ...
A. 9 February 2006: Just because he is with you doesn't mean he is unhappy with his wife. I am sorry to disallusion you but he is doing something called *having his cake AND eating it*.
He will Not leave his wife for you. You are just a convinient bit of fluff who ... (read in full...)
Should I fight for him or let him go do his single thing?
Q. I have met the most beautiful guy- but I don't know whether to fight for him or let him go!! I am a 23 year old chick who has been single for maybe 2 years!!! (I don't go out with people unless I really like them). last Christmas I met a really ...
A. 9 February 2006: can I ask a question? It might make you cross, but do you think you are really onto this guy, possibly because you cannot have him?
Good luck xxx... (read in full...)
Should I fight for him or let him go do his single thing?
Q. I have met the most beautiful guy- but I don't know whether to fight for him or let him go!! I am a 23 year old chick who has been single for maybe 2 years!!! (I don't go out with people unless I really like them). last Christmas I met a really ...
A. 9 February 2006: can I ask a question? It might make you cross, but do you think you are really onto this guy, possibly because you cannot have him?
Good luck xxx... (read in full...)
His ex won't leave us alone...what can we do?
Q. My other-halfs ex cannot get over the breakup and we dont know what to do! Its more complicated as they have a baby who is now 4months old. They broke up before the baby was born. The ex cannot accept that they are no longer together. After ...
A. 9 February 2006: You need to start reporting this to the police so if it escalates they can build a case against her. if you OH wants to see his child he needs to set the wheels in motion now so if it goes thru leagl channels the child is not too old before he ... (read in full...)
My wife stops me from seeing my family and friends. Should I leave her?
Q. I have been married for 5 years now, with my wife who I have known for 6 Years. Throughout this time, we have had more ups and downs than a roller coaster. My wife is constantly stopping me from seeing friends and family. It started out fine but ...
A. 9 February 2006: Sweetheart you sound as if you are a teenage boy kicking back against an overly harsh mother. You are a married adult man with needs and wants and quite frankly this woman you swore to love when you took your vows when you married is treating you ... (read in full...)
I'm involved with his parents as well as him...
Q. My partner and i have a brilliant relationship except for his parents. They ring us every morning and expect him to call out to their house in the evening doing stuff. Even on his day off he still has to do things for them. Getting too much cause we ...
A. 8 February 2006: Are his parents in total control of every aspect of his life? Why does he feel such a need to obey every order they give out? I think either they must have some serious money and he is afraid of being cut out the will or he actually enjoys it!
T... (read in full...)
I'm involved with his parents as well as him...
Q. My partner and i have a brilliant relationship except for his parents. They ring us every morning and expect him to call out to their house in the evening doing stuff. Even on his day off he still has to do things for them. Getting too much cause we ...
A. 8 February 2006: Are his parents in total control of every aspect of his life? Why does he feel such a need to obey every order they give out? I think either they must have some serious money and he is afraid of being cut out the will or he actually enjoys it!
T... (read in full...)
He padded up twice, just to be safe... Now we're worried it was LESS safe: Help!
Q. I had sex with my boy friend, we used two condoms. We came to know that using two condoms at the same time will increase the friction upon the condoms, and greatly increase their chance of breaking. We didn't notice any rupture of the condom. Wha...
A. 7 February 2006: Chances are if there was no tear or rupture in the condon this time you have gotten away with it. But odn't do it again! Get another barrier method if you do not want to use chemical methods such as the pill. Try cap or spermicide alongside the ... (read in full...)
Even though I have a great boyfriend, I find myself talking to the guy who raped me! Why?
Q. I was raped a couple years ago, and I never pressed charges. I have a boyfriend now who is very supportive. However, the guy who did it still talks to me all the time. And I find myself talking back and wanting to talk to him, but I can't figure out ...
A. 7 February 2006: Well if you don't want to rpess charges that is your decision, make sure you are not going to regret it. By that I mean, make the decision for YOU and nobody else.
Next find someone you acn confide in who will just listen. You sound like you have... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you ever be interested in a girl three years older than you?
Q. Can a 26yr old woman seriously, in good conscience, flirt with a 23yr old grad school classmate? Or is that just creepy? He is so cute, but so young; I feel a twinge of guilt when I catch myself flirting with him. And I can't tell whether he's ...
A. 7 February 2006: My hubby is 5 years younger than me, I was 28 when we met and him 23. We are still together 8 years later, so yes your age difference is tiny!
Go for it!
Good luck x... (read in full...)
LAdies-give me some creative, different ideas on Valentine's gifts for my gf.
Q. Bit of a different question now... Hi to all! Im sure you all know its valentines day next week. Im 19 and so is my girlfriend. We have been going out for exactly a month today. I'll be honest and say that i've never had to do anythin...
