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writes: Hi, ive been going out with my boyfriend for approx. one and half years now. our relationship is very good apart from the sex bit. Hes in his late 40s, Im 40. He enjoys what i do to him but Im tired of initiating it all the time. he doesnt seem to have much desire or interest in sex. And the other problem is I dont enjoy what he does to me much. I have tried unsucessfully for the past 5 months to improve our lovemaking. Nothing works. He says he loves me and promises me he will try, but doesnt. We are otherwise intimate eg. cuddles, holding hands, light kisses etc. Is this enough? Do you think our relationship can survive without the sex bit? Help appreciated. Reply to this Question
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (25 January 2006):
 Sex isn't everything and were would you be if you had good sex but everything else was crap. If it is only the sex that needs working on and everything else is good have you thought about seeing a professional psycho-therapist who may be able to help you.
If it then doesn't improve you have big time decisions to make.
Good luck x
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reader, shania +, writes (21 January 2006):
 It wont survive if the sex is bad,you obviously find it important to you and if one partner wants it more then the other....thats when the trouble begins.I suggest you speak to him again and say what you want from your sex life because after all,it is about give and take.If it still goes in one ear and out the other,then really its down to you whether you will be able to put up with it or not.You will know if he is making the effort....i think life is far too short for crappy sex....dont you?
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reader, jolene +, writes (21 January 2006):
 that is enough , only if it is enough for you too! if not, read up on ways too spice it up, if it still dosent change then talk to him.
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