A. 6 February 2006: Romance doesn't men having to spend money. Take her for a romantic walk somewher (don't know were you live, so can't advise were,sorry!). My hubby took me for a picnic!!!on the beach in the car with hot chocolate and chocolates when we had our ... (read in full...)
What do you think is the definition of Love?
Q. I was told this, do you believe this is love or the starting point of it. “mmmm I don’t know what the definition of love is, but it's a feeling that you get for someone. Sometimes you don’t really notice it is there. Like when the person you l...
A. 6 February 2006: wow fairy angel that is lovely!
:-)... (read in full...)
The average size??
Q. Hey, i am 15 and am curious to know if a 6.5" penis is below average?.....any answers?...
A. 6 February 2006: This is a large average. Stop worrying, you will egt to use it one day! x... (read in full...)
Even though I have a great boyfriend, I find myself talking to the guy who raped me! Why?
Q. I was raped a couple years ago, and I never pressed charges. I have a boyfriend now who is very supportive. However, the guy who did it still talks to me all the time. And I find myself talking back and wanting to talk to him, but I can't figure out ...
A. 6 February 2006: hi again.
Rape does not always have to have taken place in any sort of time span for there to be a successful prosecution. I would seriously think about pressing charges.
I think that you are almost doubting yourself that this actually took pla... (read in full...)
Even though I have a great boyfriend, I find myself talking to the guy who raped me! Why?
Q. I was raped a couple years ago, and I never pressed charges. I have a boyfriend now who is very supportive. However, the guy who did it still talks to me all the time. And I find myself talking back and wanting to talk to him, but I can't figure out ...
A. 5 February 2006: IN what circumstances does this guy see you in order for you to talk to him? Do you see him in a social setting, and does he seek you out?
I can identify with your *need* to talk to this guy, for reasons I would rather not go into here. I thin... (read in full...)
My Dad reckons that guys only go for girls with big boobs no matter how pretty... Is it true?!
Q. ok, I'm 15 and I am just wondering, what is it that attracts most guys to a girl in the first place? I know the whole thing about how everyone likes something different etc etc, but my stepdad says 90% of teen guys want someone with big boobs no ...
A. 5 February 2006: Don't let this moron give you a complex. His opinions are not based on fact! Guys like different looks in different girls, take a look at all the many shapes and sizes some of our popular icons are! They don't all look like pammy or jordan do ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 dating a 24 year old man... Is this cool?
Q. Im 13 and starting to get on "WELL" with a 24 year old. Im 13 and had met this 24 year old guy and we have a hell of a lot in common. We feel strongly for each other. And we have kinda been steady for while. Im a extremly mature 13 year old,and i am ...
A. 5 February 2006: Male anon, don't impose your narrow minded beliefs on here. How sad in this day and age you feel the need to call an under age girl a tart or slag go away and grow up.
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She's my best friend but she can be so unreasonable and unreliable
Q. My best friend is really unreliable. She's told me loads of lies, made up a boyfriend, and said she'd snogged him, but she's never snogged anyone. When we had a new girl, my best friend totally ditched me for her. Then the new girl left and my best ...
A. 5 February 2006: This is such a toxic realtionship, it is bringing you down. She uses you when there is nobody else better who is more interesting. Unfortunately her lack of layalty will probably follow her thru her life and she will come to regret how she treats ... (read in full...)
She's my best friend but she can be so unreasonable and unreliable
Q. My best friend is really unreliable. She's told me loads of lies, made up a boyfriend, and said she'd snogged him, but she's never snogged anyone. When we had a new girl, my best friend totally ditched me for her. Then the new girl left and my best ...
A. 5 February 2006: This is such a txic realtionship, it is bringing you down. She uses you when there is nobody else better who is more interesting. Unfortunately her lack of layalty will probably follow her thru her life and she will come to regret how she treats ... (read in full...)
What do you think is the definition of Love?
Q. I was told this, do you believe this is love or the starting point of it. “mmmm I don’t know what the definition of love is, but it's a feeling that you get for someone. Sometimes you don’t really notice it is there. Like when the person you l...
A. 5 February 2006: I cannot fully define love except for the overwhelming *bursting feeling I get in my heart when I look at my child. Or that snuggly feeling of being safe when I am curled up on the sofa with my hubby.
It's a hard one this.....x... (read in full...)
I think my husband is seeing her behind my back, even though he says he's not!
Q. Hi, I have been married for 12 long years and been with this man that I love with all of my heart for a total of 15 years all together. He began talking to a 22 year old girl that happens to be married and has a kid, that lives right across from ...
A. 5 February 2006: Who gave you this information? Why has this friendship developed? And how do you think your husband would deal with an ultimatum *her or me*?
This freindship is slightly odd, after all he is old enough to be her Dad to all intents and purp... (read in full...)
Really clicked with the girl, and her family have met and like me. Should I tell them I'm 9 years older than her?
Q. I could really do with some people's opinions. Before Christmas I met a 17 year old girl and we clicked straightaway. We have loads in common, and have hardly been apart since. I have met most of her friends and seem to get on really well with...
A. 5 February 2006: I had the same sort of problem as mystify. I went out with a guy who had his 20th birthday for 4 years running while I turned 16 17 18 19. My parents say now that they knew but at the time they never let on. It really was up to me I thought to ... (read in full...)
We think it's time to meet, and want to be together. Why won't my parents let him stay with us?
Q. Imagine I am your 18 year old daughter... I have been chatting to online/dating a 48 year old for 34 months, and we want to meet for the first time. We both love each other (we really do!) but dating over the internet is too hard for us, and we n...
A. 3 February 2006: Well this is really a problem then is it. It is only a potential problem and as such a load of bullfeathers........ (read in full...)
We think it's time to meet, and want to be together. Why won't my parents let him stay with us?
Q. Imagine I am your 18 year old daughter... I have been chatting to online/dating a 48 year old for 34 months, and we want to meet for the first time. We both love each other (we really do!) but dating over the internet is too hard for us, and we n...
A. 3 February 2006: I am sure there is a name for people like you who get off on making stuff up because their lives are so boring. Are you 16 or 18? Do you want to murder your ex's partner and kids or don't you? Do you even exsist or are you a silly little girl ... (read in full...)
I don't love my wife any more and now I'm interested in someone else...
Q. I am a married man of the age of 21, been married for about 2 years and have never cheated on my wife, or done anything ridculous. I haven't loved my wife for so long and just am fed up with her but I feel like I'm falling for someone else I have ...
A. 3 February 2006: Dont be cruel to your wife, just tell her before children come into the equation.x... (read in full...)
What are the signs that a guy wants to break up with you?
Q. What are some signs that a guy wants to break up with you? (What if he is scared to?) ...
A. 3 February 2006: Some guys (and girls for that matter) will try to pick fights over trivial stuff, storm out and stay away. Not returning calls, being unavailable, to busy to see you all the time. Not wanting sex with you. Having no future in the ... (read in full...)
How do I stop premature ejaculation and last longer?
Q. how to stop premature ejaculation,and last longer??? ...
A. 3 February 2006: Practice makes perfect hun. keep practicing.x... (read in full...)
We think it's time to meet, and want to be together. Why won't my parents let him stay with us?
Q. Imagine I am your 18 year old daughter... I have been chatting to online/dating a 48 year old for 34 months, and we want to meet for the first time. We both love each other (we really do!) but dating over the internet is too hard for us, and we n...
A. 3 February 2006: Thank you anon, it would appear that this person is a bit of a fantasist and takes offence when caught out.... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 3 February 2006: Maybe the individual concerned doesn't want to use there other half as the *woman of their dreams and maybe, just maybe they want to get off on porn. And just MAYBE the poster of the question WAS over-reacting. And maybe taking what another person ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't she take the hint that I want to break up?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for a year now but I've wanted to break up with her for months. She's very possessive and I feel she's smothering me. I have no time for myself, my family, my friends or school. All I ever do is spend time with her and ...
A. 3 February 2006: Tell her [plain and simple] I WANT TO BREAK UP WITH YOU.
There she has got the message and you acn both move on.... (read in full...)
He dating his ex and she's pregnant with his baby, but he wants to be with me too. What should I do?
Q. i met a lad, my brothers mate when i recently went away to visit my family.We went out and we kissed but nothing else. When i returned home we kept in contact and he was saying that he really like me. I am now moving up to this place ( bearing in ...
A. 3 February 2006: Stay away from this toxic guy until he is free and single. You shouldn't be responsible for helping break up a family unit.
Look at how he is treating the pregnancy and back off until the dust has settled.... (read in full...)
My home pregnancy tests come back negative, but I have all these symptoms...
Q. Hiya, I really need some help. Lately my stomach has gotten bigger and bigger. I kept getting headaches of an evening and constant backache (I have never had either of these before). I need to go to the bathroom like all the time, I feel nauseous ...
A. 3 February 2006: If you are pregnant the tests should pick up levels of hcg hormone in the blood. It is only in rare cases that it does not. Chances are you need to take a urine specimen to you GP and see if you are pregnant there to put you mind at rest. Or you ... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 3 February 2006: No instead of just GIVING your opinion on the readers problem, you took somebody elses opinion and BELITTLED it. Give your opinion by all means but do not take somebody elses advice and deliberately trash it. I ahve noticed that that is a common ... (read in full...)
We think it's time to meet, and want to be together. Why won't my parents let him stay with us?
Q. Imagine I am your 18 year old daughter... I have been chatting to online/dating a 48 year old for 34 months, and we want to meet for the first time. We both love each other (we really do!) but dating over the internet is too hard for us, and we n...
A. 3 February 2006: Yes you do need help but not of the type you will get on here.
You have sick fantasies about murders and dismemberment and you have busted up a family and you ask for help....go see a psychoanalyst and get some medication.... (read in full...)
A former friend of the family is now my ex-husband's partner and I'm still hurt...
Q. Why does my ex partner not want me to move on with life? He left me and 2 kids for a new partner. Kids refuse to have anything to do with dad's new partner because she used to be a friend of the family. They are happy to see their dad every day, ...
A. 2 February 2006: He is an evil SOB and quite frankly you are well rid of him.
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Why won't my boyfriend distance himself from his ex?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a problem with my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend. They split up 2 years ago, and he and I have been dating for 2 years (and living together). The problem is that it really bothers me that she is still in the picture (after she dumped h...
A. 2 February 2006: You have said it yourself *it would make me seem childish*
Well there you have it. Grow up and get over it you will do what you dread and drive your man away if you acrry on with this dreadful paranoia.
OH MY GOD!... (read in full...)
We think it's time to meet, and want to be together. Why won't my parents let him stay with us?
Q. Imagine I am your 18 year old daughter... I have been chatting to online/dating a 48 year old for 34 months, and we want to meet for the first time. We both love each other (we really do!) but dating over the internet is too hard for us, and we n...
A. 2 February 2006: fool, think you need to try harder than that... (read in full...)
We think it's time to meet, and want to be together. Why won't my parents let him stay with us?
Q. Imagine I am your 18 year old daughter... I have been chatting to online/dating a 48 year old for 34 months, and we want to meet for the first time. We both love each other (we really do!) but dating over the internet is too hard for us, and we n...
A. 2 February 2006: Hang on, you are the individual who ahd wild fantasies about *murdering and dismembering* your new partners ex and their kids. MMMMMMM......so which one is it?... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: You are absolutely right. Irony just doesn't work unless you acn here the tone of voice behind it. You are very anti porn and seem to hate all porn, but I have no real feeling either way to tell you the truth.
I made a comment about changing when... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: whatever was directed at you mystify.....
I didnt attack you personally, go back and read my very first letter to the person asking the question. Yes I asked several questions, but quite frankly you DO have issues that you need to sort out. I DIDN... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: whatever... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: And I am a crap typist x... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: You have your right to your opinion mystify. I have my right to mine. Not that you know what my opinion is anyway - you just presume you do from what I have replied. Anyhow, since you ahve got prsonal FYI I do not have any opinions on porn at all ... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 2 February 2006: This is about helping the individual with their problems, not about having a go at tohers who may have a different point of you to yourself. If we all thought the same way then there would be no need for these sorts of problem pages would there now ... (read in full...)
I hate my husband's porn habit!
Q. I am married for almost 2 years and I can't accept my husband's porn habit...True, that he never hides it from me or ain't really ADDICTED as many say. But still, everytime I find out, I get weird emotional feelings and everything. Am I ...
A. 30 January 2006: No you are not overreacting if this offends you. But can I ask did you know about his use of porn before you married? If he did use it then what made you think he would give it up afterwards? I am not trying to be deliberately contraversial but I ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 dating a 24 year old man... Is this cool?
Q. Im 13 and starting to get on "WELL" with a 24 year old. Im 13 and had met this 24 year old guy and we have a hell of a lot in common. We feel strongly for each other. And we have kinda been steady for while. Im a extremly mature 13 year old,and i am ...
A. 29 January 2006: Good on you both for making a sensible decision and I admire you for your maturity. I hope you both get what you need from your friendship. I wish you both all the luck in the world.xxx... (read in full...)
I'm 13 dating a 24 year old man... Is this cool?
Q. Im 13 and starting to get on "WELL" with a 24 year old. Im 13 and had met this 24 year old guy and we have a hell of a lot in common. We feel strongly for each other. And we have kinda been steady for while. Im a extremly mature 13 year old,and i am ...
A. 24 January 2006: No is the word you need. No this "relationship" is Not Cool in any way.
First, just 'cos he is older does not mean he is automatically going to rape you....but it does mean he will expect a lot more from you that emotionally and physically you ... (read in full...)
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